Ukubhala okucacileyo kunokuncedisa ukongeza kwonyango.
Kubantu abaneengxaki zeengqondo ezinjenge-borderline disorder personality, iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zokubhala ngokucacileyo ziye zaboniswa ukuba zinefuthe elihle. Abantu baye basebenzisa ukuloba njengendlela yokuphucula iimvakalelo zabo nokuphilisa kweenkulungwane. Ukuba unengxaki yokugula kwengqondo, ukubhala ngokucacileyo kunokubangela ukongeza kwonyango lwakho.
Yintoni ebhaliweyo yokubhala?
Ukubhala okucacileyo kunzima ukuchaza ngoba kuba yintoni na oyifunayo. Akukho mithetho eqondileyo okanye izikhombisi zesitayela ezicacileyo. Kuphela nje isenzo sokubhala malunga namava akho okwenu ukuze uqaphele ngakumbi kwaye uziqonde iimvo zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nezimpendulo.
Ukubhala ngokucacileyo kunokuthatha iifom ezininzi. Ngokomzekelo, ungagcina iphepha ledayari okanye ungasungula iblogi esebenza njengemagazini ye-intanethi. Ngolunye usuku ungabhala kwiprosethi, ezinye iintsuku ungabhala izibongo. Khetha into enokuziva ukhululekile ngayo. Kukho ubungqina bokuthi ukubhala ngokucacileyo kuyincedo nokuba ngaba ungabelana nabanye ngokubhala kunye nabanye, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukuyigcina eyimfihlo efanelekileyo.
Kutheni Kuthetha Ukubhala Ukunceda?
Abaphandi abaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni ukubhala ngokucacileyo kunceda, kodwa kukho iimbono ezimbalwa ezinokuthi zicacise ukuba kutheni kusebenza.
Okokuqala, inokusebenza ngenxa yokuba inceda ukwazi ukuba kwenzekani ebomini bakho. Kungaba yindlela yokuphucula inkqubo kwaye ucinge ngentsingiselo yeziganeko nendlela ofuna ukuphendula ngayo.
Ukubhala ngokucacileyo kunokukunceda ukuba uveze iimvakalelo malunga nezinto ezenzekile. Kulabo abaneengxaki zomntu ongenamda, le nto inokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokulawula iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nokunciphisa iimvakalelo eziyingozi.
Ekugqibeleni, ukubhala okucacileyo okwabelwana nabanye kunokukunika ingqalelo ngenkxaso yentlalo. Kuziva ukulungele ukwabelana ngokubhala kwakho kwaye ufumane impendulo emihle okanye abanye bakuxelele ukuba baye bahlala kwiimeko ezifanayo.
Yintoni Ndifanele Ndiyibhale Ngayo?
Ungabhala malunga nantoni na oyifunayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu bakhetha ukubhala ngeziganeko ezibaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo iziganeko ezincinane zisesimo sengqondo okanye zichaphazeleka ngokwazo naziphi na izizathu.
Umzekelo, ungabhala malunga nesiganeko esichukumisayo esenzeka ebomini bakho ngoku okanye umcimbi obalulekileyo ebuntwaneni bakho. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukubhalela malunga nendlela oqonda ngayo iinkalo zobudlelwane bakho, ubomi bakho bomsebenzi okanye ubomi bakho bokomoya.
Isihloko asibalulekanga ngendlela osibhala ngayo. Ukubhala ngokucacileyo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu xa ubhala ngesihloko ekujuleni. Oku kuthetha ukuba kunokuba ubhale malunga neempawu ezingaphezulu okanye ezingaphezulu kweso siganeko, ucinga ngokucacileyo kwiimeko zomzwelo zesiganeko.
Umzekelo, zibuze:
- Uvakalelwa njani kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo kwimeko?
- Ucinga ntoni?
- Ziziphi iimvakalelo ozenzayo?
- Esi siganeko sichaphazela njani ukuba uzibona wena, abanye abantu, ihlabathi, okanye lakho ikamva? Yintoni esi sithethayo ngoku ngoku?
Ukuqalisa Ngokubhala Ngokucacileyo
Ukuba awuzange uzame ukubhala ngokucacileyo ngaphambili, kunokuziva kungekudala okanye kungathandeki ekuqaleni. Ngokuqinisekileyo isakhono esidinga isenzo esithile ngaphambi kokuba siziva sikhululekile. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale, kunokukunceda ukujonga ezinye izibonelo kwabanye.
Imithombo:
I-Frattaroli J. "Ukuchazwa kweengcamango kunye nabaModareli bayo: Ukuhlaziywa kweMeta". I-Psychological Bulletin . 132 (6): 823-865, 2006.