Uqeqesho lwefoni luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yonyango lwakho
Enye into ebalulekileyo yonyango yokuziphatha (dialectical therapy) (DBT) yomngcipheko wobuntu obumdakala uqeqesho lwefowuni. Yiyiphi i-coaching coaching, kwaye unokukunceda njani ukuhlangabezana neempawu?
Ukuqeqeshwa kwefowuni ngenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo zonyango lokuziphatha (dialectical treatment) (i-DBT), ifomu efanelekileyo kakhulu ye-psychotherapy esetyenziselwa ukuphazamiseka komntu ongasemngceleni (BPD).
Nangona kungekho nonyango ye-BPD, i-DBT ibonakaliswe ukunciphisa ukuvela kunye nokuqina kwempawu. Xa uqala inkqubo ye-DBT, uya kuba neeseshoni eziqhelekileyo kunye nomgqirha wakho, ngoko kuyafuneka ukuba uzive ukhululekile naloo mntu.
Ukuba unayo i-BPD, mhlawumbi uye wafumana ezininzi iimpawu ezikukhusela ukuba uphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Ukususela kwizilwanyiso kwiingxabano zesimo esinobundlobongela kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala, i-BPD isifo esibalulekileyo esidinga indlela epheleleyo yokonyango. Oku kwenza ukuba i-DBT kunye nayo yonke into yayo ibaluleke kakhulu ekubuyiseni kwakho ngexesha lokunyanga.
Kwi-DBT, uya kunikwa uqeqesho lwezakhono zecandelo, iqela lokunyanga apho uza kufunda khona izakhono ezisisiseko zokulawula iimvakalelo , ukugcina ubudlelwane kunye nokunyamezela uxinzelelo, kunye neengqondo zengqondo kunye nomgulana. Ngexesha leeseshoni, uya kusebenza ekulawuleni iimvakalelo ezinzulu, ukunciphisa ukuziphatha okulimazayo okanye okulimazayo nokulawula intlungu yakho.
Yindlela yokuxazulula ingxaki kwi-BPD engabangela iziphumo ezibalulekileyo kwizigulane.
Indima yeFowuni Coaching
Inxalenye enye ebalulekileyo ye-DBT yinendima yoqeqesho lwefowuni. I-DBT therapists kufuneka ifumaneke ngoqeqesho lwefowuni kulo lonke uphondo lwakho. Uya kukhuthazwa ukuba ubize umphathiswa wakho naliphi na ixesha, imini okanye ubusuku, xa ufuna uncedo.
Kukunceda ngakumbi ukuba uhlala uhlazekile, ukwesaba okanye ucinga ukuba ukwesaba kwakho kuya kuvela.
Ngethuba lefowuni, umgqirha wakho uya kukuthetha ngolu hlobo, ekuncedeni ukukulimaza okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezinobungozi okanye eziyingozi. Uya kusebenza nawe ngokusebenzisa i-coaching yeefowuni ukusebenzisa izakhono ozifundileyo ukujongana nemeko okanye ingxaki ngokufanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokuzilimaza. Ngaphandle kokuthintela ukuziphatha okulimazayo, i-coaching yeefowuni iya kukunceda ufunde amava amanzima kwaye uya kubakhuthaza ngeli xesha.
Ngokuqeqesha, izakhono zakho ziya kuqiniswa. Njengokuba uqeqesho luyakusiza umdlali, i-coaching yefowuni ikuvumela ukuba uqonde ubuchule obufundileyo uze ulisebenzise kubomi boqobo. Oku kunika amandla ekusingatha le meko ngokuzithemba kwaye ekugqibeleni uyakwazi ukufikelela kubo bodwa.
Ukuqeqeshwa kwefowuni kufuneka kusetyenziswe ngcamango, kodwa akufanele unganqikaze ukubiza umnqweno wakho ukuba unengxaki. Nangona ugqirha wakho akayi kufuna ukuba usebenzise ifowuni ukuqeqesha ngokungafanelekanga, njengokuba ukwala ukusebenzisa izakhono ozifundileyo, ukhuthazwa ukuba ufonele xa usufumana uncedo lwencedo. Izigulane ezininzi ze-BPD azibizi ngokuba zivakalelwa ngathi azifanelekanga umzamo kwaye azifuni ukuphazamisa nabani na, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uthembele kwaye uxelele kumgqirha wakho ukukunceda yakho inkqubela phambili.
Imithombo:
Linehan, MM. "Ukunyangwa kwengxaki yokuziphatha koMntu oPhezulu lweMida." INew York: I-Guilford Press, ngo-1993.
Porr, Valerie. Ukunqoba ukukhathazeka komntu ongasemngceleni: Umkhokelo wentsapho wokuPhulukisa nokuTshintsha. 2010, 122-124.