Esinye sezigqibo ezinzima kunazo zonke izigulane ezineengxaki zokutya kunye nabazali babo, abatshatileyo, amaqabane kunye neentsapho ezijongene nazo, "Ngaba kufuneka (okanye umthandayo) athathe ixesha kwiX 'ukugxila ekuphumeni?" "X" ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo, ukuhlala esikolweni, uhambo, okanye ukuya ekholeji. Oku kungabini kwisigqibo esinobuhlungu kunye nesiguqu sokuphila.
Kubonakala ngathi kukho intlobo emithathu yemisebenzi eyenziwa ngabantu abaneentsholongwane zokutya.
1. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwezemidlalo;
2. Isikolo, kuquka ikholeji; kwaye
3. Ukuhamba
Abantu kunye neentsapho zabo zisoloko beyika ukubeka ubomi kubambelele nangona iimpawu zesifo sokutya zixakeke kakhulu kwaye nangona xa abasebenzi bezonyango bebacebisa ukuba benze njalo. Ukuxhalaba abakhulisayo kubandakanya:
- "Ndiya kulahlwa."
- "Uya kuba nzima nakwixinzelelo lokulahleka 'X'."
- "Ndiya kuphinda ndilahleke ithuba elinye elimele ndiyenze 'X'."
- "Kuya kumtshabalalisa."
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba akusenokuze kubonakale njengethuba elifanelekileyo lokugxila kwonyango nokubuyiswa. Izigulane kunye neentsapho zabo zisoloko zingabalulekanga ngokukhawuleza ukubuyiswa, kwaye ziyancipha ubunzima isigulane esiya kuqhuba "X" ngoxa sisephantsi kwesiphelo sesifo sokutya.
Njenge-activist Disorder Dis activist, uLaura Collins uthe:
"Kuya kumbulala ukuba alahlekelwe oku
Bazali, nayiphi na ixesha oyikayo ukwenza into efanelekileyo ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba unokuyichukumisa umoya wabo, wenze izinto zibe zibi ngakumbi, zibangele ukuxhathisa, zibe nzima kakhulu, okanye zibadumaze kakhulu banokulahlekelwa yintando yabo yokuphila .. , khumbula ukuba oko 'kuya kubulala' kukugula.
Ukunikela kwi-ED ngesizathu SONKE yinto 'eya kubulala.' "
Ukuphazamiseka kokutya kunenani eliphezulu lokufa kwanoma yiphi isifo sengqondo. Uphulo lwangokokuqala luyandisa kakhulu ithuba lokufumana ngokupheleleyo. Ukuthintela kunye nezinye izidlo zokuphazamiseka kwezifo ezinjengokuzingca, ukuhlanjululwa kunye nokuzivocavoca ngokweqile yimikhwa eqinisekisiwe ngokuphindaphinda kwaye ixhomekeke ngakumbi kwixesha. Ukuvumela ukuba ezi ziphatho ziqhube izifundo zabo ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa kwenza ukuba ukuziphatha kube nzima ukuphula. Kuthe ixesha elide umntu onenkathazo yokutya ehlupheka, umngcipheko wexesha elide kunye neempembelelo ezingapheliyo. Kwisifundo esithile, ngaphezu kweyesibini kwisithathu sezigulane esaphathwa yi-anorexia nervosa emva kweminyaka elithoba. Gxila kunyango ngoku ukuba unethuba!
Ukuba ungumzali womntu onenkinga yokutya unokuziva unyanzelekile ukuba uqhubeke noontanga kwaye uzame ukugcina umntwana wakho evuya. Nangona kunjalo, qaphela ukuba izigulane ezininzi ezineentsholongwane zokutya zityhubela kwiimeko ezingafuni ukuzenza ziphosakele kodwa azizinzile ngokwaneleyo ukuphatha. Ngenxa yoko, babe nexhala elikhulu, kunye nenkxaso abayifunayo (ngokwemigaqo yonyango, uncedo oluvela kwintsapho, kunye nokuqeshwa kwezokwelapha) kuthathe ixesha elide kwimisebenzi ababefuna ukuyithokoza. Abazange bazuze ngokugcwele kwithuba abanokubeka ingozi ekuphumeni kwabo.
Ngokomzekelo, izigulane eza kwikholeji xa amaqela abo unyango athi ayengakulungele, wagqiba ekubeni athathe ikhefu lokungabikho. Abanye baphele kakhulu ukuvuyela ixesha labo kwiikholeji kunye nokuya kwiindawo zokuqeshwa eziqhelekileyo ezithintela ixesha labo lezentlalo. Baye bazibeka icala xa beba namandla kakhulu ukuphatha okanye ukubuyiswa kwabo kuphazamiseke. Ezi zi gulane ziza kuba ngcono ekulindeni impilo epheleleyo xa ziza kulusebenzisa ngokupheleleyo. Ukulahla unyango okanye ukungaphumeleli ukuphucula ukuphucula kwandisa ixesha lokufumana ngokuzeleyo kwaye kunokulibaziseka iinjongo zomntu.
Ukubuyiselwa yinkqubo , kwaye ngelanga, alandelanga ixesha elimisiweyo okanye elingagqibekanga. Akukho nto yenzeke ngolu hlobo: ininzi amathuba-ezemidlalo, isikolo kunye nokuhamba-ziya kuhanjiswa kwakhona. "X" kuya kuba lula ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba xa umntu ophethe ingxaki yokutya ephumelele ukuphulukana okukhethekileyo okanye okupheleleyo. Akukho ntloni ngokuthatha ixesha lokubuyisela; ayibonakali ukuhluleka. Ngokuphambene noko, ngumqondiso wamandla.
ILizwi
Ukufumana ngokupheleleyo isifo sokutya kuyakwazi. Kuthatha umsebenzi onzima kwaye ugxininise. Wena (okanye umntwana wakho, iqabane, iqabane okanye ilungu lentsapho) ufanelwe ukuhlala ubomi obuvuyo kunye novuyo. Phambili ukubuyisela ngoku; ubomi bunokulinda.
> Umthombo
> Eddy, Kamryn T., Nassim Tabri, uJennifer J. Thomas, uHelen B. Murray, uAparna Keshaviah, uElizabeth Hastings, uKatherine Edkins, kunye no-al. 2017. "Ukubuyisela kwi-Anorexia Nervosa kunye noBulimia Nervosa kwi-Follow-Year Year-22." Umbhalo we-Clinical Psychiatry 78 (2): 184-89. https://doi.org/10.4088/JCP.15m10393.