Ukubonga kusinika ithuba elihle lokwandisa iimvakalelo zethu zokubonga yonke into ebomini bethu. Oku kuyamangalisa amaqondo ethu kunye nobudlelwane bethu, ukwanelisa ubomi, kunye nempilo yethu yonke. Ugxininiso lokubonga olujikeleza ukubonga luyinto elungileyo kuthi kuba lusikhumbuza ukuba kulula kangakanani ukwandisa iimvakalelo zethu zokubonga ngazo zonke izinto esinalo, okwenza kube lula ukuvakalelwa kukuba "sinokwaneleyo" xa sibhekene nokudityaniswa kweentengiso oqala phambi koMnyama ngoLwesihlanu kwaye uyaqhubeka kunyaka omtsha.
Ukuhlakulela ngokubulela ukubulela kunokukunceda kwezinye izinto ezinxulumene neeholide, ezifana nokujongana "nobunzima" kwintsapho kunye nabahlobo ngexesha lokuhlangana, ukulawula uxinzelelo lokuhamba , okanye ukusingatha uluncedo okanye ubusika blues obunokuwela ngexesha leeholide. Ngezantsi zizinto ezithile zokwenza umbulelo onokukunceda ngeengxaki zeeholide kwaye kukunika iimvakalelo ezinkulu kunye nokwaneliseka kunyaka omtsha.
Gcina Incwadana Yokubulela Ngaphambi kokuba Ujamelane Neengxaki
Ndiyindoda enkulu yokubonga ukubhala ngesizathu esihle. Xa ugcina unomxholo wokubulela rhoqo, ufumana ukunyuka kwengqondo kwiseshoni nganye yokubhala, kodwa njengoko kuba ngumkhwa, uhlala uqaphela izinto ebomini bakho omele uzincede ngazo, izinto ongaqhelekanga ngazo. (Oku kungenzeka kuba usebenza ngokubanzi ngokubonga, okanye mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba uya kuyidinga ifowuni ukuba ubhale ngalobo busuku.
Ngayiphi indlela, inzuzo.)
Ukugcina iphephandaba lokubonga ixesha elide liyakwazi ukuguqula ingqondo yakho ibe yinto engcono, enokukunceda ekuxhaseni uxinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, akudingeki ukuba ugcine iphepha lokubhala ngaphambi kweenyanga ngaphambi kokuba ubone ukuzuza kweemvakalelo kwimiqathango; Ukubhengezwa kweentsuku ezimbalwa-nangona kanye-kunokukunceda ukuba ungene kwiqondo elifanelekileyo ukuze uhlale unxibelele uxinzelelo lokubuthwa kweeholide okanye ukuhlangabezana neminye imingeni oyilindeleyo ebomini bakho.
Sebenzisa ukubonga kwiMidiya yoLuntu
Abantu abaninzi bathanda i-tweet okanye bathumele oko bakubulela ngoNovemba, kwaye oku kuyindlela endithanda ukuyibona. Ukukwabelana ngezinto ozixabayo ngobomi bakho kunokubanceda abahlobo bakho banandipha le nto kunye, kwaye banokukunceda wonke ugcine isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngokubanzi. Oku kuyinto ekumele uyigcine engqondweni njengoko u tyelela intsapho ye-Thanksgiving, ubhekane nezihlwele zokuthenga iholide, kwaye uthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi emininzi yexesha leeholide elenza eli xesha lonyaka kodwa lube negalelo kwiishedyuli, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali kunye neengcinga. . Zama nje ukugwema ukuwela kwisitebe sokuqhathanisa nentlalo , kwaye qiniseka ukuba udibanisa kwezinye izihloko kunye nokulinganisela.
Khumbula Oko Uthandayo Ngabantu Ababangela Ukutshatyalaliswa
Xa sivakatye iintsapho zethu ngexesha leeholide, sihlala sijamelana noxinzelelo olungakumbi kunokuba silindele. Iintlanganiso zentsapho zinokubangela uxinzelelo ngezizathu ezininzi: uhambo lokuhamba, ubunzima beqela elikhulu labantu abalambileyo abadibanisa kwindawo encinane ixesha elide, ubuninzi beengxaki ezingaphendululwanga ezivela kwingxoxo, kunye nomsebenzi ukubeka umthendeleko, ukubiza ezimbalwa. (Kwaye oku akubandakanyi uxinzelelo lokunikezela ngezipho oluza ngoDisemba.)
Ukuba uziva uvakalelwa ukuxabana phakathi kwakho nomnye umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho ekuhlanganisweni kweeholide, khumbula ukuba oku kuqhelekileyo kunokuba ungayiqonda, kwaye akuthethi ukuba awuyithandi intsapho yakho. Khumbula, kwakhona, ukuba ukubonga kunokukunceda ukuba uzive uxhomekeke ngakumbi kula bantu abalambileyo, mhlawumbi abantu abakuzungezile. Ukuba uziva uxabana, cinga ngento enye okanye ezimbini ozithandayo malunga nalo mntu okanye amava amnandi owabelane nabo ngaphambili; udibanise nemvakalelo yakho yokubulela lo mntu. Ukuba unemiba emide kunye nomntu, lo msebenzi ungakunceda, njengokuba ezi zi ngcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nabantu abanzima kunye neengxabano zentsapho ezingaphendulwanga .
Yenza Ukubulela Kwimizimba Yeqela
Ngethuba nje ucinga ngezinto oyaziyo ngabo bajikelezileyo, kutheni ungaxolelani kunye nabo bonke abanye iqela kwaye usasaza iimvakalelo? Ungakwazi ukwabelana ngezikhumbuzo ezintle malunga nabo abakungeze okanye uxoxe ngezinto ozixabayo ngazo, kwaye uvumele amanye amaqela ajoyine ngokwemvelo, okanye unokucela abantu ngokukodwa ukuba bafuna ukuhamba ngeklasi baze batshintshane ngokubelana ngesabelo iinkumbulo kunye neqela. Ngandlela-thile, oku kunokusasaza iimvakalelo zothando kunye nokubulela, kwaye mhlawumbi nokudala isithethe esithandwa ngumntu wonke.