Eminye indlela yokuhlola uMlingani wakho
Ukuba unokrokreka ukuba iqabane lakho liba nomcimbi, unokuzibuza ukuba wenzeni. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokukunceda ukujamelana nokungaqiniseki kwakho kwiqabane lakho, kunye nezinye iindlela zokuhlola ulingane wakho.
- Musa ukwenza nayiphi na iinqununu okanye ufikelele kwizigqibo. Nangona amanani abonisa ukuba ama-85% wabasetyhini kunye nama-50% wamadoda ekugqibeleni afumanisa ukuba izikhalazo zabo zichanekile kwaye iqabane lawo likhohlisa, unokungahambi kakuhle.
- Zibuze imibuzo: Ngaba ukholelwa ukuba lakho iqabane lizinikezele kulwalamano lwakho? Ngaba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho liza kukwabelana nawe nayiphi na imizwa yokunganeliseki okanye ukungonwabi emtshatweni wakho? Ngaba lakho iqabane lingakwazi ukuphula izibhambathiso ozenzileyo? Ngaba unesivakalelo esinzulu somona okanye ukungathembeki?
- Xoxa ngeenkxalabo zakho neqabane lakho. Ungamangaleli. Qinisekisa ukuba usebenzisa i-"I" inkcazo, njengokuthi "Ndixhalabele ngokunganditshiyo xa uthe uthe uya kuhamba kohambo lwakho lokugqibela" okanye "Xa ndihlamba iimpahla zakho, ndafumanisa izinto eziphazamisayo kwiipokothani zakho."
- Gwema ukuhamba kuma-eggshell ejikeleze iqabane lakho. Musa ukuba nomsindo, u-whiny, obuthathaka okanye oxhomekeke kuyo.
- Yibani ngokucacileyo ngezinto ongeke uzibekezelele ezinjengokuthetha amanga, iintlanganiso ezifihlakeleyo, ulwalamano olusondeleyo, kunye nokwabelana ngesithemba kunye nomntu wakho iqabane livakalelwa ngezobisi zesini.
- Xa udibana neqabane lakho kunye nezikhalazo zakho , yabelana nantoni na eyenza ungakhathazeki kunye nothando lwakho ngomlingane wakho. Thetha ithemba lakho lokuba umtshato wakho unokusinda kule nkinga yokungathembeki, kodwa ukuba awuyi kubekezelela ukuxelela omnye umntu.
- Yeka ukuzongela ukufumana ubungqina kwi-imeyile yakho yomyeni, iirekhodi zeefowuni, izitatimende zekhadi lesikweletu, njl njl. Ukuba ugqityiwe kwaye ukhathazeke ngokuziphatha komlingane wakho, ngaba uyayibona nayiphi na ikamva lomntu? Ukuba awukwazi ukuthembela lakho iqabane ngaphandle kokuhlola, kutheni usatshatile? Imali nexesha lakho liza kuchitha kangcono lifuna ukucebisa umtshato.
- Thembela intuition yakho. Umzimba wakho wesisu mhlawumbi ulungile.
- Hlola i-HIV / AIDS kunye nezinye ii-STD. Oku akusiyo kuphela kwimpilo yakho yempilo, kodwa nakwakho uxolo lwengqondo.
- Ithemba lezona zinto zilungileyo, kodwa lungiselela kakhulu. Ukubeka ukungathembeki kwi-bud ivumela umtshato wakho ithuba lokulwa. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uzilungiselele ngokwezimali, ngokusemthethweni, ngokomzwelo nangengqondo ukuze umtshato wakho ungahlali.
- Hlangana, jonga ngokunyanisekileyo kumtshato wakho. Yayikuphi ixesha lokugqibela obabini kunye naye? Ungayilinganisa njani impilo yakho yesondo? Ngaba uhlala uthabathe uhambo? Ngaba uphulaphulelana? Ngaba ulwa ngokufanelekileyo? Ngaba uyavuyiswa nomtshato wakho? Ngaba uyabahlonela kwaye nithandana?
- Ukuba umlingane wakho wenqaba ukufumana uncedo kumtshato wakho, okanye ungacacanga xa uxoxa ngemibandela yakho, olu hlobo lokuziphatha olukhuselekileyo lunokuba yimpendulo yakho. Oku kufaka ibhola enkundleni yakho kwaye kuya kufuneka unqume oko ufuna ukukwenza ngekamva lakho.
Ngokutsho kukaMichelle Goodman we-CNN, uTommer Merrill, isazi sezengqondo se-kliniki sasePeoria, eArizona uyakholwa "Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo kunye nomlingane wakho okanye ufumane ulwazi oluyifunayo kuye, yingxaki yentsapho.
Eli lixesha lokujamelana neengxaki, kungekhona i-snoop. "
Abantu bahlala becacisa ukuhlola nokunyamekela abo baqabane. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho imiphumo emihle. Xa udibana neqabane lakho kunye nezikhalazo zakho, yabelana nantoni na eyenza ungakhathazeki kunye nothando lwakho ngomlingane wakho. Thetha ithemba lakho lokuba umtshato wakho unokusinda kule nkinga yokungathembeki.