Ulwaphulo lwezesondo luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy olusetyenziswa ekuncedeni abantu kunye nezibini zisingatha iingxaki zesini. Ulwaphulo lwezesondo luyonyango lokuthetha, kungekhona izandla kwiyeza. Iseshoni yonyango yesondo, wonke umntu egumbini uhlala egqoke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye akukho nto ithintekayo. Iingcali zezocansi zingancoma ukufumana iimvavanyo zenyama ukwenzela ukulawula izizathu zonyango zeengxaki zesini.
Abanye bangakhuthaza nokusetyenziswa kwezigulana zesondo kubantu ngabanye abasebenza kwiingxaki zesondo kwaye abanalo iqabane lokusebenzisana nabo. Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha besini ayenzi iimviwo zonyango, okanye asebenzisane ngesondo, nabaxhasi babo.
Yintoni ejolise kuyo?
Inkqubo yokugxila kwengqondo yaqala ukuphuhliswa njengendlela yokunyanga ngesondo ngo-Masters noJohnson kwiminyaka yama-1960. Iquka uchungechunge lweendlela zokuziphatha ezibini ezibini ezenza ndawonye ukuze kuphuculwe ubuhlobo babo kunye nokuxhamla.
Kukho izinto ezisixhenxe ezisebenzayo njengesiseko sokugxila kweengqondo. Zezi:
- Imbopheleleko yobudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane ekujonganeni neemfuno zesini kunye nexhalaba
- Ulwazi kunye nemfundo malunga nomsebenzi wesondo kunye nomsebenzi wesondo
- Ukulungela ukuguqula isimo sengqondo ngesondo
- Ukuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa komsebenzi wesondo
- Ukunceda izibini zithuthukise unxibelelwano malunga nesondo kunye neendlela zesini
- Ukunciphisa iziphathamandla ezinengxaki kunye neendima zesondo kwibudlelwane
- Umsebenzi wasekhaya ukunceda izibini zitshintshe ubudlelwane babo bobulili ngokubhetele
Izimbini ezibalulekileyo kwiimpembelelo zengqwalasela yenyameko yukwamkela uxanduva lomntu kunye nokuzimisela ukwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya njengoko kuchazwe ngumgulana wezesondo. Uxanduva lokubambisana luba luleke ngoba lubeka ubunzima bezesondo njengengxaki yesi sibini endaweni yengxaki yomntu oye wachongwa ngokuba "isigulane".
Izabelo eziqeshwe ekhaya ziyinxalenye ehlula ukugxilwa kweengqondo kwezinye iindlela zokuziphatha.
Inqaku elibonakalayo lokugxininisa ingqwalasela kukuba lithatha ixesha elifutshane ukuziphatha okuxinzelelekileyo kwimenyu yesini esahlukileyo. Emva koko, kunye nemithombo yoxinzelelo esuswe, umgqirha ubeka iresiphi ethile yamanyathelo okumele alandele ukuphucula ubomi bezesondo zesibini.
Yintoni ejolise kuyo?
Iinjongo ezimbini zeenjongo eziphambili zokujoliswa kweengqondo zinciphisa ukukhathazeka kokusebenza nokuphuculwa kolwazi. Umsebenzi oqhelekileyo wokuqala ekhaya wesiqabane esithile apho omnye umlingane ojongene nokungasebenzi kwe-erectile angenza into enje:
Ndifuna ukuba bobabini bafumane ubusuku obini kwiveki ezayo apho ungayichitha ubuncinane iyure kunye. Omnye wenu uya kulungisa umhla ngobusuku bokuqala, omnye ngowesibili. Nabani na ohlela umhla uya kubeka igumbi lokulala ngamaphepha ahlambulukileyo, ukukhanya okuhle, nomculo omnandi obabini bafumana ukuphumla.
Ngaphambi komhla wakho, ngamnye uya kuthatha ihafa elifudumele ukuze uphumule. Ekubeni undixelele ukuba unqwenela ukuba ugqoke ngaphantsi kweengubo zangaphambili kulo mdlalo wokuqala, uya kwenza oko. Emva koko, umntu omisela umhla uya kunceda iqabane lakhe likhulule ebhedeni. Baya kuchitha isigxina seyure bahlolisise kwaye banandiphe ukuvakalelwa komzimba wabo. Okwangoku, siya kuthintela ukuthintela izidalwa zomzimba, njengoko sifuna ukugcina olu thuba lucinezelekile.
Emva kwesigamu seyure, uya kutshintsha. Emva koko elinye iqabane liza kuba nelithuba lokwenza uhlobo olufanayo lokuhlola. Injongo yalo msebenzi wesikolo awuyikunika umlingani wakho ukusilalisa. Kunoko, kukufumana ukuzonwabisa ngokuthintela, kwaye uthinteka, ngaphandle kokulindela. Yingakho kubalulekile ukunxibelelana kulo mhla. Tshela iqabane lakho into oyithandayo nento ongayithandiyo. Baxelele oko kuziva kulungile, kwaye ukuba kukho nantoni na eyenza ungakhathazeki okanye ukuba ungathanda ukuba bayeke.
