Kukho ingxoxo eninzi malunga nokuba ulwalamano oluthile kwi-intanethi nomntu ongaphandle komtshato wakho luyinto yokuziphatha okanye yokukopela. Yiyiphi into ekufuneka igxininise ngayo iimpawu zolu hlobo lolwalamano olwenza luyingozi kumtshato wakho. Iindaba ze-Cyber zigcinwa ziyimfihlo kwaye zinezandi zengqondo okanye / okanye zesondo. Ngexesha elithile ixesha esichithwa kwi-Intanethi, akumangalisi ukuba ezi ntlobo zobudlelwane zixhaphake ngakumbi.
Ngokutsho kwewebhusayithi ye-American Psychological website, "Iingcaphephe eziliqela zibonisa ukuba nangona kungekho mntu udibene naye kumntu, imicimbi ye-intanethi inokuba yinto ephazamisayo njengento eyahlukeneyo yehlabathi, ivakalelwa iimvakalelo zokungakhuseki, umsindo kunye nomona." Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuqala abantu; ukuphunyuka kwizinto eziyinyaniso, ukunyamekela kwindalo, ukufumana ukuzithemba, ukuphepha ukulwa noxinzelelo, njl. Le micimbi iyenzeka lula njengoko i-intanethi ibonelela ngokufikeleleka, ukukwazi ukufikelela kunye nokungaziwa.
Ngaba ukhathazekile kwaye uyakrokra ukuba iqabane lakho linomcimbi we-inthanethi? Inombolo enye yayiza kuba uqaphela ixesha elidlulileyo kwiikhomputha kunye nezixhobo ezifanayo. Kodwa kukho ezinye, kungekhona iimpawu ezicacileyo.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ze-Inta Affair
- Umlingane wakho ubonisa ukungabikho nkxalabo malunga nolwalamano lwakho lomtshato. Kukho ukuhanjiswa okuninzi, ukuxhatshazwa nokukhusela ukutshata.
- Umlingani wakho akanomdla ekwenzeni izinto nawe okanye ekubhiyozeni iintsuku okanye iholide.
- Uyabona ukuba kukho utshintsho olukhulu kumzekelo wokulala komlingane wakho ngokuhlala kwakhe emva kwexesha okanye ukunyuka ngaphambi kokuqhelekileyo.
- Xa wena kunye neqabane lakho nithandana, isithandwa sakho sithandwa kakhulu xa ulala naye.
- Umlingane wakho unezizathu ezininzi, uxanduva, kwaye ubonisa ukukhanyela utshintsho olubonakalayo kwihambo yakhe.
- Xa ujongene nokuba kude, ukungabikho kwesondo, ixesha elide kwikhompyutheni, kunye nezinye izinto ezixhalabisayo, iqabane lakho likugxeka okanye liyazikhusela.
- Iqabane lakho libonakala lihlukile kunye ne-aphodier.
- Ubamba lula umlingane wakho ukuthetha ubuxoki.
- Umlingani wakho uqala ukungayinaki umzali wakhe, umzi okanye umsebenzi ochaphazelekayo.
- Uyabona ukuba iqabane lakho litshintshile amaphasiwedi kwikhompyutha.
- Iqabane lakho litshintsha ikhomputha kwindawo ekude kuyo ekhaya lakho.
- Iqabane lakho lifuna imfihlo kwaye likhusela malunga nexesha elichithwe kwikhompyutha.
- Umlingane wakho wenqaba ukuthetha ngokusetyenziswa kwekhompyutheni yakhe.
Umlingani wakho akayi kukuvumela ukuba usebenzise ikhompyutha yakhe.
Uyabona iqabane lakho kuqala ukuthenga izixhobo ezongezelelweyo kwiikhompyutha.
Iqabane lakho lifihlakele ngezinye iindlela.
Eninzi ukuyiqwalasela:
- Imiba ye-Cyber ingaba uphawu lwezinye iingxaki kumtshato wakho.
- Ukungabi nxibelelwano, iingxaki zemali, ukufuduka, nokungazinelisi ngokwesini emtshatweni, ukunganeliseki ngokobuchule kunye nezinye iingxaki ezingaxilongokiyo zingabangela ukuziphatha.
- Buza iqabane lakho ukuba unxibelelane ngokunyanisekileyo ukulungisa intlungu kunye nokwakha ukuthembeka.
Umlingane wakho unokufumana umlutha.
- Ungamvumeli ukuba udibaniso lomlingane wakho kwi-pornography okanye kwi-cybersex inempembelelo yakho.
- Ungamkeli nayiphi na ityala okanye inetyala kwisigqibo somlingane wakho sokuba ne-cyber affair. Unokwenza ufune ukubheka ukuziphatha kwakho ukubona ukuba unomdla kumyeni wakho ofuna ukukhangela. Ngokomzekelo, ingabe uyayigxotha, uhlambalaza, engabonisi ukuxabisa, ngokungafuni ukulala ngesondo?
Iqabane lakho kufuneka lizimisele ukukhawuleza lo mcimbi ngokukhawuleza ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
Iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo:
- Kumele uzimisele ukujamelana neqabane lakho ukuba ucinga ukuba i-cyber affair iyaqhubeka.
- Kufuneka uzimisele ukufumana uncedo ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukuzilungisa. Funa uncedo kumcebisi womtshato ovunyelwe.
- Nonke nidinga ukuthetha kunye nokulwa ngokufanelekileyo malunga nefuthe letheknoloji enokuba nomtshato wenu.
- Nonke niza kufuna ixesha lokuphilisa, ukuxolela, ukwakha nokholo, nokuqhubela phambili.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman