Ukunceda Abantwana Ngenkxalabo kuququzelele ukuQeqesha iZakhono zoLwazi
Ukujamelana nenguqu enkulu, uxinzelelo okanye ingxaki inokukrhafisa abantu abadala, kunye nezingane, izinto ezinjalo zinokuba nzima. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abanalo izakhono zokuxhatshazwa ukuba umntu oqhelekileyo uthathe ixesha elizeleyo lokuphuhlisa, ukunceda abantwana bahlakulele izakhono zokujamelana neengxaki kunye nokuxinezeleka okukhulu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bancede abantwana kunye nabantu abadala ababathandayo.
Kunokuba nje ubaxelele konke kuya kulungile, kunceda ukuthetha nabo kunye nokubonisa indlela yokujamelana noxinzelelo ukuze baqonde ukuba benzani xa beziva bexinzelelo kubadala - kwaye xa abantwana babo bevakalelwa.
Ezi zilandelayo zicwangciso ezilula kunye nezicwangciso zokunceda abantwana bajamelane namaxesha amanzima:
Qwalasela
Wonke umzali uyazi ukuba abantwana bayaphumelela ngqalelo enkulu yabantu abadala. Xa uncedisa abantwana ekujonganeni namaxesha anzima, kubalulekile ukukhumbuza oku, kwaye unika ingqwalasela eyongezelelweyo kubantwana nangona bengayifuni ngokusemthethweni. Oku kunzima kunzima kwixesha leengxaki ukukhulula ixesha elongezelelweyo lokuchitha imali kwiintsana - ukutyekela kwezinto zendalo kudla ukuba abantwana balahleke ngokukhwaza - kodwa le yithuba apho abantwana banokufuna ingqalelo yakho. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokunceda abantwana bajamelane nokunikela ingqwalasela engakumbi:
- Ukuphulaphula
Ngoxa le nto ayinjalo kwimeko nganye, kudla ukuba luncedo ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokukhathazeka, babuze imibuzo malunga noko bangalindela, kwaye bazive nje ukuba abajongene nezinto kuphela. Ukuhlala phantsi kunye neentliziyo zentliziyo ngokugxila ekuphulaphuleni kunokunceda abantwana baqhube ukucwangcisa iimvakalelo zabo, isakhono esiluphilileyo sokusebenzisana kwakhona. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga nezakhono zokuphulaphula iingcebiso malunga nokuphulaphula ngokuthe ngqo.)
- Imisebenzi Yokwabelana
Abanye abantwana abakhululekile nje ngokuvula malunga neengcamango zabo neemvakalelo zabo, kwaye banokukhuthazwa ukuba bathethe izinto ngokubandakanya umsebenzi olwabelwana ngawo. Abazali abaninzi bamakhwenkwe sele beyazi ukuba kungathatha umdlalo wokubamba okanye uhambo lokuloba ukuze ukhulise oonyana babo malunga nento engqondweni yabo. Amantombazana angenelwa kwixesha elithile elithulileyo kunye nomzali ngokunjalo. Kwaye nangona kungabandakanyi intetho yomntu malunga neemvakalelo, ukuchitha ixesha nomzali kunye nokwenza imisebenzi eyathuthuzelayo inokumnceda ukukhululeka kokuxinezeleka. Ukwazi indlela yokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yokuthoba xa ugxininiswe esinye isakhono esilungileyo sokuphendula. (Nazi ezinye iingcamango zokuxinwa kwemisebenzi ongayenza kunye nezingane zakho.)
- Ukwazi
Enye inzuzo yokuchitha ixesha elide kunye nezingane kukuba unokukwazi ukubona indlela abahamba ngayo, kwaye bangenelela xa kuyimfuneko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ubona iimpawu ezinkulu zokuhoxisa, ubunzima bokulala nokutya, okanye ezinye iinguqu eziphawulekayo ekuziphatheni, uyazi ukuba uza kungena nini ngoncedo olongezelelweyo ekhaya, kwaye xa kube yinto efanelekileyo ukubonisana nodokotela wezilwanyana okanye ugqirha.
