Indlela Yokujonga Ngakumbi

Ukuba unesifo sokuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle (SAD) , unokuba nzima ukujonga indlela yokujonga. Mhlawumbi awuzange ucinge ngempawu oyithumelayo ngolwimi lomzimba wakho, okanye mhlawumbi uzizwa unamandla okulawula umzimba wakho ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwakho.

Indlela yokuphucula ulwimi lwakho loLwimi ukuba lufikeleleke

Ukuba unzima ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha okanye ujoyine kwingxoxo kwimibutho yentlalo, mhlawumbi ukuba ulwimi lwakho luthumela umyalezo kwabanye ukuba bahlale kude.

Ngoko unokuphucula njani ulwimi lwakho lomzimba ukuba luvele lufikeleleke ngakumbi? Ngezantsi zingcebiso ezilishumi ukuze uqalise.

1. Smile. Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba ungaphezu kokumomotheka, ngokuqhelekileyo kungcono ukumomotheka ngaphandle kokugcoba. Zama ukufumana izinto ezenza ube novuyo okanye uhlekise ngokwenene kwaye ukunyamezela kwakho kuya kufumana njengendalo ngaphandle kokunyanzeliswa.
2. Ufikeleleke. Ukuba uhlala kwi-smartphone yakho okanye ungcwatywe kwiphephandaba, abantu baya kuziva ngathi bakuphazamisa. Qinisekisa ukuba ufikeleleke kwaye uvula ukuthetha nabanye.
3. Gwema iibhloko. Ngaloo ndlela, qiniseka ukuba awusebenzisi izinto ukukhusela kwabanye. Kwiqela, gcina isiselo sakho kwicala lakho endaweni yokufuphi esifubeni sakho. Ukugcina izinto phakathi kwakho nabanye kwenza ukuba ubonakale ulindiwe kwaye uvaliwe.
4. Gcina intloko yakho phezulu. Kunzima ukuba abanye bazi ukuba bafike kuwe xa intloko yakho ihlala ihla; kufuneka babone ubuso bakho buve ngathi ufuna ukwazi. Gcina intloko yakho xa uhamba, udibana nabantu kunye neemeko zentlalo.

1. Sebenzisa I-Eye Contact. Xa ugqiba ukuthetha nomntu, qiniseka ukuba unxibelelwano lwamehlo . Umgaqo omhle ngowama-60 ekhulwini kwithuba kufuneka ukhangele ngamehlo omnye umntu. Ukuphepha ukujongana kwamehlo kwenza ukuba ungabonakali okanye ungathandeki. Ukuba ukuxhamla kwamehlo othe ngqo kunzima, zama ukujonga ngelinye iliso ngexesha, okanye kwindawo phakathi kwamehlo omntu. Abayi kuba nako ukuxelela umahluko.

1. INgangamsha. Jonga iinyawo zakho, imilenze yakho kunye nomzimba wakho; Ufanele ukhangele kumntu othetha naye, kungekhona. Nawuphi na ulwimi lomzimba olwenza ukhangele ngathi ukulungele ukuba "utyhutyha umnyango" kuthetha omnye umntu uya kuziva ngathi awunomdla.
2. Gwema Iimpawu Eziphazamisayo. Nangona unokuba nosaba, thintela imikhwa ehamba kunye nevakalelo. Yeka ukuthinta ubuso bakho okanye ukudlala ngeenwele zakho. Musa ukutshiza ipeni yakho okanye utshintsho kwi-pocket yakho. Gcina izandla zakho zikhululekile emacaleni enu okanye zizisebenzise ngokuzenzekelayo xa wenza ingxoxo.
3. Mirror Umntu Omnye. Sebenzisa le ndlela ngokukhawuleza xa kufanelekile. Ukuba uxoxisana nomnye umntu, zibuke ulwimi lwakhe lomzimba ukuze enze uzive ekhululekile; ukwenza ezinye zezinto ezifanayo ezenzayo. Musa ukugqithisa esi sicwangciso okanye kuya kubonakala ukuba wenza ntoni.
4. Nod Ngexesha leNcoko. Xa uphulaphule umntu, ugqithise ukuba ubonise ukuba uyanyamekela kwaye unomdla. Ukwenza oko kuqinisela omnye umntu ofuna ukubandakanyeka kwingxoxo. Enye indlela yokwenza ukuba ugxininise ngokwakho ngexesha le ngxoxo kukucwangcisa ukwabelana ngezinto ozivile kunye nomnye umntu emva koko. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba uhlale ucacile, ubuze imibuzo, kwaye ushwankathele ukuze uqinisekise ukuba uyaqonda.

1. Yiba Ntle. Ngaphandle kweelwimi zomzimba, soloko ulungile. Yithi izinto ezintle ngabanye abantu endaweni yezinto ezinentsingiselo. Sondela kwabanye kwaye uquka abo babonakala bengashiywe ngaphandle. Yiba ngumntu othe tye kwaye uya kutsala abanye abantu abanomdla kuwe.

ILizwi

Ukuba unenkxalabo enzima, kunokuziva kunzima ukuba uzame ezi zicwangciso zokubonakala zingeneka. Nangona kunokuziva kungekho ngokwemvelo ekuqaleni, kunye nexesha kufuneka uqale uzive uvulekile kwaye unesiqiniseko ngenxa yokutshintsha ulwimi lomzimba wakho. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukuvuleka nabanye, kukulungele ukufuna uncedo lwentlalo yakho.

Kukho unyango oluchanekileyo olunjengamachiza kunye nonyango -yokuziphatha (CBT) eya kwenza umehluko ebomini bakho.

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> Willis, ML, Dodd, HF, & Palermo, R. (2013). Ubudlelwane phakathi kokuxhalaba kunye nezigwebo zentlalo zokungeneka nokuthembeka. PloS One , 8 (10), e76825. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0076825