Kukho inkalo enkulu yengxoxo ingaba oku kuqhelekileyo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi
Xa uthetha malunga nombono wamehlo athabileyo, kubonakala ngathi abantu baneempendulo ezimbini. Abantu bacinga ukuba amehlo abhadulayo, okanye ukujonga rhoqo abantu abesini esahlukileyo, akukho nto ekufuneka bayikhathazeke ngayo okanye becinga ukuba ukuziphatha kuphazamisa umtshato kwaye akukho ntlonipho. Impendulo yangempela i .. .xhomekeke .
Iingxabano ezijikelezayo
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- Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuba nejoni elidukayo liziphatha ngokuqhelekileyo.
- Ukujonga umntu okhangayo kukuphendula ngokusesikweni.
- Umntu onamehlo athabileyo ngumntu oqhelekileyo oxabisa ubuhle.
- Akukho nto yokukhathazeka ngamehlo omlingane wakho xa ehamba phambili xa kukho konke okubandakanyekayo kukujonga ngokukhawuleza kungekhona yonke into, i-seconds yesi-30 igqoke phantsi, ikhwelo elibi, okanye ukulingana.
Umxhasi
- Ukujonga abanye abantu kukubonakalisa ukungamhloneli umlingane wakho, kubonisa ukungabikho kokunyamekela, kunye nokuziphatha okungahambi kakuhle.
- Iliso elityebileyo liyakhathaza kwaye liyakucima ubuhlobo bomtshato.
- Ukuba neenyaziso zisoloko kukubonakalisa ukukopela kunye nomqondiso wokuba umntu ufuna olunye ulwalamano.
Ngokwe-psychiatrist, uDkt. Gail Saltz uthi, "Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba sithi bonke abantu banomlinganiselo othile we-voyeurism kunye nomboniso: sithanda ukujonga kwaye sifuna ukubonisa.
Uninzi lwabantu aluxhatshazwa yinto yokujonga. Kodwa ukukhangela ngokukhawuleza, ukuphawula, ukubuyisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ukuthandana okanye ukuchukumisa ngokuqhelekileyo kuvakalelwa kukungcebelekanga kumlingane. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kwenza umntu azive engathandekiyo kwaye aze angasongelwa kubuhlobo. Ngaphandle kokuba amaqela amabini aqinisekile ukuba abanye bayamthanda, ukubonakala kunye nokunyaniseka kuya kubangela ukuba umona ube nomona. "
Oko Ukwenza Ukuba Umlingani Wakho Ukhupha Amehlo
- Ungazami ukuphoqa amehlo omlingane wakho.
- Yamkela ukuba kuya kuba soloko kubekho abantu abahlala bodwa, abahle kakhulu, banomdla, bancinci, njl. Njengawe.
- Zibuze ukuba kutheni ihambo lakho elijongayo likukhathazayo. Ngaba unemibuzo yokuzithemba? Ngaba unomona okanye unempahla? Ngaba ukhathazekile malunga neqabane lakho elithembekileyo kuwe? Ngaba awuqinisekanga ngolwalamano lwakho? Ingaba kukho umba ojulile oqhubekayo emtshatweni wakho?
- Khumbula ukuba amehlo akho omlingane akangabonakali ekuthandeni kwakho.
- Zama ukuvuma okokuqala xa umntu ontle ebonakalayo.
- Ukuba umyeni wakho ojikelezayo udala ingxaki emtshatweni wakho, xubusha umcimbi kunye nomlingane wakho. Qala ngeemvakalelo zakho, kungekhona ngesityholo okanye ukugxeka.
"Yenza kucacile: awulindele ukuba banxibe iimpumputhe okanye bajonge phantsi; "Ukuba iqabane lakho aliyi kuyenza nayiphi na imizamo yokutshintsha kwaye ingabonakali ukuba iyakukhathalela indlela eyenza uzive ngayo, mhlawumbi unemiba enjalo kunye nezobini zonyango zingayilungelelaniswa. isicelo sakho. Ukuba nomona ongenangqiqo ngezicelo ezingenangqiqo kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lilahla umntwana kunye namanzi okuhlamba kwaye ungakuhlawula. "
Kubonakala ukuba umgca wukuthi kusemgangathweni wesiqhelo kubantu abatshatileyo ukuba bajonge umntu okhangayo. Akwamkelekanga ukuba abantu abatshatileyo (okanye nabani na onjalo) bajonge okanye bahlasele umntu okhangayo nanini na. Musa ukuphikisana neqabane lakho malunga nokuba awukho okanye ukhangele. Thatha ilizwi labo. Ukuziphatha ngokugqithisileyo xa kukho phambi komlingane wakho! Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi okanye ukukhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo kuya kunciphisa ubuhlobo bakho. Kungcono ukuzithobela ukuhlonipha nokuzithiba.
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