Ukuba unengxaki yokukhathazeka kwentlalo (SAD) ungayifumana nzima ukujongana nabamelwane. Unokuphepha ukuthetha nabamelwane bakho okanye ixesha lokungena kwakho kwaye uphume ukuze ungabi ncokola. Emva kwexesha, ezi zicwangciso zokuphepha zingakushiya ibanjwa ekhaya lakho.
Nangona kuya kuba nzima ekuqaleni, ukwazi abahlobo bakho banenzuzo eninzi.
Ukwazi ukuba ngubani ohlala kufuphi nawe wenza indawo yokuhlala ephephile okanye isakhiwo sezindlu. Ukuba nobuhlobo kunye nabamelwane bakho kuthetha ukuba umntu oboleka izinto ukususela xa usesikhungweni. Usenokufumana umhlobo omhle.
Ukuba nobuhlobo nabamelwane bakho akufanele kube nzima. Ngezantsi ezinye iingcebiso zokuqalisa.
- Ukuba ungummelwane omtsha, zama ukwenza ukucinga okulungileyo kuqala. Khetha ixesha lokuzifakazisa xa ummelwane wakho ebonakala ekhululekile kwaye kungekho ngokukhawuleza. Hamba, sityumla uze uphinde uzenzele. Izihloko ezincinci zentetho ziquka indawo ohlala kuyo, imisebenzi kunye nezinto ozenzayo edolophini.
- Xa ubona ummelwane wakho kwakhona, yenza iphuzu lokuthatha ixesha lokuthetha naye ukuba unomdla wokuthetha. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uthetha ntoni, fumana into onokuyincoma ngayo, njengeydidi yakhe.
- Ukuba uvakalelwa ngakumbi, kwaye ummelwane wakho ubonakala njengomntu onokuthanda ukwazi kangcono, qulunqa isizathu sokuthetha kwakhona. Yiya kuboleka into ethile kwiresi okanye kwisixhobo seprojekthi. Ukuba uboleka isithako, mema ummelwane wakho ukuba silingise oko ukwenzayo xa kwenziwa, ukuze ukwazi ukuthetha ngakumbi.
- Unokufumanisa ukuba awunanto efana nabahlobo bakho abatsha. Ingqungquthela yomonakalo kunye "hello" xa uwela iindlela zonke ezifunekayo xa ufumanisa ukuba ubuhlobo abukho.
Ukuba uxhalaba loluntu lunciphisa kakhulu amandla akho okusebenzisana nentlalo kunye nabamelwane bakho okanye nabanye imihla ngemihla, kwaye awunakufumaniswa ukuba unesifo se- SAD, kungabulumko ukuba uthethe noogqirha wakho malunga noyiko lwakho.
Uphando lweSanger Stranger
Musa ukuxhalabisa-uza ngokulwa kwabantu abangaziwayo (kuquka nabamelwane abatsha) ngokunyanisekileyo. Uphando lusitshela ukuba abo baxhalabileyo banokubona abanye bengathembeki kangako-ukuvavanya okubhekiselele ekukhathaleleni kwakho kunokuba nayiphi na ingozi yowesihambi oye wadibana nayo.
Qiniseka ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uyibheka ihlabathi ngokusebenzisa i-lens yokwesaba ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwakho kwentlalo. Zama ukucinga ummelwane wakho omtsha njengomhlobo omdala ukuba asebenze ngokuchasene nale nto. Kancinci, njengoko ufumana kakuhle, loo mntu ungowokuqala ukwesaba uya kuncipha.
Umthombo:
U-Willis ML, uDodd HF, uPalermo R. Ubudlelwane phakathi kokuxhalabisa kunye nezoNgcalulo zeNtlalo zoNxibelelwano kunye nokuThenjwa. UKrueger F, u-ed. PLoS ONE . 2013; 8 (10): e76825. i-doi: 10.1371 / iphephandaba.pone.0076825.