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Izakhono zentlalo zonyango zoncedo ziyinkokhelo enhle kulabo abanenkinga yokuxhalabisa abantu (SAD) abafuna ukuphucula ukusebenza kwabo. Ezi ncwadi zibandakanya uluhlu olubanzi lwezihloko ezibandakanya ulwimi lomzimba , ukuthetha ngokufanelekileyo kunye nezakhono zabantu jikelele. Nje ngeencwadi zokuncedisa ukuxhalabisa, ezo zakhono zentsebenziswano kufuneka zikhethwe ngokucophelela.

Ngophando luka-2008, kwaqulunqwa ukuba iincwadi ezizodwa zoncedo zinempawu ezifanayo. Ezi ziquka ukufakwa kwisayensi (into esiyibiza ngokuba "esekelwe ubungqina-based based"), ngokuqinisekileyo ngokwemigaqo ethembisiwe (akufuneki ukuba uthembise "unyango"), ecaciswe kwisikhokelo esinikezwayo, kwaye anganiki naluphi na oluchanekileyo okanye lobuxoki ulwazi (oko kubizwa ngokuthi "ungenzi nto ingozi").

1 - Indlela yokuthetha nabani na: 92 Amancinci amancinci eMpumelelo enkulu eBudlelwaneni

Umbhali uLeil Lowndes uye wanikela ngobomi bakhe ekufundiseni ubugcisa bokunxibelelana ngempumelelo. Indlela Yokuthetha Nabani na , unika izicwangciso ezingu-92 zokuphumelela ekusebenzelaneni nabantu ngendlela eya kukhanga abanye kuwe.

Iingcebiso zibandakanya izihloko ezinjengokuqala kokuqala, intetho encinci , ulwimi lomzimba kunye noxanduva. U-Lowndes ubhala ngendlela ezonwabisa kwaye ecacileyo, aze awanike amathiphu amagama anobuncwane ukuze uwakhumbule, njenge "Rubberneck kwigumbi."

2 - AbantuSmart: Ukuphuhlisa Ubulumko Bakho

AbantuSmart iyisikhokelo esicwangcisiweyo sokuphucula ukuphumelelana kwakho kobunye kwezobuhlobo kunye nolwalamano. Le ncwadi ibonisa isicwangciso esinezinyathelo ezine zokuphucula izakhono ezibalulekileyo ezisibhozo ezisebenzisayo usebenzisa imizekelo, izixhobo kunye nokuzilolonga.

3 - Indlela yokudibanisa ngokukhawuleza nabani na

Ngendlela yokudibanisa ngokukhawuleza nabani na , uLeil Lowndes uchaza indlela yokubamba amandla olwazi olubizwa ngokuba yi-prediction emotion for the success in business and personal relationships. Amasu asekelwe ekuphandeni anikezelwa kukunceda wenze impembelelo kwaye ucele intlonipho kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.

4 - Ukuthetha ngokuthetha

Ukuthetha ngokuthetha ngu-Alan Garner inikeza iingcebiso zokuphucula izakhono zakho zengxoxo kunye nokunciphisa uxhalaba loluntu . Iseluleko siquka iinkalo ezifana neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zemibuzo onokuyibuza ngethuba le ncoko, indlela yokuphulaphula kakuhle, nendlela yokufumana ukuncoma.

5 - Ubugcisa obuhle beNtetho encinci

I-Art Fine yeNkulumantwana encinci inikeza iingcebiso kumcebisi wezonxibelelwano uDebra Fine ngokwenza intetho encinci encinci. Eziquka izicwangciso kunye nobuchule bokukunceda ukuba ugweme izinto ezintle, uphucule ubuchule bakho bokuphulaphula , uqale iingxoxo. Nangona le ncwadi ibhekiselela kwintsimi yezobugcisa, iya kuba luncedo kulabo bajongene nokuxhalaba kwentlalo.

6 - Izakhono zabantu: Indlela yokuziqinisekisa, ukuphulaphula abanye kunye nokuxazulula iingxabano

Ubuntu bezakhono zikaRobert Bolton luyincwadana yezakhono zokunxibelelana ezijoliswe ekuncedeni ukuba uhambe ngokufanelekileyo ngentsapho.

Umbhali uhlola iimbambano ezili-12 eziqhelekileyo zokunxibelelana eziwonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye nendlela yokuwunqoba. Amacandelo anikezelwa kwiindawo ezinokubambisana ezifana nezakhono zokuphulaphula, ukuqinisekiswa, ukulungiswa kwemibambano kunye nendlela yokusebenzisa ukuthula ngokuqinisekileyo (ewe, ngamanye amaxesha ithuluzi kunokubangela ukukhathazeka).

I-7 - Incwadi Ecacileyo YeeLwimi

Incwadi ecacileyo yeeLwimi zoLwimi isikhokelo sokuqonda nokufunda indlela yokuphatha kakuhle indlela yokuziphatha engabonakaliyo . Eziquka iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokufunda iimvakalelo nezinye iingcamango ngolwimi lomzimba kunye nendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba uthumele iimpawu ezifanelekileyo ngolwimi lwakho lomzimba. Njengoko uninzi lwento othethayo ludluliselwa emzimbeni wakho kunye nezwi lezwi, ukuqonda ubugcisa bolwimi lomzimba kufanele kube phezulu kwiluhlu lwakho xa usebenza kwizakhono zomntu.

8 - Isicwangciso seDale Carnegie sokuPhumelela

Lo mqulu udibanisa ezimbini ezibhaliweyo zincwadi zikaDale Carnegie zincwadi ezithengisa kakhulu: Indlela yokuphumelela abahlobo kunye nefuthe abantu kunye nendlela yokuyeka ukukhathazeka nokuqala ukuhlala . Ukuba uya kuthenga naziphi na iincwadi kule sihloko, imisebenzi kaCarnegie iye yazama ukuvavanya ixesha kwaye iyafaneleka ukufundwa.

Indlela yokuphumelela abahlobo kunye nefuthe Abantu baphatha izihloko ezifana nokusebenzisana nabantu, kuba isithethi esingcono, nokutsala abahlobo.

Indlela Yokuyeka Ukukhathazeka Nokuqala Ukuphila uhlola indlela yokuphepha ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo nokunciphisa uxhalabomi ebomini bakho. Nangona ibhalwe ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-60 edlulileyo, zombini iincwadi zihlala zifanelekileyo namhlanje.

> Umthombo:

> Ukubuyisela, RE, Herbert, JD, Forman, EM, & Gaudiano, BA (2008). Iincwadi ezizithandayo zokuncedisa ukuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, nokuxhwaleka: Indlela enzululwazi kunye noluncedo ngayo? I-Psychology yoBugcisa: uPhando kunye nokuSebenza, 39 (5), 537-545.

ILizwi

Ufanele uqale kuphi? Oku kuxhomekeke apho ufuna ukuphelela khona. Mhlawumbi uqale noDale Carnegie okanye uLeil Lowndes, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ufuna iimifanekiso ezinkulu okanye iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso ezithile. Ukusuka apho, unako ukuqhubela phambili kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zezakhono zobuntu ezifana nolwimi lomzimba kunye nentetho encinci. Nantoni na oyenzayo, qiniseka ukuba uzama ukwenza oko ufunda kwezi ncwadi. Ngelixa kunokuba lunzima ukubuyela emuva kwimpumelelo yakho yangaphambili, ukubuyela kwimikhwa endala akuyi kukunceda uqhube phambili. Yenza umdlalo ukuba ufanele, kwaye uzenzele umvuzo rhoqo xa usebenzisa isicwangciso esivela kwenye yezi ncwadi.