Ukukopela, okanye ukungathembeki, yenye yeengxaki ezinzima kunokuba zifike kumtshato. Kwiimeko ezininzi, nangona ujongene neqabane lakho kunye neenkcazo zokukopela, kuya kunqatshwa okanye uya kwenziwa ukuba uzive ngathi "udibanisa." Ngaphandle kokuba unobungqina obunzima okanye ubungqina obungenakuphikiswa, uninzi aluyi kuvuma. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha ezibonisa inkalo.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho linokuziphatha kwaye akuyikuba nenxaxheba. Into enokuba ngumqondiso wesilumkiso kolwalamano olulodwa alunokuba lukhathalele malunga nolunye ulwalamano.
Kukho imiqondiso emininzi ebonakalayo. Umzekelo, ukuphuma ngaphandle ukuthetha kwifowuni eninzi, ukususa imbali ye-intanethi kwikhompyutheni, kungekhona apho iGPS ithi yena ukhona, njalo njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha akuyinto enye ecacileyo, kodwa iimpawu ezininzi kwiimeko eziphakanyisiweyo eziphakamisa ukungafihlisi kwakho.
Iimpawu zokulumkisa ukuba Umntu osenokutshata angakhohlisa kuwe:
- Iqabane lakho libuhlungu. Ukukhathazeka nawe, ngomsebenzi, kunye nezingane, ngokuzonwabisa, kunye nobomi ngokubanzi.
- Umlingane wakho ubonakala efuna ingozi okanye ukuvuyela ebomini bakhe.
- Kukho ubudlelwane obuncinci okanye uxhumano olusenyongweni lwakho.
- Ubomi bakho bobulili buyinto engekho.
- Okanye, kukho izinto ezininzi ezitsha ezenzelwe ukulala ngokwesondo.
- Umlingani wakho unesidima esincinane.
- Umlingani wakho akabonisi ukuba nomona ngawe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthini.
- Uyabona iqabane lakho linomngcipheko ngaye ngokwakhe.
- Umlingani wakho uhlambela, ngokukodwa kwindlu.
- Iqabane lakho libi kakhulu.
- Iqabane lakho liba lukhulu kuwe.
- Umlingane wakho ubonakala ekhetha ukulwa.
- Awukwazi ukufumana iqabane lakho ukuthetha nawe (ukulungiswa kwamatye).
- Umlingane wakho uyazikhusela xa uthetha ukungathembeki okanye izinto.
- Umlingane wakho ngokukhawuleza unamkele ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo.
- Iqabane lakho lisebenza ixesha elide emsebenzini.
- Umlingani wakho ugqoke ngokugqithiseleyo, ekhangelekayo okanye enomdla ngokukhawuleza.
- Uyabona iintlawulo kwiitatimenti zekhadi lesikweletu ezingenangqiqo.
- Uyazi izicatshulwa ezahlukeneyo ze-cologne okanye u-lotion emva kwengubo yomlingane wakho.
- Umlingani wakho akanandaba nemicimbi yeentsapho ezifana nokuzalwa kunye neeholide.
- Ufumanisa iqabane lakho lilele kuwe malunga neendidi zezinto.
- Imali iba yinkinga enkulu phakathi kwabo bobabini.
- Amagama athi "ndiyakuthanda" ayengathethiwa ngumlingane wakho.
- Akafuni ukuhamba naphi na okanye enze nantoni na kuwe kwakhona.
- Awukwazi ukufumana lakho iqabane ukuba lilwa nawe.
- Uziva ngathi unqatshelwe.
- Umlingani wakho ushiya ukholo lwenkolo.
- Iqabane lakho libonakala liyimfihlo.
- Ufumanisa i-lipstick smudges kwi-shirt.
- Ufunda ukuba une-STD kwaye awuzange uphambuke.
- Xa ucela ukuqinisekiswa ngokukopela, awunelisekile ngempendulo.
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba intuition yakho ibona ukuba ukungathembeki, nokuba kuyimvelo okanye imvakalelo, mhlawumbi iyaqhubeka.
Kufuneka ukhathazeke ngokukodwa xa isisu sakho sengqondo asiqhelekanga njengawe. Ukuba uqhubeka ukhanyela kwaye "uphendule" xa uzama ukuxubusha iingxaki zakho kunye neqabane lakho, unokufuna ukufumana uncedo lobuchwepheshe ukuhlenga ngoku. Okanye, lixesha lokufumana ubungqina obunzima.