Ziziphi iimeko ezijoliswe kuzo?
Njengengxenye yonyango locwangco, ukujoliswa kwengqondo kuboniswe ukuba kusebenze ekuphatheni iindidi ezahlukeneyo zokungasebenzi kakubi ngokwesini kwabesetyhini kunye namadoda, kuquka
- Ubuhlungu ngexesha lesini
- Ejaculation
- Ukungasebenzi kwe-Erectile
- Iingxaki zeArousal
- Ukukhathazeka kwezifiso
Ugxininiso olusisiseko lujongene nongenelelo olusisiseko. Ingasetyenziselwa izibini zezobudala ezahlukeneyo, ubulili, kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Uninzi lophando luye lwabafazi abathandanayo. Sekunjalo, abaninzi abaphengululi baye bawamkela ngesini esifanayo kunye neembambano ezihlukeneyo.
Ngaba Ingqwalasela Ebonakalayo Iphumelelayo?
Kukho uphando oluninzi oluhlola ukusetyenziswa kweengcamango zengqondo, zodwa okanye zidibene nezinye iindlela, ukuphucula ukwaneliseka ngokwesini.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukugxininiswa kwengqondo akuncedi nje ukujongana neengxaki ezithile zesini kodwa kunye nokunceda ekuphuculeni ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo kwiibinibini ezingenelisekanga ngokubanzi. Inkqubo sele isetyenziswe njengengxenye yonyango lwezocwangca kubantu abajongene nobunzima bezesondo ngenxa yeemeko zonyango, ezifana nomhlaza wesisu.
Ugxininiso olusisiseko luyamkelwa ngokucwangciswa ngokwesini-therapists kunye nabanye oogqirha abasebenzisana nokungaxhatshazi ngokwesondo. Oku kuyinyani xa kusetshenziselwa ukudibanisa nemfundo entle malunga nokusebenza ngokwesondo kunye nomsebenzi. Ugxininiso olusisiseko lukhangelo olukhuselekileyo, kwaye abaninzi abantu bakuthola kulula ukuyilandela. Okokuthi, inxalenye enkulu, ngenxa yokugxila kwengqondo ngokukodwa yenzelwe inkqubo ephuculwayo kunye nocotho yokunciphisa ukuxhalaba nokusebenza kwengcinezelo ngokuphathelele umsebenzi wesondo.
Uninzi lweengcali zeengcaphephe zengxelo zengqondo kugxininiswe ngendlela echanekileyo kwaye efanelekileyo yokwandisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nokuqhagamshelana phakathi kweembhangqwana, ngesini esifanayo kunye nesondo esahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, akubona zonke izibini okanye abachaphazelekayo ngabanye bathuthuzela ukusebenzisa ukugxila kwengqondo. Yinkqubo efuna uninzi lwentuthuzelo kunye nengxoxo yezihloko zesondo ezicacileyo. Akuyonto into enayo.
Ndingayifumana Njani Iingcali Zezesondo?
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuhamba malunga nokufumana isifo somzimba. Eyona nto inokuthengekayo ngokuqhelekileyo ukukhangela uluhlu lomboneleli kwenkampani yakho yomshuwalense. Khangela umsebenzi wezempilo oziphatha ngokubhekiselele kwiyeza zesondo. Unokuphinda uphendule uluhlu lwezobuchwephesha, njengengqondo ye-Psychology Today Ekugqibeleni, i-American Association of Sexuality Educators, Abacebisi, kunye ne-Therapists igcina uluhlu lwabaphathiswa bezesondo kwiwebhusayithi yabo kwi-AASECT.org. I-AASECT eqinisekisiwe ngeengcali zezocansi zifuneka ukuba ziqeqeshe kunye nokulawulwa kweklinikhi kwimpilo yesondo kunye neendlela zokwelapha.
Qaphela ukuba akubona bonke abathinteli bezesondo bathatha i-inshurensi. Iindleko zonyango lonyango liyakwazi ukuhluka kuye kuxhomekeke apho uhlala khona. Oko kwathiwa, unyango lwezesondo ludla ngokukhawuleza ixesha. Kufuneka kulindeleke ukuba unyango lwezondo olungagqibekanga lungapheli iiyure eziyi-10-12. Nangona kunjalo, inani leeseshoni ozifunayo ziyahlukahluka kuxhomekeke kwiingxaki okhangele ukujongana nazo nokuba ubona ugqirha wezesondo malunga nonyango jikelele.
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