Ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana, i-Negative Body Image kunye nokutya ngokutya
AWUKHO wedwa
Ukuba uthe waxhatshazwa okanye unganyamekelwa kakuhle njengomntwana, kwaye ngoku ulwa nomdla wokutya, awuyedwa. Abanye abaninzi abahlukunyezwa kakubi kwabantwana kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwabo baqhubekile ekuphuhliseni i- Binge Eating Disorder (BED), ingxaki yokutya okugqithisileyo ngokuqhelekileyo ekuthiwa yihlobo lokutya umlutha , ekudala. Ukuvakalelwa nokuthi, "Ndiyayithiya umzimba wam" uqheleke kakhulu, ngakumbi kubantu abaxhaphazwayo ebuntwaneni.
Iimvakalelo Zakho Ngawe
Ukuba unobuncwane bokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana, kwaye unomdla wokutya okungaphezu kokutya, usenokuba nemvakalelo engathandekiyo ngokwakho, eyaziwa ngokuba yi-self-esteem. Iingxaki ngokuzithemba okuphantsi kwazo ziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu ababesetyenziswe kakubi njengabantwana. Kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa oku, njengokuba abantu abaninzi bebeka ubuso obomeleleyo kwihlabathi, kodwa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokuthatha umthwalo wabantu kubantu abavela kuzo zonke iindlela zokuphila. Ukuzithemba okuthobekileyo kuthintela abantu abaninzi, nokuba ngaba baxhatshazwa okanye bangaphathwa kakubi, ngamanye amaxesha bayakhokelela okanye baqhutywe kakubi ngokutya ngokutya okanye ezinye izilingo .
Enyanisweni, ukuzithemba okuphantsi yile ngxaki eqhelekileyo kangangokuba phantse nawuphi na umcebisi oya kubona uya kuba nako ukukunceda ukunqoba le mivakalelo engalunganga ngawe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukusekelwe kumbono ongenakwenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba uxhatshazwa okanye uphathwa kakubi njengomntwana. Ukucebisa, nokuba ngaba luleko lweengcali zokutya ngokugqithisileyo okanye umlutha, okanye ukululekwa rhoqo kunye nomcebisi jikelele okanye isazi sezengqondo, kunokukunceda uzibone ngokukhanya okwenene, ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda izinto ezenza uzive ulungile.
Imizwa Yakho Ngomzimba Wakho
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu, ingakumbi abasetyhini, bazive benganelisekanga ngemizimba yabo kule mihla. Abaninzi basolisa iifashishini kunye nezokutya zokukhuthaza ukucinga okungenangqiqo yento abantu abafanele bajonge ngayo. Nangona imodeli ayinakukwazi ukuhlala kule mimiselo engenakwenzeka, efuna iimpahla zokuyila, i-makeup excessively, kunye neekhamera eziqilileyo kunye neendlela zokubhabhisa umoya ukufezekisa imbali yokufezekisa esiyibonayo kumaphephancwadi.
Abanye abadliwayo banokuvakalelwa ngokukodwa ngemizimba yabo, kangangokuthi inokuba yinxalenye yengxaki. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abadli bezondlo abaye baxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye baxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngokukhethekileyo abanokungonwabi ngemizimba yabo, nangakumbi kunokuba badla ubomi bebhinqa ababengabantwana babo babesele bexhatshazwe ngokomzimba, ukunyanzelwa ngokwenyama, kunye nokunyanzeliswa ngokomzimba. Yaye ukuziva kakubi ngomzimba wakho kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze ukutyeba kwakho ngokugqithiseleyo.
Njengoko ngokuzithoba, ukungahlali komzimba yingxaki abacebisi kunye neengqondo zeengqondo abajamelana nabaxhasi babo imihla ngemihla, ngoko ukufikelela kuncedo kuya kuhlanganiselwa ngokuqonda kunye nenkxaso. Ngenxa yokuba umfanekiso wakho ompofu womzimba wakho usekelwe kumgangatho ongenangqiqo, umcebisi okanye isazi seengqondo kunokukunceda uqaphele ubuhle bakho obukhethekileyo, esekelwe kubani okhoyo ngokwenene, kungekhona kwiingcinga zobuqili, ukwakheka, okanye ukulungelelanisa okanye ukukhanda umzimba.
Ukuthabatha ngezwi le-Abuser yakho
Uphando luye lwanceda ekufumaneni isizathu sokuba abantu ababenomzwelo okanye besetyenziselwa ukuphathwa kakubi ngokwesini banempawu ezidangalisa ngakumbi kunye nokunganeliseki komzimba, kunye neengxaki ezinzima zokutya. Kubonakala ngathi ukuzigxeka kuyinto ebalulekileyo ebangela ukuba abanye batywala bazive bengento embi ngemizimba yabo.
Enye indlela yokuqonda lo mzekelo kukuba abantu babechukunyiswa ngokwemvakalelo njengokuba abantwana bexhatshazwa kakubi kumxhaphazi wabo, apho bajika bajika, babe ngabagxeki babo. Oku kwenzekayo nokuba ingekho impawu ezixinezelekileyo eziphuhlisayo, nangona iimpawu ezixinezelekileyo zingaqinisa umphumo wokuzigxeka ngokwasemzimbeni ombi. Abantu ababethathwe kakubi ngokwesondo bavame ukuhlakulela umzobo womzimba ngenxa yokuphathwa njengezinto zesini ngabaxhaphazi babo, ngelixa bebehlakulela ukuqonda imizimba yabo.
Ukuba unyango lwezocwangco okanye ukuxhaphazwa ngokomzimba kunokutshintsha indlela othetha ngayo ukuze ube ngumhlobo wakho omhle, kunokuba utshaba lwakho olubi kakhulu.
Ukubhala iimpawu zakho zendlela enye ongayenza ngayo ukutshintsha indlela othetha ngayo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye unokuba nomphumo ongapheliyo ngendlela 'uthetha ngayo' yakho entloko.
Ngaba Ubundlobongela Bokubangela Ubutya?
Siyazi ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obuqili phakathi kokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana kunye nokuxilwa kweentlobo zokutya, kunye nokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana kunye nezinye izifo zokutya, izilingo kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Siyazi nokuba uhlobo lokuxhaphazwa okanye ukungahoywa kwintlanzi abadliwayo xa babengabantwana babenefuthe elibonakalayo kumfanekiso wabo omzimba ombi xa bekhulile. Nangona kunjalo, oku akukona ubungqina bokusetyenziswa kakubi kwabantwana kubangela le ngxaki kwimpilo kamva.
UDkt. David Dunkley kunye nabalingane bakhe, abaqhuba isifundo kunye nabantu abadala abadala abangama-170 abafuna ukuncedwa ngokutya, kunye neengxaki zabo ezingazange zichazwe yinto ebonakalayo yenyama okanye yengqondo, yabonisa indlela yokudibanisa phakathi kokuxhashazwa kwabantwana kunye Ukunganeliseki komzimba kuququzelelwa ngokuzigxeka.
Kodwa nangona ukuzitshitshiswa kunomphumo omkhulu kumfanekiso womzimba ongathandekiyo, akunakwenzeka ukuxela kuloluphando ukuba ngaba ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana ngokwenene kubangele ukugxeka, ukungahlali komzimba okanye ukutya. Indlela kuphela yokufumanisa oku kuya kuba kukulandelela abantu ngexesha, ukususela ebuntwaneni.
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