Emva kokufa kwezidakamizwa, xhasana kwaye Mamela
Emva kokufa kweziyobisi kwintsapho, kuyaqhelekile ukuba izalamane kunye nabathandekayo baxhalabele. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhasa abantu abajongene nokutshabalaliswa kweziyobisi kunokuba nzima.
Nangona kunokubakho iinkumbulo ezintle zamava amahle kunye nomntu othandekayo oye wafa, kunokuhle kube nokukhumbula okubuhlungu kwizinto ezimbi, kunye nokukhathazeka okubangelwa ukumbona umntu othandayo otywala okanye obundlobongela, iingxaki zemali ezinokuchaphazela intsapho , imbali yabo enokwenzeka yokuxhaphazwa ngokomzimba , ngokomzwelo okanye ngokwesondo , iingxaki zomthetho , okanye ubunzima obunye ubudlelwane. Ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo okanye amalungu omndeni kwiziyobisi zibuhlungu kakhulu ukuba umntu wayemncinci, kwaye mhlawumbi unempilo.
Nangona ukungahambi kakuhle, usenokufumana indlela yokuxhasa umntu olahlekelwe ngumthandabuzo weziyobisi. Zama ukufumana ugqozi kuludwe lweengcebiso ezingezantsi.
Yiba khona
Xa uzama ukuxhasa umntu ophelelwe ngumhlobo okanye othandekayo ekufeni kweziyobisi, abantu bahlala bebuza indlela yokunika inkxaso kunye nokulwa kwabo magama omlingo oya kuthatha intlungu.
Unokwenza oku ngokuzibonela ngokwenyama kwaye ubancede bazive bengabodwa. Umzekelo:
- uye kutyelela ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo
- ziyafumaneka kwiifowuni zefowuni
- phendula ngokukhawuleza ukuthumela imiyalezo ye-imeyile
- thumela ikhadi, ileta, okanye iintyatyambo
Mamela
Ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngokuthetha "into efanelekileyo", nangaphezulu ngokuvumela umntu ukuba athethe ngamava abo, ukuba ukhetha. Ukuphulaphula kukuquka ukunika ingqalelo umntu ngokupheleleyo xa uvumela ithuba lokuthetha ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa.
Yamkela iMvakalelo yoMntu
Umntu othandekayo oshonelwe ukufa ngenxa yeziyobisi usenokuba neengxaki eziphikisayo nakwezinye abantu abasweleyo. Ba no kuziva:
- inkululeko okanye isihluthulelo sokuba umlutha awusayi kubakhokelela ubomi babo ngokungaqiniseki nokusetyenziswa kakubi
- Ukudabuka okukhulu malunga nokuba kwakunjani ukuba umfi wahlambuluka
- unetyala malunga namaxesha ayenqwenela ukuba nawo onke
- ngandlela-thile uxanduva lokuzisa ukufa komntu othandekayo
Akukho nanye yale mvakalelo ayiphutha, kwaye ukumkelwa kwakho kuya kunceda umhlobo wakho ukuba asebenze.
Ukubonisa Imvakalelo, kodwa Ungabi Nesihe
Ukuthi "Ndiyaxolisa ukuba uhamba naloo nto," unokuxhaswa ngaphezu kwezimvo ezinje, "Ndiyayiqonda indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo." Nangona ulahlekelwe ngumntu ekufeni kwiidakamizwa, amava kunye nolwalamano kungenzeka ukuba behluke kakhulu, ngoko ukubonisa ukuqonda ongenayo kunokungafani nomntu oswelekileyo.
Ukubonakalisa uvelwano lokwenene kwiimvakalelo zomntu zonke ezingenokuba yintlungu, njengale:
- umsindo
- buhlungu
- kudana
- zisola
Hlalani ningekho
Ukuhlala ungathathi hlangothi kunokunyaniseka, ngakumbi ukuba unamava ambi, okanye izimvo malunga nomfi. Kodwa kuncedisa ngakumbi ukubonisa ingcamango okanye iimvakalelo ezimbi malunga nomntu ofile, nokuba umntu oshonelweyo wenza njalo.
Ukuba intetho ebhubhileyo malunga nobugwenxa nokuxhaphaza umntu onomlutha, ukubonisa ukuxhalaba kubo, umzekelo, ngokuthi, "Oku kufuneka ukuba kunzima kuwe," kunokuba, "andazi ukuba kutheni ubekezela idiot. "
Oku kuvumela ukuba abafelweyo bafikelele kwiimvakalelo zabo, kwaye bamkele izizathu zabo ngendlela abaphatha ngayo ubudlelwane babo, nokuba ngaba ungazivakalelwa ukuba zichanekile.
Khuthaza noKhathalelo lokuNakekela
Usizi kunye nokudandatheka ngezinye iinkhathi kunokufumana indlela yabantu abazinyamekelayo. Ukulala rhoqo, ukutya kunye nokuzilolonga kunokuwa phantsi kwendlela.
Abafelweyo banokuyeka ukwenza ucoceko olulungileyo kwaye bangakwazi ukugcina ikhaya labo licocekile kwaye lihlambulukile. Khuthaza kwaye uncedise ngendlela enomusa, engaqondakaliyo.
Uncedo Ngezenzo
Kukho imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla umntu osizileyo angayihoywa ngenxa yokuba azive ecinezelekile okanye akanakufumana amandla.
Unokuxhaswa ngu:
- babysitting
- ukulungiselela ukutya
- ukuncedisa imisebenzi yasekhaya
Kukho iindlela ezongezelelweyo zokunyamekela, ezinokubonakala ziphazamisekile kubantu abafelweyo, njengale:
- ukwazisa abahlobo kunye nosapho lokufa
- ukwenza amalungiselelo omngcwabo
- ukujongana noogqirha, amagqwetha kunye nemiba yefa
- ukujongana neengxaki zomthetho ezingaphendulwanga ezibangelwa ukuxhatshazwa, njengetyala, okanye imiba ecaleni kokufa kwezidakamizwa ngokwazo
Gwema ukutshaya
Kungaba ngumnikelo onzima kumncedi olahlekelwe ngumthandayo. Iimvakalelo zinokugijima phezulu, kwaye zinokukrabalaza ukuzama ukunceda. Kodwa ukunyaniseka kwakho kubalulekile.
Ukuba uziziva ukhululekile ngokwakho, buyela emva kwaye uthathe ikhefu. Musa ukuvumela intukuthelo ukuba ikhuphuke, uze ufikelele komnye ngomntu oswelekileyo. Ukuba bafumanisa, oku kungabangela umonakalo kumntu oswelekileyo kunokuba awuzange uzame ukubancedisa kwindawo yokuqala.
Ukuhambelana noMntu kwizehlakalo ezinzima
Kukho iziganeko emva kokufa komntu onomlutha oya kunzima kumntu oshonelwe. Ukuxhasa, unako ukunikela ukuba uhambe nabo:
- yenza ingxelo kuma polisa okanye kubathwali
- kuthetha noogqirha, abalawuli bamngcwabo kunye namagqwetha
- inkundla iqhubeka
Hlonipha abafelwayo ukuba bafuna ukwenza ezi zinto kuphela.
Qaphela ukuba loo ntlungu iNkqubo
Inkxwaleko yinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi ebandakanya amanyathelo athile ahlukeneyo, kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeemvakalelo. Abantu bahluke kakhulu kuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba babuyiselwe ekufeni komntu othandekayo.
Vumela abafelweyo bahambe kule nkqubo ngendlela yabo nangexesha labo, ngelixa benokholo lokuba ekugqibeleni, baya kufumana uxolo.
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