Ukuba unengxaki yomntu ongenamkhawulo (BPD), iimvakalelo ezizimeleyo zingadlala indima enkulu. Ngenxa yesifo, iimvakalelo ziyagxininiswa kwaye zingabangela ukuphazamiseka kokusabela. Fumana oku ngakumbi malunga neemvakalelo ezizimeleyo kunye nendlela ezichaphazela ngayo impilo yakho yengqondo.
Ziziphi Iimvakalelo Zengqondo?
Nangona ezinye iimvakalelo zibhekwa " iimvakalelo eziphambili ," oku kuthetha ukuba bafuna nto encinci okanye bengenakuvakalelwa ukuba bazibonele okanye baqonde, iimvakalelo ezizimeleyo zixhomekeke kwingcamango yethu kunye nokuqonda ubudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu kunye noluntu olukhulu.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuva uvakalelo oluyisiseko "uloyiko," kufuneka ufune into ethile njengongongelo. Kodwa ukuba uzive uzivale, njengetyala, kufuneka ube nesimo sengqondo kunye nokuqonda indlela oziphatha ngayo, njengokuqonda xa wenza into engalunganga.
Iimvakalelo ezizimeleyo ziquka iimvakalelo ezintle ezinjengekratshi okanye ukuzithemba kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi njengeentloni okanye umona.
Injongo
Iingcali zenzululwazi zikholelwa ukuba iimvakalelo ezizimeleyo zinezinto zokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Zikunceda ukuba uphile ngokukhuthaza ukubandakanywa kwentlalo, njengokukunceda uhlale kwiindawo ezilungileyo zabanye. Ngokomzekelo, xa uveza intloni emva kokuphulwa kwesimo esithile sentlalo, ukubonakalisa loo mvakalelo kukunceda ulungise ubudlelwane . Ngokomzekelo, ukuba wenze ubuhlungu kumhlobo kwaye umxolise kuye, ubuso bakho bube bubomvu kwaye awukwazi ukuhlangabezana namaso akhe. Umhlobo wakho uyazi ukuba uvakalelwa njani kwaye unokuba nefuthe kakhulu kuwe.
Ezi mvakalelo zinokukunceda ukunqanda ukuphulwa kwemimiselo yoluntu kwixesha elizayo. Ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kuziva unetyala xa uthembela kumntu, uvumelekile ukuba uphephe ukuziphatha konke.
Umngcipheko woMntu woLuntu kunye neengqondo ezizimeleyo
Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abantu abane-BPD banakho amathuba okuba nemvakalelo engathandekiyo okanye engeyiyo.
Isizathu salesi sibini. Ngenxa yokuba i-BPD inokubangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo enzulu kunye neemvakalelo zokuhlazeka okanye ityala, oku kunokubangela ukuziphatha okungafanelekanga okanye ukulimaza, njengokubandakanya ngokwesini okanye udlame. La mava afana nendlela abantu abane-BPD basichazela ngayo ukuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, umntu obenobungozi obungalunganga bezesondo uya kuhlazeka okanye abe netyala kwaye unokubona ukuba izenzo zomntu ziyingozi. Oku kunokubangela ukuba basabele kumntu ngokugqithiseleyo, nangona omnye umntu engenacala. Ikhonkco phakathi kwe-BPD kunye neemvakalelo ezizimeleyo ziqala umjikelezo wokutshatyalaliswa, okukhokelela umntu ukuba azilimaze okanye azivelele.
Ukuba uziva ulwa neengxaki zokuzikhuphaza kwaye unemingcipheko yomntu ongezantsi, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngale nto kunye nomniki wakho okanye umboneleli wezempilo. Banokukunceda ukusingatha iimvakalelo ezizimeleyo ngendlela ephilileyo engazilimazi wena okanye abanye. Ngokufunda izicwangciso zokuphatha, njengokuthatha ikhefu kwiimeko, unokuyicwangcisa ngokupheleleyo imvakalelo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ungasabela njani okanye ungayifani nento eyenzeka ngokwenene. Umgqirha wakho uya kukunceda uphucule ezo zakhono ukuze ukwazi ukulawula ukugula kwakho kunye nokugcina ulwalamano lwakho.
Umthombo:
Schoenleber, M., Gratz, KL, Messman, T. "Ukungaxhamli kwemida yabantu kunye neemvakalelo ezizimeleyo ekuphenduleni amava omntu angafunekiyo." I-Journal ye-Personality Disorders, ngo- 2014, 810-823.