Ncitshiswe impembelelo
Ngoxa ungeke ukhuphe ngokupheleleyo abantwana bakho kuzo zonke iingxaki ozijongene nazo (nangona bengabandakanyekanga ngqo, abantwana bayaziwa ngokuba baxhamla kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo kubazali babo, ngokungathi nge-osmosis), unokwenza ezinye izinto ukunciphisa ukuvezwa kwabo kwixinzelelo. Oku kunokubanceda bafunde iindlela zokunciphisa ukuzityhila kwabo ekuxinineni ekuhambeni komsebenzi-esinye isakhono esilungileyo sokuphendula. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuzama:
- Vala i-TV
Le ngcamango enhle ukuba ubhekane neentlekele zemvelo okanye omnye umxinzelelo ophezulu. Ngokufumaneka kwikhompyutheni, akukho mfuneko yokuba neefoto eziphazamisayo zidlalwe kwaye ziphinde zilayishwe kwigumbi lokuhlala. Nangona abantwana bancinci banokuyithatha ingcinezelo engakumbi kulokhu ngokuphawula uxinzelelo kubantu abadala abakubonayo kunye nakwesikrini.
- Ukugcina iiRoutines
Xa yonke into ibonakala iyatshintsha (okanye iwahlukana) ejikeleze kuwe, kunokuba nzima ukugcina iindlela ezilungeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, yinto efanelekileyo ukuzama. Iyakhuthaza abantwana (kwaye mhlawumbi nawe,) nokuba nezinto ezininzi zihlala zihlala zihlala njalo, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba umgudu wokuba nexesha lokulala, amaxesha okudla kunye neminye imisebenzi yentsapho iyafana. - Nenyameko Oko Ukwabelana ngako
Xa bejamelene neengxaki, abantwana bafuna ukwazi ukuba izinto ziya kubachaphazela njani, kwaye zibuza imibuzo eninzi. Ayikho yonke imibuzo ebuzwayo idinga impendulo, kwaye amaninzi angcono ekuphenduleni kummandla olinganiselwe. Nangona akuyona into efanelekileyo yokuthetha amanga kubantwana, akudingeki ukuba bazi zonke iinkcukacha zomtshato, inhlekelele yendalo okanye ukugula okukhulu. Bafuna nje ukuba bazi into echaphazelayo, into ekufuneka bayilungiselele ngqo, kwaye yintoni efanelekileyo kwiminyaka yabo. Baya kufunda bonke ngokuthe ngcembe, xa befuna ukwazi, kwaye njengoko bekhula kwaye banako ukuphatha ngaphezulu.
Bonisa iNdlela
Ukuba bhetele okanye ngakumbi, xa ubhekene nosongelo, abantwana bakho bakhangele kuwe ukuba babone ukuba benzani. Akukho mntu omdala ophelelekileyo, kodwa ukuba ngumzekelo omhle wokulawulwa kweengxaki akufuneki ukufezekiswa, nje umzamo wakho omhle. Kwaye umntu omdala obamba ngendlela ephilileyo unika umgangatho wokhuseleko kunye nokuzinza kwabantwana, kunye nemodeli eneendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuxhatshazwa. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokukunceda ngazo abantwana bakho ngokugxininisa kuwe.
- Umzekelo wezeMpilo eziKhuphisana neZakhono
Ukuba ukhathazekile okanye uxinzeleleke (okuqondakalayo kwintlekele), oku kuya kuphazamisa amanqanaba okunyamezela abantwana bakho kunye neyakho, ngoko ke ngoku yisikhathi sokulungiselela kunye nezakhono zokuphilisa. Zama ukulungiswa ngokusemandleni. Gxila kwizinto ezifunekayo ukuba zenziwe, kwaye ube mnene nawe. Ungalibali ukuphefumula. Futhi uchithe ixesha elininzi lokuphumla kunye nezingane zakho ngokusemandleni. Oku kuya kunceda wena kunye nezingane zakho. (Jonga eli nqaku ngezinye iinkcukacha kwizakhono zokuphilisa impilo .) - Nceda Abo Bafuna
Nangona ujongene neengxaki, unokunceda abanye abanokuthi babebi nakakhulu kunako. Olu hlobo lokuguquka lunokuba luncedo kwintsapho yakho yonke ngenxa yokuba inokubonelela zonke iingxaki zokulawula uxinzelelo lwe-altruism , kunye nomoya wokulawula , ezinokukunceda ukuphelisa uxinzelelo. Ukongeza, kunokuthuthuzela abantwana ukuba babe yingxenye yesisombululo kwaye bazi ukuba abanye abantu ngaphandle kwakho banjengawe, onokubanceda xa beyidinga. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga nokunceda abanye iingcamango.)
Ukuxhobisa Abantwana Bakho
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha zonke iimeko abajamelana nazo, kodwa unako ukuxhobisa ngezakhono zokuhlangabezana kunye nokubanceda ukuba baqonde indlela abajamelene ngayo, kwaye baqinise ubuchule bakho bokuhlangabezana ngexesha elifanayo.