Iingxaki ezizimeleyo ziqhelekileyo, kodwa unako ukunciphisa izibonakaliso zakho
Abantu abajamelana neengxaki zokukhathazeka jikelele (GAD) bahlala befumana ubunzima bokuzithemba. Basenokuba nethemba lokuzithemba ngokwabo okanye bacinge ukuba bangenanto. Oku kungabonakalisa uphawu olumonakalo lwe-GAD ngeempembelelo ezihlala ixesha elide. Oku kulandelelwaniso olufutshane malunga ne-self-esteem theory kunye nezinye iingcamango malunga nendlela onokuphucula ngayo umbono wakho.
Ukufumana uncedo olungakumbi kwi-GAD, khangela le nqaku malunga neengcebiso ezithile zokunciphisa ukhathazeka .
Iingcamango
Inkolelo yokuzithemba ithi siphumelele ukubandakanywa kwentlalo kunye nokukhusela emoyeni. Okubalulekileyo, kukholelwa ukuba izinga lethu lokuzithemba lithethwa ngokuvunyelwa okanye ukugatywa okungakanani kwihlabathi lentlalontle. Ukuzithemba kwethu kuphuhliswe ngenxa yokuba sijonga njani abanye abantu abasabela kuthi. Ngoko ke, umntu ofumana ukwamkeleka okukhulu uya kuba nexabiso eliphakamileyo kunye nalabo abafumana ukuchaswa ngakumbi baya kuba nokuzithoba. Ingxaki kubantu abaninzi kukuba bayalwela ukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo inani lokwamkelwa kunye nokukhanyela ebomini babo, kubakhokelela abantu ukuba babe nexabiso eliphantsi xa benenkohlakalo kwaye bayathandwa. Oku kungakhuliswa ngabantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa ezihlobene nabanye abantu.
Yabona Yintoni Eyona Nene
Enye indlela esheshayo yokutshintsha ukuzithemba kwakho kukuba uhlolisise imilinganiselo yokwamkelwa nokulahlwa kwakho.
Ngelixa sihlala sigxininisa kwizinto ezimbi, ezifana nabantu abanobugwenxa okanye basiphephe, sihlala sinabantu abaninzi abasinakekelayo kangangokuthi sihlala siwajongayo. Jonga ngokukhawuleza inani labantu ebomini bakho elikukhathalelayo kunye nemali engakuhoyiyo. Uninzi lwabantu luya kufumana inani elikhulu labantu abamkelayo kunokuba balahle, okumele kuguqulelwe kwiimvakalelo ezingcono kunye nokuzithemba.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abantu abaninzi banokukuphepha, jonga kakuhle ukuba kutheni ucinge ukuba wenze utshintsho oluthile. Ingakumbi ukuba unenkxalabo, uxinzelelo lwakho kunye nokukhathazeka kunokunyanzela abanye. Ukufuna unyango kunye nokuncedisa i-GAD kunokunceda ukulawula iimpawu zakho kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane obundlelana nabo.
Thatha amanyathelo
Abantu abaninzi abanesizotha bazama ukugwema ukulahleka kunokufumana. Ngoko ke, abantu abaninzi abanokuzithemba okuphantsi baye bakhubazeka ngenxa yokungasebenzi. Ukufumanisa isibindi ekuphumeni kwegatsha, yenza abahlobo abatsha, kwaye ukwandisa izinga lokubandakanyeka kwentlalo enokuthi kunokuthintela kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakho. Oku, kwakhona, kunzima kubantu abano-GAD ukuba kukho iingxaki zokuhlangana nabantu abatsha okanye ukuvakalelwa. Ukusebenza nomgulisa ukwenza oku kwenzeke kunokuba luncedo.
Ukukhumbula Izinto Ezilungileyo
Abantu abanokuzithemba abaphantsi bavame ukuzibetha ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Iingcamango zabo ezincinci zijwayele ukugxininisa ekuzikhuliseni nasekunciphiseni. Oku kunokuqulunqwa kubantu abane-GAD okanye ezinye izinto ezixhalabisa. Nangona kunjalo, ukukwazi ukuthatha ixesha ngexesha lomhla ukukhumbula izinto ezintle ngawe kwaye ubhiyozele iimpumelelo zakho kunye nezifezekiso. Ukubhala phantsi ixesha elihle kunye nempumelelo kunokukunika izikhumbuzo eziphathekayo zento okwazi ngayo ngexesha lakho eliphantsi.
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Ukuba unayo i-GAD kwaye ulwela ukuzithoba, khuluma nomgulana wakho. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokonyango, eziquka unyango lweendlela zokuziphatha kunye neyeza , ezinokukunceda ukulawula ukuzithoba kwaye kukuncede ufikelele ngokupheleleyo.
> Umthombo: "Ukukhathazeka ngokuqhelekileyo Ukukhathazeka". Isiko seSizwe seMpilo yengqondo, 2015.