Sonke siyaziqhathanisa nabanye kwiihlabathi zethu zentlalo, ingaba ithelekisa indlela esibukeka ngayo kubasemagunyeni esibabonayo kumaphephandaba okanye kwiitalente zethu kubasebenzi bethu basebenzisana nabo. Kwiengqondo , inzululwazi yentlalo yinkcazelo enye yolu tyekelo kufuneka sizithelekise phakathi kwethu nabanye.
Masiqwalasele ngokuthe ngqo indlela i-theory of social comparison ishicilelwa ngayo kunye nendlela uthelekiso esenza ngayo ithonya kwiimbono esinokuzibamba zona.
Inzululwane yokuThelekisa uLuntu
Inkolelo yokuqhathaniswa kwezenhlalakahle yocetywayo kuqala ngowe-1954 yi-psychologist uLeon Festinger kwaye yacebisa ukuba abantu babe ne-innate drive yokuzivavanya, ngokuqhelekileyo xa kuthelekiswa nabanye. Abantu benza zonke iindidi zezigwebo malunga nabo, kwaye enye yezindlela ezibalulekileyo esenzayo ngoluhlobo lwezenhlalakahle, okanye ukuhlalutya ngokwabo ngokumalunga nabanye.
Ngokomzekelo, khawucinge ukuba umfundi wesikolo esiphakamileyo usanda kubhalisela iklasi ye-band ukufunda indlela yokudlala i-clarinet. Njengoko evavanya izakhono zakhe kunye nenkqubela, uya kuqhathanisa ukusebenza kwakhe kwabanye abafundi eklasini. Unokuqala uqhathanise amakhono akhe kwamanye amalungu ecandelo le-clarinet, ngokukodwa ekuqapheliseni abo bangcono kunabo kunye nabangendawo. Unako ukuthelekisa amakhono akhe kubafundi abadlala ezinye izixhobo kunye.
UFestinger wayekholelwa ukuba senza inxaxheba kule nkqubo yokuqhathaniswa njengendlela yokuseka isilinganiselo esinokukwenza ngayo iimvavanyo ezichanileyo thina.
Umzekelo, umfundi womculo unokuzifanisa nomfundi weenkwenkwezi eklasini. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ubuchule bakhe abuhambisani neetalente zontanga, unokuqhutyelwa ukuba aphumelele kwaye aphucule amandla akhe.
Inkqubo yokuBhathaniswa kweNtlalo isebenza njani?
Inkqubo yokuthelekiswa kwentlalo ibandakanya abantu abazaziyo ngokwabo ngokuvavanya zabo iingqondo , ubuchule kunye neenkolelo xa kuthelekiswa nabanye.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, sizama ukuzithelekisa nakweqela lontanga okanye nabo sifana nabo.
Kukho iintlobo ezimbini zokuthelekiswa koluntu:
- Ukuqhathaniswa kwentlalo phezulu : xa sizithelekisa kunye nalabo esiyakholelwa ukuba bangcono kunathi. Ezi ziqheliso eziphezulu zihlala zijolise kumnqweno wokuphucula izinga lethu langoku lokukwazi. Sinokuzifanisa nomntu ongcono kwaye sifune iindlela esinokufumana ngayo iimiphumo ezifanayo.
- Ukuqhathaniswa kwentlalo phantsi: xa siziqhathanisa nabanye ababi kakhulu kunathi. Ukuqhathaniswa okunjalo kudla ngokubangela ukuba sizive ngcono malunga namakhono ethu. Singahle sibe mkhulu kwinto ethile, kodwa ubuncinci singcono kunomnye umntu.
Imizekelo yoLingano lweNtlalo ngokuSebenza
Ngokutsho kweFestinger, abantu bathembela kula manqaku kunye nabanye abantu ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo izakhono zabo, ubuchule, iinkolelo kunye nesimo sengqondo. Kwiimeko apho ukuthelekiswa kwakho kungasebenzi, unokufumana ufikelele kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu okanye eziyinkimbinkimbi zamanqanaba akho olwazi.
Umzekelo, ukuba uthelekisa kunye nabahlobo bakho kwaye uzive ulungele kakuhle ngokomzimba, ungabhalisela i-marathon ekholelwa ukuba unako ukugqiba ngaphandle kwengxaki.
Xa ufikelelo lomhla lufika, ungazifumana ujikelezwe ngabantu abanobuchule obugqithiseleyo kunoko kwaye uqaphele ukuba ukuvavanya kwakho kobuchule bakho bokuqala bekukho ithemba.
Xa sikwazi, sinokubeka oku kuthelekiswa nokuvavanya kwisimo sehlabathi ngokwenene.
Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuvavanya isakhono sakho njengomdlali we-basketball, ungase uqale ngokudlala umdlalo kunye nabahlobo bakho okanye usebenzise ukudubula ukuphosa kwamahhala. Emva kokuba unokuqonda kakuhle oko unokukwazi, unokuqala ukuthelekisa ukusebenza kwakho nabanye abantu obaziyo. Unokucinga ngokukhawuleza ngomhlobo odlala kwiqela lakhe lebhola lebhola.
Lo ngumzekelo wokuthelekiswa kwentlalo ephakamileyo.
Xa uthelekisa kuye, ukusebenza kwakho akuphelelanga njengezakhono, kodwa unokucinga ukuba unokugqiba ukufumana ubuchule obufanayo kunye nokusebenza okufutshane. Kule meko, ukuthelekiswa kwentlalo ephakamileyo kunokukwenza uzive ungcono ngekhono lakho kwaye ukhuthazwe ukuba uphucule kuyo.
Unako ukuthelekisa ubuchule bakho kumhlobo ongeke enze ikheksi ukuze alondoloze ubomi bakhe. Xa kuthelekiswa, ukusebenza kwakho kungcono. Lo ngumzekelo wokuthelekiswa kwentlalo ephantsi. Kule meko, ukujonga ubunzima bomhlobo wakho obuthathaka kukukwenza uzive ungcono nakwizinto zakho zobuchule.
Iingcamango Zokugqibela
Njengoko ubona, ukuqhathaniswa kwezenhlalo kuthatha indima kwizigwebo abantu abazenzayo ngokwabo kodwa nangendlela abantu abaziphatha ngayo. Ezinye ukuthelekisa kunokukwenza uzive ungenako kwaye ungenakukwazi ukuphinda uzalisekise injongo xa abanye bekunika ithemba kwaye bancedise ukuzithemba . Njengoko uziqhathanisa nabanye, cinga ukuba ukuthelekiswa kokuphakanyiswa komgangatho ongaphantsi kweentlalo kunokuthintela njani iinkolelo zakho , ukuzithemba, ukukhuthazwa, kunye nesimo sengqondo kunye nokubukela iimvakalelo ezimbi ezinokuvela ngenxa yale nkqubo.