Ukufumana umgaqo wokulawula ubomi bakho
U-Larry uziva ngokwenene ukuba uyaphila ukuxelela ibali lakhe. Emva kokuba ufumene i-ADHD kwiminyaka engama-50 kwaye ufumana unyango kwiminyaka eyi-10 edluleyo, ubomi bukaLarry buye bathatha ukuguquka okukhulu kakhulu. "Ndibuhlungu xa ndijonga emva kwentsinzi yobomi bam kwaye kufuneka ndibalise amava am ngoku xa ndiyazi ngokulula ukuba i-ADHD iyayiphatha njani kwaye ubomi obonwabileyo nokuphumelelayo bunokuba njani." U Larry uthi impembelelo ye-ADHD ihlukile ngamnye ngamnye. Ibali lakhe lingaziva lifana okanye lingazive lihluke kakhulu, kodwa mhlawumbi indlela ibali lakhe lihamba kakhulu kwaye lithemba.
ULarry uthi: "Uluhlu lwezinto endizenzayo njengomntu ongeyilwazi "Xa ndisemncinci kuma-50s, umama wayedla ukuba kum 'ugijime ngeenxa zonke kwindlu ukuze uhlale phantsi udle. Iintsuku zam zesikolo zazaliswa ngama-fistfights kunye nokuvalelwa. Ndaphuma esikolweni esiphakamileyo kwi-60s. Ubomi bam abaselula kwiminyaka yama-70 bayiziyobisi kunye notywala. Uluhlu luqhubeka kwaye ndide ndibe neminyaka engama-50 ubudala. "
Kwakuphela emva kokubona okokubona utshintsho olulungileyo lokuxilongwa nokunyangwa kwelungu losapho uLarry waqala ukuqonda ngakumbi nge-ADHD. Uvuma ukuba unemibono embi kunye neloyiko lokuba ukungabikho kolwazi kuzisa. U-Larry uyachaza: "Ndamelana neminyaka emininzi, kodwa ke waqala ukuchitha ixesha lokufunda nokuzifundisa ngale meko.
"Andikwazi ukugxininisa ngokwaneleyo ukubaluleka kokuxilongwa kwangaphambili kunye nonyango. Akukaze kube mva ukuba ungene ebomini ubomi obunokuthi uhlalutyo kunye nonyango lunokunikela.
Musa ukulinda, "ukhuthaza uRarry.
Xa ebuzwa malunga noshintsho ayelibona, uLarry uthi kufana nokubuza umntu oye wahamba iminyaka engakhange ahlaziye kwii-glassglass ukuze achaze indlela ubomi babo butshintshile ngayo ekubeni befumana iiglasi zabo! "Babona kude, bavale, ba cacile, banobukhali, njl njl," kuchaza uLarry. "I-ADH iyichaphazela ubomi bam ngeendlela nangeendidi ezininzi." Uyavuma ukuba inokuthabatha incwadi ukuba ichaze impembelelo ephawulekayo yonyango.
U-Larry uthi: "Ukukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zam zomsindo kunye nezimpendulo ezingafanelekanga zaqala ukucaca. "Kwaza kwafika ukuqonda kunye novelwano kwezinye iimvakalelo zabantu. Ndandisile ukuqonda ngokweenzululwazi kwiindawo zoluntu. "
ULarry uxela ngelinye ixesha umfazi wakhe wabuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini kwaye wammangaza ngombuzo olula - "Ngoko, njani usuku lwakho?" Umfazi wakhe waphawula! "Wathi kwakuyixesha lokuqala kwimemori yakhe ukuba ndithathe ixesha lokuqwalasela iimvakalelo zakhe."
Iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo zilula kakhulu ukuziphatha. "Ukuvalela izitshixo zam emotweni ngaphambi kokuxilongwa kunye nonyango, makhe ndithi, 'into ethile yomcimbi.' Emva kokunyanga, iimpendulo zam kwiimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo kunye neziganeko zazixanduva kwaye zilawulwa. "
Ubomi bentsapho buye buphucula ngokuphawulekayo. ULarry uthi: "Izibonelelo ebomini lam iqabane lam nabantwana azikwazi ukufakwa kumazwi. Njengomntu olawulwa yi-ADHD, uLarry unengqondo engcono yokulawula, uhlawula ngakumbi iimvakalelo zabantu, ungumqhubi ongcono, kwaye uphendule kwiimeko ezininzi ngokufanelekileyo kunokuba wacinga ukuba kwenzeke.
Kutheni abantu abaninzi abadala njengoLarry bengabonwa kwaye bengaphathiswa iminyaka emininzi?
ULarry wabelana ngeengcamango zakhe:
"Ndicinga ukuba ukwesaba, ukungabikho kolwazi kunye nesimo sentlalo yisona sizathu esiyinhloko i-ADHD ayifumanekanga. Abantu bafuna ukwaziswa kunye nokufundiswa ngolu hlobo. Kufuneka bafunde iincwadi, iimagazini zamaphepha kwaye ngoku kunye neWebhsayithi eneziza ezifana neyakho, add.org kunye ne-chadd.org, ukubiza ezimbalwa. Njengabantu, kufuneka sitshintshe indlela 'sibheka' ngayo abantu abane-ADHD. Ngokweenkcubeko, kusekho iindawo ezininzi ezingabonakaliyo kunye nokucalucaluleka ukuba abo abaneengxaki bafune ukuba 'bazenzele i-bootstraps yakho,' 'uzame ngokukhawuleza,' 'uhlawule ngakumbi.' Ezi zengqondo zibangele intlungu kunye nokudideka ngenxa yentloni ehambelana nomntu obonakala ephosakeleyo womntu one-ADHD.
Kuyadabukisa kuba, ngokuxilongwa ngokuchanekileyo kunye nonyango, i-ADHD yenye yeengxaki eziphathekayo ngokugqithiseleyo ezibangelwa ubomi obumnandi nofezekileyo. "
Ukuba unenkxalabo okanye ucinge ukuba unakho i-ADHD, umise ukuqeshwa kunye neengcali zonyango oqeqeshekileyo owaziyo ekuxileni nasekuphatheni i-ADHD yabantu abadala. ULarry uyayibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba, "Yenza oku, kungekudala ungcono." Uya kuvuya xa wenza!
Umthombo:
Ewe, uElizabeth. "Yiyo: Isicelo see-Quotes." I-imeyile edibeneyo kwiWebhu. 20, ngoDisemba 2007.