Ngaba uyancatshiswa ngomhlalaphantsi wakho? Ngaba ukhathazeka ukuba uya kubambelela kuwe imini nobusuku ngaphandle kokungazi ukuba benzani naye? Ngaba ucinga ukuba unokuba ngumsindo okanye uzaliswe ngethuba lexesha elitsha kunye nenkululeko?
Ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi kuya kuba nzima kumadoda, kunye nabafazi babo, abangazange balungiselele ngokutshintshwa kwenguqu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda azichazile ngokwasemsebenzini kunye nezinye iindima, ezifana noyise okanye umyeni, okwesibini.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abafazi baye bahlala ezininzi kwiindima, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umsebenzi wabo ngaphandle kwendlu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo zentlalo kunabantu. Ngoko, akumangalisi ukuba umhlalaphantsi unokwenza abantu bazive belahlekile, banesizungu, bancike ngakumbi kwiqabane labo. Oku, kungakhokelela ekubeni kuluhlobo olutsha lomtshato.
Nazi iinqunto ezisibhozo zabafazi ekuncedeni ukusinda komhlalaphantsi komyeni wabo:
- Khumbula, umhlala-phantsi awusizo iintsapho. Ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi kunika indlela entsha yobomi, kodwa, kuthatha isicwangciso, isibindi, nokuzimisela ukudala umhlalaphantsi kunye nomtshato.
- Uphupha amaphupha akho amakhulu kwaye uceba kwangaphambili. Kule minyaka, uvile ngokubaluleka kokuseka isicwangciso semali yomhlalaphantsi. Ababini abasebenzisa ixesha elihle lokucwangcisa indlela abafuna ukuchitha ngayo umhlala-phantsi ngokubanzi baxela ukuba oku kuye kwaba negalelo elongezelelweyo kulonwabo lwabo kunecebo labo. Ukwamkela amaphupha akho kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yolu hlobo locwangciso. Nangona ezinye zala maphupha zibiza kakhulu okanye zinzima ukuziphinda, zivelisa ithuba lokucwangcisa ukudala. Ababini bavame ukufumanisa ukuba ezi zinto zifikeleleka, ngamanye amaxesha ngendlela engabizi okanye eyimbeko, kwaye zizalisekisa nangona kunjalo.
- Ukuchonga into oyithandayo ukwenza kunye. Ezinye izibini zicinga ukuba zinokubambisana kakhulu ngoku ukuba zihlala phantsi. Ukwabelana ngemisebenzi enentsingiselo oyithandayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokwandisa ukuzonwabisa kwakho ekuchitha ixesha kunye kunye. Cinga ngeyiphi na imisebenzi emitsha ofuna ukuzisebenzisa wena okanye nabanye.
- Yakha isikhala somntu ngamnye kwikhaya lakho iqabane kwaye uvumele ixesha ukuba uphishekele iimfuno zakho. Sonke sifuna indawo kunye nexesha lokuba yedwa okanye ukulandela izinto zethu. Ukuba nommandla omncinci omnye umntu owuhloniphayo njengendawo ekhethekileyo yeqabane kunye nexesha elingenacala-nxaxheba lokuzibandakanya kule mibalelo ngamnye kunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa kulwalamano.
- Yiba neengxoxo ezinesibindi apho amaqabane aziva ekhululekile ekuchazeni iimfuno zabo kunye nezinto ezixhalabisa ngayo malunga nale nqanaba lobomi obutsha. Abalingani abangabelana nabo ngethemba okanye ukwesaba kule nqanaba elitsha lobomi banokuba nzima ukuqonda izenzo zabanye okanye izimo zengqondo. Ngokomzekelo, indoda eyayinobubele ubomi bakhe okanye iphoqelelwe ukuba ihambe phantsi komhlalaphantsi ingatshatyalaliswa kukuba ayisebenzi. Ngaphandle kokuba ancedise umfazi wakhe ukuqonda le mvakalelo, mhlawumbi uya kubacaphukisa indlela awayebonisa ngayo. Unxibelelwano luye lwaba luba luleke kulo lonke umtshato wakho kwaye luye ngakumbi ngakumbi ngoku.
- Musa ukuthi "akakho" okanye "uhlala uhlala." Ukuba okanye xa ingxabano ibonakala, iqabane elityholwa liva kuphela icala lokubeka ityala okanye ityala, kungekhona isizathu esenza ukuba iqabane likhutshwe. Kusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukuxelela iqabane lakho isizathu sokuba isenzo esithile siyingxaki kunokuba sityholo. Ngokomzekelo, mhlawumbi wathatha inkunkuma kwiveki okanye ezimbini. Ukuva ukuba awuyi kuthatha udoti luyakuthi luvelise ukukhusela.
- Thatha ixesha lokuphulaphula oko umlingani wakho othethayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokukodwa xa kukho ukungaboni, sivame ukucinga ukuba sivile oko omnye athethayo. Ngaphandle koko, asiphulaphuli nonke. Ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo buba novelwano oluninzi, kwaye lufezekiswa xa siva intlungu, ukukhathazeka okanye iminqweno. Ukuba ufumene lo mda kumtshato wakho, usenokwaluxabisa imbono yomnye nomnye. Musa ukulibala oku xa iqabane lakho lihlala umhlala phantsi.
- Fumana izizathu zokuba nomusa komnye nomnye. U bubele bu suleleka. Kunzima ukuhlala utyhafile xa omnye umntu enomdla kuwe, kwaye ububele bunceda ekuqiniseni ubudlelwane njengoko imibhangqwana ikhula ekuthandeni nasekubulelaneni kwabo. Vumela ukuncoma kunye "mbulela" ukuphuma kumlomo wakho kaninzi.
Ukuthatha umhlala-phantsi akufuneki kuthetha intsingiselo yomtshato wakho. Kuthetha ukuba utshintsho olukhulu. Ukuguqulwa kukuza kuxinzelelo kwaye utshintsho. Kukho iindlela zokwenza oku kulungelelanise kunokwenzeka ukwenzela ukuba nonke nibe nolonwabo olufanelekileyo kulesi sigaba kwimpilo yenu nasemtshatweni.