Ukujamelana Neengcango Zesitebe
Ukwesaba kwesiteyithi akuqhelekanga kucinga ukuba yi-phobia, nangona kunakho ukukwazi ukucima abadlali beentlobo zonke. Ngokusemthethweni, kunjalo, ingahlulwa njengecandelo le- glossophobia , okanye uloyiko lokuthetha koluntu, olona luhlobo lwentlalo yoluntu . Ukwesaba kwesiteleka kungavela ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye kube nobumnene okanye bunzima.
Ngubani Ofumana Ukwethuka Kwesiteji?
Nabani na owenzayo kwinqanaba likawonkewonke, ukusuka kwizingane ezikolweni ukuya kubadlali abasebenzayo, unokusengozini yokwenza isitepiso sokwesaba.
I-Hollywood lore izaliswe ngamabali abadlali abaye balwa nale phobia, ukusuka kuR Rod Stewart ukuya eMel Gibson. Esinye sezibonelo ezidumileyo kunye ezilungileyo kakhulu nguCarol Burnett, osolwa ukuba uphonswe ngobusuku ngaphambi kokubonisa.
Kutheni usebenza kunye neSiteyi soKwesaba?
Kungaba nzima kakhulu kubafundi abangenabani ukuba baqonde ukuba kutheni nabani na oza kukhetha umsebenzi okanye ukuzilibazisa okubangela ukubandezeleka okunjalo. Ukuba ufumana ubunzima besigaba, usenokuba uphendule imibuzo engapheliyo kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo malunga nesizathu sokuba uzibeke kwiintlungu.
Impendulo ilula. Ukwenza "kusegazini." Abaninzi abadlali abakwaziyo ukucinga ukuba awenzi, kuba kunjalo abavakalelwa ukuba baza kuyenza. Uthando lomsebenzi unamandla ngokwaneleyo ukunqoba ukungabi naluzinzi, ukulahla okungapheliyo, kunye neengxelo zokuqala zentsasa. Uloyiko lwesango luyodwa umqobo omele ulandelwe ekuphandeleni iphupha.
Iimpawu zeSiteyi soKwesaba
Ukwesaba kwesitebhisi kubonakala kukubonakalisa ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuninzi ye-phobias. Ngaphantsi nje i-phobia iyakwenza ukuba umenzi womdlali angakwazi ukusebenza. Kunoko, kudla ukubonakala ngexesha elikhokelela ekuphicothweni nasekusebenzeni. Nangona iimpendulo zomntu ngamnye ziyingqayizivele, amaninzi amanqanaba enkqantosa elandelayo ayilandela umzekelo oqikelelweyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo iifama ziqala iiveki okanye iinyanga ngaphambi kokusebenza, ngokuqhelekileyo zibonakalisa nje ngexhala eliphantsi. Ukuba unayo le meko, unokuqala ukuziva u-hyperalert, jumpy kwaye ugcwele amandla. Njengoko umhla wokusebenza usondela, iimpawu zibuhlungu. Kwiiyure ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ubonise ixesha, unokufumana iimpawu ezininzi zemveli ezibandakanya iingxaki zesisu ezinjengokuhlanza okanye uhudo, ukuphazamiseka, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, ukuthuthumela kunye nentliziyo.
Xa uthabathela kwisiteji, kunjalo, i-insterts yakho yokudlala ithatha. Uninzi lwabasweleko beengxelo zenkwantya yokwesaba ukuba baninzi, ukuba zikhona, iimpawu ngexesha lokusebenza. Uyakwazi ukudlala amandla abaphulaphuli bakho, ukuvumela ukuba ube ngumlingani ngokupheleleyo kwaye ubale ngokukhathazeka kwakho kwangaphambili.
Abenzi abaninzi bafumana uhlobo lovuyo, olufana nomgijimi ophakamileyo, zombini kunye nangemva kokubonisa. Ukukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline kunokuthi uchaze ukuba kutheni iimpawu zesitepikiso ukwesaba ngokupheleleyo xa ubhekane nento into yakho.
Ukujamelana neSiteyiko soKwesaba
Nangona i-intsebenzo yakho ayinakuphazamiseka, kubalulekile ukufumana iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana nekrele. Abenzi abaninzi baphendukela kwizonyango, kunye notywala okanye iziyobisi, ngenzame yokunciphisa intlungu.
Oku akuzange kube yinto ekhethekileyo kunoma ubani ngenxa yokuba ingaba ngumjikelezo onobungozi kunye nomlingo onokubakho kwabo baqhuba rhoqo.
Izinyathelo Zonyango Lokunkwantya
Ukuba unesifo esicaleni, cinga ukufuna uncedo kwizengcali zempilo yengqondo . Njengeyiphi na i-phobia, ukwesaba kwinqanaba liyakhathazeka kakhulu. Inketho ekhethiweyo yonyango-yokuziphatha . Abantu abaninzi abanokwesaba kwinqanaba leenkolelo ukuba umsebenzi wabo "awunakulungele," ngoko badumala abaphulaphuli babo kwaye bachitha imisebenzi yabo. Unyango lunokukunceda ufunde ukutshintsha le miyalezo emibi ngeengcamango ezingengqiqo.
Uya kuphinda ufundiswe ukuzivocavoca onokukwenza xa uxhalaba luba lukhulu.
Ukwesaba kwesiteleka kuqhelekileyo, kwaye abadlali abaninzi abazange bafune uncedo. Nangona unyango olufanelekileyo, kunjalo, le meko ingalawulwa ngempumelelo.
Umthombo:
Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMerika. (1994). Incwadana yokuxilonga kunye neenkcukacha zeengxaki zengqondo (4 Ed.) . Washington, DC: Umbhali.