Ngaba uye wakhawula ukuba abantwana bathanda ukukopisha njani abazali babo? Ingaba uneminyaka engama-4 ubudala onomdla ozenza ngathi uhlambe ubuso bakhe noBawo kwisibuko sokuhlambela, okanye uneminyaka engama-6 ubudala ezama ukuzikhupha igumbi lokuhlala njengabazali bakhe, abantwana bafunda ukuziphatha ngokujonga bazali.
Kwaye nangona usenokucinga ukuba wakho umntwana usemncinci umnqweno wokukukopisha, akunjalo.
Umntwana wakho usetshatyalalisayo indlela oziphatha ngayo. Yaye loo mbono ibonisa ukhetho ayenzayo.
I-Social Learning Theory
Inkcazo yokufunda yentlalo inikezela isiseko sokuziphatha ngendlela. Iqinisekisa ukuba ezininzi iindlela zokuziphatha zifundwa ngokubonwa kunye nokwenza imodeli.
Oko kuthetha ukuba wakho umntwana uselula ukukhangela imikhwa yakho engafanelekanga. Ngoko ukuba uyayikhankanya kwintombazana yakho, kukho ithuba elihle umntwana wakho oza kufunda ukukhenkcela kuwe. Okanye, ukuba wenza izinto ezininzi zokuthenga, umntwanakho unokufumana ingxaki yokugcina imali.
Kodwa iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, unokubonisa imilinganiselo enempilo. Ukuba usebenzise yonke imihla okanye wenze umkhuba wokufunda incwadi ngalunye ubusuku, umntwana wakho okhulayo unokukwazi ukulandelelana.
Sebenzisa iModeli Yokuziphatha ukuze Ufundise Izakhono Ezizodwa
Ungasebenzisa imodeli yokuziphatha ukuze ufundise izakhono zakho ezithatha umntwana. Ingaba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho afunde indlela yokwenza iseshiti yokugqoka okanye ufuna ukuba afunde indlela yokuhlenga ukubuyiswa kwakhona, le nyathelo inokumnceda akhumbule into enokuyenza:
- Yenza umntwana wakho ulutsha ukuba wenze lo msebenzi kuqala.
- Vumela ixesha lakho elivisayo ukuba liqhube kwaye likhumbule indlela oyenzayo.
- Nika umntwana wakho ithuba lokuba asebenzise ukuziphatha kwakhe.
- Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okulungileyo, njengokudumisa, ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke nomsebenzi omhle.
Umzekelo
Ubaba ufuna ukufundisa umntwazana wakhe ukuba atshintshe ioli kwinqwelo.
Ngoko unomlindo wakhe omtsha njengoko eguqula ioli.
Uxelela umfana wakhe ukuba abhale phantsi amanyathelo ukuze ahlaziywe ngamanyathelo akhe. Oku kunceda inkqubo yentsha kwaye uyikhumbule ulwazi.
Emva koko, ngelixa elizayo ioli kufuneka iguqulwe, intombazana yenza yona yedwa. Uyise unika isondlo rhoqo.
Utata unika indumiso kunye neempendulo ezilungileyo . Unika nokulungiswa xa kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakhe owenzayo ngokuchanekileyo.
Le nkqubo iya kunceda umntwana ukuba afunde indlela yokwenza yedwa. Uya kulungeleka ukuguqula ioli ngaphandle kolawulo lukayise kwixesha elizayo.
Indlela eCwangcisiweyo encinane
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho izinto ezininzi ezithethayo wakho kumntwana ngaphandle kwendlela ehleliweyo. Umntwana wakho osemncinci uya kukhangela ngokuziphatha kwakho kunye nesimo sengqondo ngokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba usebenzise umzekelo omhle. Yazi ixabiso lakho kwaye qinisekisa ukuba ufundisa ezo ziqabane kwintsapho yakho. Kwaye xa ufuna ukufundisa wakho umntwana ukuba asebenzise isakhono esithile okanye ezimbini, sebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo indlela yokuziphatha ukuze uyomeleze umntwana wakho.