Okanye Bangaba Ngabafundi Abakhulu
Abantwana abaninzi abakhulela ezindlini ezinxilisayo bahlala bexanduva lokunyaniseka. Ngenxa yokuba babhekene nobudlova, ngamanye amaxesha abangenangqiqo, ukugxekwa ngumzali wabo onxila, abaninzi abantwana abanxilisayo bazama "ukugqibelela" ukuphepha naluphi na ukugxeka. Esi si "sombululo" soxanduva lokuxhamla umthwalo singashukunyiswa ngamanye ama-dynamics kwintsapho yoxwala.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, xa iinzame zabo zokuphelelisa ngokwemvelo ziba mfutshane, abantwana abathile abadala basezidakamizwa bayeke baze bahambe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, bebe bengenakuxanduva.
Ezi zinto eziqhelekileyo azikwazi nje kuphela kubantwana benxila, ziba ngumphumo kubantwana abajongene nezinye iingxaki xa bekhula.
Amagqabaza alandelayo malunga nokuba ngabaxanduva kakhulu abathunyelwe ngabafundi be-.com Alcoholism site xa babuzwa umbuzo othi, " Uziva njani Ukukhula Ngomzali onxilisayo? "
Ndihlala ndifumana uxanduva
Ndiyazigweba ngenxa yento yonke kwaye ndihlala ndijongene neengxaki ezingezona zam. Ndibeka kakhulu ubudlelwane obungafanelekanga kwaye ndizama ukugcina ulonwabo ngokuqinisekisa ukuba ndinokubangela ukuba abo badibeneyo bavuya. -- Shumi elinethoba
I-Perfectionist ePhakamileyo
Ndingumgqibelelo, ndikhuphisana kakhulu kwaye ndandisoloko ndandisa. Ndivakalelwa kukuba andiyonto efanelekileyo kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ndibe ngowona nto. Ndihlala ndifuna imvume. - UkuFunda
Yonke-Okanye-Akukho Nengqondo
Andizange ndiyazi ukuba zininzi iinkalo zobomi bam ezichaphazelekayo ngokukhutshwa ngabazali abaxhomekeke kwiziyobisi. Ukuzithemba okuphantsi, izakhono zokuxhatshaza, umsindo, "isidingo sokukholisa" wonke umntu ukuze angagungqi isiqhekeza. Isimo sengqondo-okanye nanye. - Motta
Ukugqithisileyo Ngokufumana Okufanelekileyo
Ndiba nomnqweno wokufuna ukuhlangula abantu kunye nabahlobo abo ndicinga ukuba ndinokunceda, okanye mhlawumbi kutheni bafuna ukuba ngumhlobo wam? Ndiye ndixhalabile ngokwaneleyo, ndinekhaya elaneleyo, ndifuna ukuphelela. - Engabonakaliyo
Unina Wobazali Bam
Kwafuneka ndibe ngumama kubazali bam ubomi bam bonke. Ngenxa yokuba ndikhulile ngoku kwaye ndibonakala ngilungisiwe, akukho nentsapho yam okanye ngabahlobo bam thabatha xa ndifuna uncedo. - Molly
Ukuthatha uxanduva kubo bonke abantu
Andicingi ukuba sikhula nomama onxilisayo undenzele ixhoba, kodwa ndizama ukuthatha uxanduva kubo bonke abantu ebomini bam ukwenza ubomi babo bube ngcono kangangoko umgangatho wabo oza phambi kwam. - Ally
Ndingenabantwana
Ndafundiswa kwintsapho kakhulu ukuba ndingathabatha njani uxanduva lwabazali - ukupheka, ukucoca, ukuhlalisa abantwana, ukuthenga, ukusebenza, njl. Ndandingenabantwana, okanye ubuncinane into endiyifunayo. Ndandisoloko ndinyanzela ekhaya ndenza imisebenzi yendawo xa omnye wabazali bam bebhentshi. - Alley
Ukuzama ukulungisa abanye
Ndiza kuqhubeka ndizama ukulungisa izidakwa zeli hlabathi ndibe ngumcebisi weziyobisi kunye neengxilongo ngoku iminyaka eyi-13. Ndazama ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono kubo bonke abadakwa ngokuzilungisa. Xa ndimncinane ndazama ukulungisa abanye - Indodakazi endala kakhulu
Ngaba Unomthwalo Oyintloko?
Ingaba uthabatha ukuthatha uxanduva oluyenawo? Ngaba uhlala ulungelelanisa? Usenokuba uthintekile ngokukhulela kwikhaya elinxilisayo ngezinye iindlela ongaziqondi.
Thatha le mibuzo ukuze ufumane ingcamango yokuba unokuchaphazeleka kangakanani.
Buyela kwi: Iimiphumo zoKhula kunye noTywala
Imithombo:
Abantwana abadala beNkcazo yeNkonzo yeSizwe yeNkonzo yoTywala, "Uluhlu lweMpahla yoLondolozo - Iziganeko ezili-14 zoMntwana omdala onxilisayo," (Kubanjwe kuTony A., 1978). Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.
UJanet G. Woititz, "Iziganeko ezi-13 zabantwana abadala," Isiko soLwazi. Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zezeMpilo yengqondo. " Ukunceda Uphulukise: Isikhokelo Sowesifazane Sokubuyisana Neengxaki Zokuxhatshazwa Kwabantwana " Ukuhlaziywa ngo-2008.