Awunayo Imfuneko Yonke into, Thandaza, okanye Ungabani na umntu
Yintoni onokuyilindela xa uhamba kwi-12-nyathelo okanye i- Alcoholics engaziwayo ? Ukuba awuzange ube khona kwenye, mhlawumbi unokwesaba kunye nokukhusela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukubonakaliswa kwakho kuphela kukubakho okubonayo kumabonakude okanye kumabonwakude. Yintoni eyinyani?
Iingqungquthela eziqhelekileyo kunye neengcinga zokuqala malunga neentlanganiso ze-AA
Ezi zinto unokucinga ukuba zenzeke kwiintlanganiso ezili-12 zintlanganiso, kodwa zinokuthi zintetho kunokuba zenzeke.
- Uya kujikelezwa kunye "nezixhobo ezinxilisayo".
- Umele uphakamise uthi, "Ndiyindywala."
- Kufuneka uxelele zonke iimfihlelo ezijikeleze umlutha wam utywala.
- Kufuneka uthathe inxaxheba kwii-hugs zeqela.
- Kufuneka uthandaze.
- Ujoyina inkolo.
- Unokubona abantu obaqaphelayo.
Intlanganiso yokuqala
Yintoni eyinyaniso kwiintlanganiso ezininzi? UBarb M. ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zeziphi iintlanganiso zokuqala eziqhelekileyo. Intlanganiso inokuthi ibanjwe kwisakhiwo esinxulumene nebandla okanye kwindawo yoluntu. Ufika ukufumana uninzi lwabantu obabonayo lubakho kwiintlanganiso zoTywala Iinkonzo ezingabonakaliyo . Ngaphandle kwegumbi ngabantu abambalwa benza ikhofi kunye bathetha.
Ngaphakathi kwegumbi, kukho abantu abahleli apha naphandle; abanye bexoxa kunye, abanye behleli bodwa. Uhlala esihlalweni ngasemnyango (nje xa ufuna ukuphuma ngokukhawuleza) kwaye njengoko abantu badlulayo, abanye bathi bumnandi, baxhamle abanye, bayeke baye bazise ngokwabo, kwaye abanye bahlale bodwa.
Emva kwemizuzu engama-10, kukho abantu abangama-50 abahleli kwisigidi-sondo seetrone. Umntu oyedwa uhleli phakathi kwesangqa. Ungusihlalo weentlanganiso zelo suku.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani
Intlanganiso iqala ngosihlalo ekufundeni i-AA Preamble, emva koko ekhokelela umthandazo weqela, Umthandazo weSerenity (i-short version) apho malunga nama-80 ekhulwini abantu bathanda.
Emva koko, amalungu ahlukeneyo kwintlanganiso afunda iincwadana ezimfutshane ze-AA, " Indlela eSebenza ngayo ," " Amasiko alishumi elinesibini " kunye "Nezithembiso."
Usihlalo ubuza ukuba kukho na abatsha, okanye abaqalayo, abaya kwiintlanganiso abanokuzibandakanya ngegama labo lokuqala. Abambalwa baphakamisa izandla, Unako okanye ungabi nanye kubo, njengoko oku kukhetho kwaye akuvumelekanga.
Intlanganiso yeSifundo seNqanaba
Intlanganiso ingaba yiNtlanganiso yesinyathelo . Usihlalo uyazisa ukuba yeyiphi inyathelo abaya kuxoxa ngayo. Emva kokuba isahluko sesinyathelo sifundwe kwincwadi ethi, "Izihlandlo ezilishumi elinesibini kunye neenkcubeko ezilishumi elinesibini," usihlalo uya kubuza ukuba ubani unokufumana amava, amandla kunye nethemba enxulumene nesinyathelo, afuna ukuwabelana ngawo.
Ukwabelana ngolwazi, amandla kunye nethemba
Ngethuba le ntla nganiso, abantu baqala ukuthetha. Ngamnye uqala ngokuzifaka ngokuthi, "Sawubona, igama lam (igama lokuqala) kwaye ndingunxila." Kanye nje kwiibhayisikobho, wonke umntu uyaphendula, "Sawa (igama lokuqala)!" Emva kokuba bazalise "ibali" labo bonke abakwiklasi bayabonga. Emva koko umntu olandelayo unokuthetha.
