Ukuba ucinga ukuba umtshato wakho usenkingeni, mhlawumbi mhlawumbi
Ubuhlobo bomtshato buhlukile. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izibonakaliso eziqhelekileyo kunye neziflegi ezibomvu ezibonisa iingxaki ezinzulu kumtshato. Ukuba uzifumana emtshatweni kunye nale nkxalabo, ungawahoyi! Ungangcwabi iintloko zakho entlabathi uze ucinge ukuba ezi ngxaki ziya kuhamba. Ngokuqhelekileyo abayi kuyenza! Ufanele udibane neqabane lakho malunga nabo.
Ezi ngxoxo kodwa kunzima.
"Eyona nto: Ndiyathemba ukuba nonke nihlala kwimitshato evuyayo kodwa masibe nethembekileyo, akukho mtshato upheleleke. Yiba luhlakaniphile, sebenze ukugcina umtshato wakho uphila kwaye unomdla kodwa ungayifaki intloko yakho entlabathi ukuba iiflegi ezibomvu ziza emoyeni. " USilvana D. Raso eHuffingtonPost.com "Ingxaki kwiParadesi? Ndingathini Ukuba Ukwahlukanisa Kube Kulindeleke." (2012).
Nazi ezinye zezibonakaliso eziqhelekileyo zomtshato womtshato onzima.
- Bobabini bhinqa kakhulu.
- Uhoxisa omnye komnye okanye usebenzise iso iso.
- Awuyilwe ngokufanelekileyo.
- Nifumana ukuba ninemibono efanayo kwizinto ezifanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
- Ukulwa kwakho kukhula ngaphandle kokulawula okanye ukukhwaza imibala.
- Kubonakala kubakho ukuvakalelwa phakathi kwenu bobabini
- Omnye okanye bobabini bakho baqala ukufumana umoya
- Ulwa rhoqo rhoqo phambi kwezingane zakho
- Kukho ininzi ye-nitpicking eqhubekayo phakathi kobabini.
- Awunandipha ixesha lakho kunye. Iqabane lakho likhetha ukuchitha ixesha elikhululekile kude nawe rhoqo.
- Awunanto inhle ukuthetha omnye komnye.
- Awukhulumi omnye nomnye malunga neengxaki okanye iimvakalelo zakho.
- Awuhloneli omnye nomnye okanye uxolelane.
- Kukho ukungalingani phakathi kokubili malunga neendibano zesini okanye ukwenza izigqibo
- Awubonakali ukuba uyavumelana malunga neenjongo kunye neempawu.
- Awuthembi omnye nomnye kwaye uzive uxolisa.
- Inqanaba lolwalamano lobulili kumtshato wakho luphantsi okanye akukho naluphi na.
- Ukuhlaziya kuye kwenzakalisa.
- Umlingani wakho ugcina imfihlelo.
- Ucinga ukuba ugula okanye unesikhalazo somzimba ngenxa yobandezelo bomtshato
- Awuwenzi ixesha kunye kunye namava amatsha kunye
- Umlingane wakho ukhetha ukuthetha okanye itekisi kwifowuni egcinwa ngasese.
- Iqabane lakho lihlala lidibanisa kunye namantombazana endala okanye iintombi zamagqabini ngokusebenzisa i-media media.
- Umlingani wakho uzama ukukwahlukanisa kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho.
- Ufumanisa iqabane lakho lixoxe ngemali, likhulu kakhulu kunexesha eliqhelekileyo, lifihla imali okanye lilawule ngemali.
- Uyavuya ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho lingekho ekhaya ngemini, intlanganiso, okanye uhambo loshishino.
- Uyabona ukuba kukho ukuxhaphazwa ngokomzimba kunye / okanye ukuxhaphaza ngokomzimba wakho emtshatweni.
- Omnye okanye bobabini nicinge ukuba ukukopela okanye ukukopela - ebomini bokwenene okanye kwi-intanethi, ngokwenyama okanye ngokomzwelo.
"Ingxaki yomtshato ingenye yeengxaki ezithintekayo kunye neziphazamisayo zomntu. Wonke umntu onokutshata amava ubunzima, kodwa kwezinye iimeko, ezi nkathazo zifikelela kwindawo yokuba amaqabane adideke aze adideke ngemitshato yawo kwaye afike nokuba abuze ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokutshata. Ukuxinzezeleka komtshato kuphazamisa kwaye iindlela zengxaki zengxaki zengxaki zengxabano zomtshato zenza ukuba kube lula ukuba izinto zibe zimbi nakwiimeko ezininzi. ukuba banelisekile. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu banokwenza ezo zitshintshi ngokwabo, kodwa rhoqo kuncedwa kwiprogram yomntwana. Ukuxhatshazwa komtshato kwi-website ye-American Association of Marriage and Family Treatment website (www.AAMFT.com)
Ungalindeli Ukufuna Uncedo Lwezakhono
Ukuze ufumane uncedo oluphezulu kumcebisi womtshato, ungalindi de ukuba umtshato wakho ungapheli ukufumana uncedo lochwepheshe. Umncedisi womtshato onobuchule unokubambisana nomtshato wakho. Lo mntu unokukukhokela ngobudlelwane obunzima obufunekayo ukuze umtshato wakho ubuyele kumzila. Umgqirha akayi kuthatha icala (ngaphakathi kwesizathu), uncedise ukudala ukhuseleko kunye nokuxhamla kwaye kukuncede ngeendlela zokunxibelelana ezimbi. Xa iingxaki zingenakulinganiswa nemizamo yethu, yinto efanelekileyo ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman