Ukukhubazeka Kwimiba Kwangathi Ingabonakalisa Inkathazo Yokukhathazeka
Iimpawu zokukhubazeka zisetyenziselwa ukuchonga amandla okuphuhlisa uxinzelelo ngokuhlola iimpawu kubantwana abanjengokoyika, ukuhlazeka okanye ukuhoxiswa kwiimeko ezintsha okanye ezingaqhelekanga kunye neemeko.
Ngelixa uphando malunga nokuzimela kokuziphatha kunye nokuthembeka kwalo ukuqikelela ukuxhalaba emva koko ebusweni, kusetyenziswe ukuba uphando lube luphawu olubangela ukuba unyango lwangaphambili lwenzeke.
Ukuxhalabisa ngokweentlalo kungabangela ukugula kwengqondo kunye nemiphumo emibi. Ukuchongwa kwangaphambili kunye nokungenelela kubalulekile ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi kunye nokuthintela ezinye iimeko ezifana nokudandatheka .
Ukujongana nokukhathazeka kweNtlalo
Nangona izazinzulu zingakhange zichonge isizathu esithile sokuphazamiseka kwengxaki ezifana nokukhathazeka kwentlalo yoluntu (SAD), abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba kudibene nezinto eziphilayo, ezengqondo nezentlalo. Abantu abaninzi banenkxalabo yokuxhatshazwa kweentlalo kwiminyaka bengenakufumana unyango olufanelekileyo, nokuba bangenakufumana uncedo okanye ngenxa yokuba bafumaniswanga kakuhle. Ukukhathazeka okungabonakali kunokubangela ukuxinezeleka okukhulu kunye nokuziphatha okuzibulala, ngoko kubalulekile ukufumana uncedo ngokukhawuleza.
Kwabaninzi, ukukhathazeka kwezenhlalakahle kuqala kwiminyaka yobudala kwaye ibe ngumntu osemdala. Ngokubaluleka abantu beselula kwaye banike ithuba lokukhetha unyango olufanelekileyo, ubunzima bexhala lentlalo luncitshiswa.
Indlela yokuziphatha yokukhubazeka yinto ebalulekileyo yobuntwaneni njengoko ingaba yintsholongwane yokuqala yeengxaki zokuxhalabisa kwaye ibalulekile ekufumaneni i-diagnostic efanele.
Ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha nokukhathazeka kweNtlalo
Umzimba ophandayo wophando ubonisa uxhulumaniso phakathi kweendlela zobuntu zobuntwana nokuphuhlisa uxhalaba loluntu kamva ebomini.
Ubunzima bokuzikhusela luhlobo lomntu olubonisa ukutyekela nokukhathazeka kwiimeko ezintsha. Indlela yokuziphatha engabonakaliyo kubantwana iquka iintloni malunga nabantu abangaqhelekanga kunye nokuhoxiswa kwiindawo ezintsha.
Ukukhubazeka kokuqala kokuziphatha akusikho isiqinisekiso sokudala uxhalaba emva koko. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, abaninzi bafunda ukuphendula kwiimeko ezintsha kunye nabantu abatsha ngendlela engqiqo. Nangona kunjalo, abanye baya kuqhubeka bebonisa iimpawu zokuxhalaba ebomini babo baze babe ngabantu abadala.
Olunye uphando luqalise ukuhlolisisa indlela yokunciphisa ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha ukunciphisa uxhalabe loluntu.
- Amacandelo okunyamekela okunjengezo zinto ezikhuthaza ukuzimela, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuxhotyiswa kwabantwana kunokuncedisa ukunqoba ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha kamva.
- Ukubonelela abantwana ngokubhekiselele kwiimeko ezintsha zentlalo kunye nemisebenzi kunokubanceda ukuba bakhe izakhono zentlalo.
- Ukunyamekela ngokungapheliyo, njengokunika uncedo xa kungabalulekanga, kunokunyusa ukonakala kokuziphatha kwaye kunokunyusa ukuxhalabisa kwiimeko ezintsha.
Uphando oluthile olukhoyo lunokubonisa ukuba indlela efanelekileyo yokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba abe nethemba kwaye engakhathazeki kukuba umkhuthaze ukuba azimelele aze amnike ithuba lokuzixazulula ingxaki kuye ngokwakhe.
Oku kunokwakha isiseko apho umntwana engadingi ukunyanzelisa abanye kwiimeko zentlalontlu, ukunciphisa amathuba okuxhalaba kwentlalo ekuhlaleni kamva.
Ngokufunda ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha kunye nokuxhalaxwa kweentlalo, ootitshala bangakwazi ukungenelela kwangaphambili ukukhusela ukuxhalabisa ekungabikho komsebenzi wokubambezela imihla ngemihla.
ILizwi
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha, oku akuyimfuneko uphawu loxinzelelo lwentlalo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukubeka iliso ukuziphatha komntwana wakho ukuba ubone ukuba ibuhlungu. Njengomzali, qiniseka ukuba unike umntwana wakho amathuba amaninzi ekujonganeni neengxaki ngaphambi kokuba ungene ekuhlanguleni.
Njengoko ukuzithemba kwengane yakho kukhula, unokwazi ukuba ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha kuyancipha.
Ukuba ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha kubonakala kunokukhula kunokuba kuncinci kwexesha, kunokuba luncedo ukuthetha nodokotela wakho ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho. Ngelo xesha, unokuxoxa malunga nokuba uvavanyo lokuxhalabisa lufanelekile kwaye ukuba ingenelelo ingafaneleka. Khumbula ukuba ukungenelela kwangethuba kukubalulekileyo ekulawuleni uxhalaba, ngoko ungadikibala ukuba umntwana wakho unikwe ukuxilongwa. Kungcono ukuchonga ingxaki esemncinci ngaphambi kokuba ikhule ibe yinto engenakunqunyelwayo ngexesha leminyaka eliselula.
> Umthombo:
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