Oko Abazali Kumele Baziqonde Ngoloyiko Olukhulu
Kukho uncedo lokungabikho komsebenzi , ukwesaba ukufa. Le ndawo iyanqumla kwiinkonzo zonqulo, ezentlalontle, kunye neenkcubeko, ezichaphazela abantu abaneminyaka yonke nemvelaphi. Kodwa kunokuphazamisa abantu abadala xa ukwesaba ukufa kuvela kubantwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo silindele ukuba abantwana banelisekile-bafumane inhlanhla kwaye bangabi nantlonelo, kwaye nayiphi na into ebenokuba nzima ngabazali ukujongana nayo.
Xa uloyiko lokufa lungaba nzima kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nalo.
Kutheni Ukwesaba Ukufa Kuqala Ukoyika
Ukwesaba ukufa kuqhelekileyo kubantwana abaneminyaka engama-6 okanye ezisixhenxe. Abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba abantwana bajonga ukufa ngaphandle kweendlela zonke, iinkolelo zonqulo, okanye iindlela zokuzivikela abantu abadala. Kunoko, abantwana babona ukufa njengesimo esiyikrakra, kwaye abayiqondi ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba. Umntwana wakho unokujonga ukufa njengokuzaliseka kweemfuno zabo kunye nezifiso.
Abantwana nabo banalo mqondo omdala wexesha, okwenza kube nzima ukuqonda ingcamango yokuba umntu uya kuhamba aze abuye. Xa umama sele uhambe, ekude umntwana echaphazelekayo, ufile. Oku kubangela ukuxhalabisa , okuqhelekileyo kubantwana phakathi kweenyanga ezisibhozo kunye ne-14, kunye nezinye iinkxalabo ezibandakanya ukuba yedwa.
Indima yokuCamngca
Xa umntu omdala, ukucinga ngemilingo yinto ebonakalayo yesifo sengqondo .
Kodwa ukucinga ngemilingo kubantwana yinkqubo yokuphuhlisa yesiqhelo.
Abantwana abanalo ulwazi kunye nolwazi olufunekayo ukuqonda umhlaba ngendlela engqiqweni. Kunoko, abaninzi abantwana bahamba kwisigaba sokukholelwa ukuba iingcamango zabo neemfuno zabo zinamandla onke. Oku kungaba ngumgudu wokufumana ulawulo oluthile phezu kwehlabathi elibangqongileyo, kodwa imfesane yinkota ehlangene kabini.
Ukuba umntwana ucinga ngomntu ofa, engqondweni yakhe ukuba yedwa ingambulala lowo mntu. Ngoko abantwana bahlakulela amasiko kunye neenkolelo ezenzelwe ukuzikhusela kwabo banqwenela ukuba babe yi nyaniso.
Indlela Yokunceda Umntwana Ophethe I-Thanatophobia
Kwinkoliso yabantwana, ukwesaba ukufa akuyi kuba yintsholongwane. Ubuninzi boyiko buntwana buya kufakwa njengoko abantwana bafumana ukukhula kwaye baqala ukuguqula ukugxila kwabo apha nangoku. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana wakho unokufumana i-diagnostic diagnosis if iimpawu zakhe zikhona kwiinyanga ezintandathu okanye ngaphezulu.
Indlela ophendula ngayo njengomzali okanye utitshala unokuba nefuthe elincinci kwindlela elide elihlala ixesha elide kunye noloyiko lokwesaba ukufa komntwana. Abantu abaninzi abadala bacinga ukuba abantwana abanalo ncamango yokufa, ngoko banqanda ukuthetha nabo nabantwana babo. Kodwa abantwana bathanda ukucela ulwazi xa bekulungele.
Ingxoxo ephilileyo, ekhokelwa ngabantwana inokunceda abantwana bathinte ukufa ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye banciphise iimvakalelo zabo.
Ukufuna unyango lwe-Thanatophobia
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa ukwesaba okukhulu, ubomi bokunciphisa ukufa , okanye ukuba uloyiko luhlala ngaphezu kweenyanga ezintandathu, funa ukhokelo lobuchule. Ukucebisa kwakhona kunconywa kubantwana abafumana ilahleko enkulu njengokufa komzali okanye umhlobo osondeleyo okanye ubungqina besiganeko esibuhlungu njengesikolo sokudubula.
Ukubeka umntwana wakho unyango kunokubangela ukungaqiniseki kwakho okanye kukubuza ukuba ngaba ulahlekile ngandlela-thile njengomzali. Enyanisweni, i-phobias inokuphuhliswa ngenxa yezizathu ezibonakala zingenamkhawulo. Ukungenelela kwangethuba kunika umntwana wakho ithuba elihle lokulwa ngokupheleleyo ne-phobia kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakhe.
Ukutyelela umgqirha unokuba ngumgca wokhuseleko kumzali nomntwana. Ukuhlaziywa "Ukuqeshwa kwabantwana bokuQala ukuThatyulwa kweNtlungu" malunga nenkcazelo enzulu malunga noko ukulindela. Ngexesha elithile kunye nomgudu, umntwana wakho uya kuhlala eqinile endleleni yokubetha ukwesaba nokuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
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HealthyChildren.org: Ukuqonda Ukwesaba Kubantwana kunye nokuxhalabisa. 2015.
UMitchell MD, uNelli L. kunye no-Schulman MA, uKaren R. "Umntwana kunye noyiko lokufa" Umbhalo weNational Medical Association . 1981. 73:10. Februwari 5, 2011.