Abantu abaninzi abaneempawu zengxaki yokuxhalaba kweentlalo (SAD) abazange bafumane ukuxilongwa ngenxa yokuba besaba ukuthetha nodokotela wabo ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Unokuvakalelwa kukuba ungazi into oyithethayo okanye indlela yokuchaza ngayo, okanye mhlawumbi uziva uhlazekile malunga nokukhathazeka kweentlalo. AWUKHO wedwa; ezininzi izigulane ze-SAD zivakalelwa ngokufanayo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda uthethe ugqirha wakho.
Bhala phantsi
Esinye isisombululo esihle kule ngxaki kukubonisa ugqirha wakho ngesishwankathelo somntu endaweni yokuzama ukuthetha ngokucacileyo iimpawu zakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isishwankathelo senkcazo yinkcazo emfutshane yembali yakho yempawu. Isishwankathelo sifanele sichazwe ngokucacileyo kodwa sifutshane ngokwaneleyo ukuba ugqirha wakho unokufunda ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwenza isishwankathelo sesehlo, nakhu amanqaku aphambili omele udibanise nawo:
- Ingcaciso yakho yemvelaphi: Bhengeza nayiphina imbali ebalulekileyo yempilo yengqondo yengqondo, ubudlelwane bentsapho kunye nolwalamano oluntu, imbali yakho kunye neziyobisi kunye notywala (ukuba kusebenza), imingeni enayo ubomi bemihla ngemihla, iinjongo zakho kunye nendlela ojamelana ngayo ne-SAD.
- Iimpawu zakho: Yenza uludwe lwezo zonke iimpawu ozifumanayo, nokuba ngumzimba, ngokomzwelo, okanye uvakalelwa, kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo kunye / okanye oko bakwenza ukuba ucinge.
Nangona ungayifaki isishwankathelo sesigqibo, yinto efanelekileyo yokubhala iingcamango zakho ngaphambi kwexesha kwifom yepotrabhu.
Ukwenza oko kuqinisekisa ukuba akukho nto iyalityalwa, nokuba ngaba uxhala xa uthetha nogqirha wakho. Ukubhala phantsi iimpendulo ugqirha wakho anika zona kuya kunika ingxelo ebhaliweyo yento ekuthethwe ngayo kwaye kukunceda ukugcina ugxininise kuloo ndawo endaweni yokuxhalaba kwakho.
Yazisa Ukukhathazeka Kwakho
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthetha nodokotela wakho, xelela ukuba uya kuba nzima ukuthetha naye.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokulungiselela isishwankathelo senkcazo, faka inkcazo ekuqaleni efana nale:
"Mhlawumbi ndikhangelekile kuwe ngoku, kodwa ngaphakathi ndikwesaba ukuba undigweba. Xa ndithetha noogqirha ndiba nexhala kakhulu, ingqondo yam ayinanto, kwaye andinakukwazi ukuchazela oko kukuphosakeleyo."
Wozisa omnye umntu
Yizisa umntu kunye nawe ukuba athethe nogqirha wakho. Ukongeza kwenkxaso yemoya yomhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho, loo mntu unokuphulaphula oko kutshiwoyo, cinga ngemibandela, kwaye ucele ukucaciswa xa kuyimfuneko. Umntu wesibini unokuthatha amanqaku okuthethwa ngethuba lentlanganiso.
Khumbula ukuba oogqirha banokukunceda
Nangona kunokusongela ukuthetha nabathengi malunga nemiba yabantu, ngumsebenzi wakho ugqirha ukuphulaphula nokuqonda. Ukuthembela ugqirha wakho kunokuba nzima, kodwa ukwabelana indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo isinyathelo sokuqala ukufumana uncedo.
Ukuba ngesizathu esithile uvakalelwa kukuba ugqirha awunakunceda okanye awukhethanga kakuhle ukuphatha iSAD yakho, unokufuna ukukhangela omnye umntu . Kufuneka uzive ukhululekile kwaye ukhuselekile nabani na oniphathayo.