Ukusinda ePhobias enxulumene neNtuthuko
Uninzi lwethu luqhutyelwa ukuba luphumelele, nokuba lukhona kwimisebenzi yethu, ubomi bezenhlalakahle, iintsapho okanye ezinye izilwanyana zobomi babantu. Oku kubonakala ngathi yindawo ehamba phambili yokukhula kwaye iguqula ubomi bethu. U-Erik Erickson uchaze ukuphuhliswa komntu njengoluhlu lwamanqanaba, ngalinye lijolise ekufezeni impumelelo kwindawo ehlukile yobomi. Ukuze ufezekise impumelelo, nangona kunjalo, kubakho imfuneko ukuba ulahlekelwe ngamava okuqala; Izifundo ezilukhuni zifunwa ngokubanzi.
Kwimimandla eqhutywa namhlanje, ukuhluleka kubonakala kungavumelekanga. Siyakhuthazwa ukuba sivuselele kodwa siphephe ukuchitha "ixesha" okanye imali. Xa siphumelelanga, singasongelwa okanye sijeziswe ngabaqeshi, abafazi kunye nabazali. Eli thuba elibi lingabangela ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Inqanaba elincinane loyiko lingaba lukhuthazo, kodwa izinga eliphezulu lokwesaba lunokuba yi-phobia epheleleyo, ikhubaza inkqubela yethu.
Ngaba Ithemba Lokuphumelela Elinoxanduva Olwenziwe Ngoloyiko Lokungaphumeleli?
Kuye kucatshulwa ukuba abo abanomnqweno oqinileyo wokuphumelela banokubandezeleka ngenxa yokwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Le ngcamango yenza ingqiqo enengqiqo, njengoko uphumelele ngoluhlu oluchasene nokuhluleka. Abaphandi abaninzi baye bavavanya le ngcamango ngemiphumo edibeneyo.
Uphando lubonakala lubonisa ukuba ithemba lokuphumelela kunye nokwesaba ukwehluleka akunxulumene. Enyanisweni, kubonakala ukuba abaninzi abamoyikayo ukuhluleka abafuni ukuba baphumelele.
Kunoko, bahlala bevuya xa behamba phakathi kwendlela, okwenza ukhetho oluya kubavumela ukuba bafumane ngaphandle kokwenza amaza kunokuba bathathe indlela ekhuselekileyo enethuba eliphezulu lokungaphumeleli.
Ukwesaba Ukuphumelela Nokulawula
Ukwesaba impumelelo kubonakala kuhambelana nomgangatho wokulawulwa ngumntu ogulayo.
Abo bavakalelwa kukuba amandla angaphandle alawulayo athambekele ekumngciphekweni omkhulu wokwesaba impumelelo. Kungenzeka ukuba abavakalelwa kukuba impumelelo yabo ifunyenwe, okanye mhlawumbi bayesaba ukuba imikhosi engaphandle ingawuthabatha impumelelo yawo.
Abanye abantu babonakala bekwesaba impumelelo kunye nokuhluleka kanyekanye. Oku kunokuba yimeko enzima kakhulu ukuba ibe kuyo, njengokuba zonke izinto ezikhethwa ngumntu kufuneka zilinganiswe nolu ngxaki. Kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu kule meko aphelelwe amandla ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle, akakwazi ukwenza naluphi na ukhetho.
Uloyiko lokuKhuthaza
Uloyiko lokuzikhuphaza ludla ngokubanzi kunye nokwesaba kokungaphumeleli kunye nempumelelo. Ukuchazwa ngokugqithisileyo njengoluhlobo lwentlalo yoluntu , ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa kungenza kube nzima okanye akunakwenzeka ukucela ukuphakanyiswa, ukufuna umsebenzi ongcono, nokuba nomhlaba wokuqala. Ngesinye isikhathi ukwesaba ukuzithuthukisa kudibaniswa ne-imposter syndrome, ukuphazamiseka okuvezwa yinto yokukhwabanisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphumelela kangakanani.
Ukuphatha Ukwesaba Ukungaphumeleli kunye Nentsapho Yempumelelo
Bobabini ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli kunye nokwesaba impumelelo kubakho ukuphendula kakuhle kunyango. Iindlela zobuchule zokuziphatha zihlala zisetyenziselwa ukunceda umntu ukufunda iindlela ezintsha zokucinga ngokukhetha kwakhe.
Iingxaki zengqondo zengqondo zisiza umntu ukuba aziqonde kangcono iingxabano ezisemgangathweni ezinokuba negalelo kule nkxalabo. Ukuba uloyiko luqhutywa ngumvakalelo wokungalawulwa bubomi bakhe, oko kuqhutyelwa umyalelo apho umxhasi akhuthazwa ukuba enze izigqibo ngokuzimela.
Bobabini ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli kunye nempumelelo ziimeko ezilukhuni ezinokuthintela abagulayo ukuba bafezekise ngokupheleleyo. Nangona uncedo lobugcisa, nangona kunjalo, zombini iimeko zinganqoba ngempumelelo.
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