Emva kokuba wonke umntu agqiba ukwabelana, usihlalo ubuza ukuba kukho naziphi na izipapasho ezihlobene ne-AA. Emva koko uyazisa ukuba lixesha lomthandazo weNkosi, kwaye wonke umntu umi ngqongquthela omkhulu, ebambe izandla, ekhumbula umthandazo.
Awunanto ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kumthandazo. Xa umthandazo usuphelile, intlanganiso iphela.
Intlanganiso emva koMhlangano
Abantu baqokelela, bathetha, kwaye kukho intlalo yoluntu ngoku ukuya kwintlanganiso. Abanye bangabonakalisa kuwe kwaye banokubuza imibuzo. Ukhululekile ukushiya ukuba awufuni ukuthandana.
Iifom yeeNtlanganiso ezahlukeneyo
Iintlanganiso ezahlukeneyo zineendlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izinto kodwa inxalenye enkulu, zihamba ngokufanayo. Kwezinye iintlanganiso, abantu bayabizelwa ngokukhawuleza, ukucinga kukuba, kukuthintela abantu abafanayo ukuba bangabelana ngokuqhubekayo ngaphezu kweentloni, abantu abaqinileyo.
Kwezinye iintlanganiso, ekupheleni komthandazo, wonk 'ubani unokuthi i-slogan AA ethandwayo, njengokuthi, "abenzi beintlanganiso benza." Ezinye iintlanganiso ziintlanganiso zengxoxo kuphela apho isihloko singenangqungquthela kwaye ngaphezulu kuvela kumdla omnye unamalungu.
Iintlanganiso zeSomlomo zibonisa umntu okhethiweyo ukuba akhulume ngamava, amandla kunye nethemba malunga nokubuyiselwa kwabo.
"Akukho Mnye Undikhathazayo"
UBarb M. uxelela ukuba into ayeyithintele kakhulu yinto engeyonto yokumangalisa ukuba wafumana xa waqala ukuya kwiintlanganiso. "Akukho mntu wandihlambalaza ngeempawu zakhe zonqulo, akukho namnye ongandichukumisa ukuba ndibambe izandla ndize ndi thandaze, akukho mntu wayekhathalele ukuba ndihleli ngasemva okanye ndihleli ngaphambili, ndisela ikofi okanye ndayisiphuli ikhofi, ndincede ndicoce okanye baleka ngaphambi kokuba intlanganiso iphele. "
Imithetho emiselweyo kuphela yile ntlonipho eqhelekileyo enokubandakanya: Zama ukuba ngexesha. Akutshaywa. Akukho intetho ehambayo ngexesha lezabelo. Iifowuni zeenkundla zisayine ekupheleni kwintlanganiso.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokugijima kumntu owaziyo okanye oya kukubona.
Isandla soNcedo lweAA
UBar M. uthi uthe walinda iintlanganiso ezininzi ngaphambi kokuba enze isigqibo sokuzibandakanya njengomnxila kwaye amkele i- chip yakhe yokuqala .
Esinye isenzo esiqhelekileyo kukuba xa uzizisa kwiqela njengomntu omtsha kunye nomnxila, uya kufumana incwadi yeshedyuli yentlanganiso kunye namanani kunye nenani labantu onokukubiza ukuba unesizathu sokuphuza kwaye ufuna uncedo. Abantu abafaka inani labo kule ncwadi benza oko kuba banqwenela ukunceda. Akudingeki ukuba ubani enze njalo kodwa ugcina ngesithethe se-AA, ukuba xa unxilongo unxusa uncedo, isandla sokuncedisa iAA siya kuba khona.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungumntu onxilisayo, fumana intlanganiso "evulekile" ukuya kwindawo yakho. Abaninzi abanxilisayo banokuya kulezi kwaye akukho mntu uthabathayo ngenxa yokuba ukhona ukuba unotywala.