Esinye sezigqibo ezinzima kunokwenza umtshato
Esinye sezigqibo ezinzima kunokuba ufanele uyenze ebomini bakho kukuba kukunika umntu okhohlisa umtshato ithuba lesibini. Esi sigqibo sinzima ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho liqamba amanga kuwe, lenzelwe wena, lenze isidenge kuwe, kunye / okanye lazama ukufihla loo nto.
Kodwa, kuthekani ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lithembeka kwaye lithembeka, ukuzisola ngokungathembeki, uthembisa ukuba uthembekile, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba bobabini nithandana?
Wonke umntu unalo umgca kwisanti - into enye into ehlukileyo. Nguwe kuphela owaziyo loo mgca kwisanti.
Nazi izizathu ezintlanu akufanele unikeze umcuphi ithuba lesibini:
- Kwakuyintsebenziswano kunye nomlingane wokuqala
- Umcimbi wawugcwele ixesha elide kunye nexesha elide
- Umculi akabonakalisi ukuzisola okanye akaxolisi
- Ukukopela kwenzeka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane
- Ukukopela kuyisihloko okanye indlela yokuziphatha
Imibuzo Yokuzibuza Ukuba Ucinga Ngokunika Umfazi Wakho Ikhefu lesibini
Ngaphambi kokuba unike iqabane lakho ithuba lesibini, nantsi eminye imibuzo ebalulekileyo ukuzibuza yona:
- Ingaba okokuqala ngqa lakho iqabane lakho likukhohlise?
- Ingaba iqabane lakho liqonda ukukhathazeka akubangela?
- Ngaba lakho iqabane liyabona ukukopela njengengxaki?
- Ingaba lakho iqabane liyamkela uxanduva lokungathembeki?
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zezizathu zokungathembeki, ngaba iqabane lakho liya kwamkela ukuba utshintsho olufunekayo kwihambo yakhe?
- Ngaba lakho iqabane lixolise?
- Ngaba ukholelwa ukuba lakho iqabane lizisola kwaye lizisola ngokwenene ngokungathembeki?
- Ngaba lakho iqabane liza kubakho isiluleko somtshato kunye nomntu ngamnye?
- Ngaba yonke intsebenziswano kunye nomlingani womntu oye wahlukana?
- Ukuba umntu ngumntu oqabane lakho usebenza naye, ngaba uxoxe ngendlela umlingane wakho angagcina ngayo ubudlelwane kwishishini kuphela?
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba wena nomlingane wakho unokufumana umtshato ophumelelayo, ovuyoleyo, ohlala ixesha elide?
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba unokuphinde uthembe umlingane wakho?
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba umtshato wakho ufanele ukugcina? Ukuba kunjalo, kuba kutheni?
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukungathembeki kwakho kwexesha elidlulileyo kuya kuphazamisa ingqondo nentliziyo yakho ngonaphakade?
- Ngaba unokuxolela lakho iqabane?
- Ngaba nonke nikulungele ukusebenza emtshatweni wenu kwaye nifunde indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zenu eziphambili zokuthetha?
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokunika iqabane lakho ithuba lesibini, qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba eli lixesha elinye ithuba. Kanye kanye. Awuyi kubaxolela ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Yitsho ngokucacileyo ukuba akuyi kuba namathuba. Kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukuba ukuxolelwa kwakho nokuzimisela ukunika ithuba lesibini akuvumelani nokuziphatha ukukopela.
Ukuze abo bafumane ithuba lesibini
Ukuba ungomnye wabanenhlanhla onomlingane onqwenela ukucinga ngokukunika ithuba lesibini, kufuneka uchaze ukuba kutheni ukhohlise kwaye ucele uxolo, uthembeke kwaye ugcine izithembiso zakho. Yamkela ukuba kuya kuba nemibuzo malunga nokuzibophezela kwakho nokuba uya kuhamba kwakhona ngeli xesha elilandelayo xa ubeka amehlo akho kumntu othanda ukuba ngcono.
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Oko Abanye Batsho Ngamathuba Asibini
"Ungazigxeka. Ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzimela kwakho akuxhomekeke kwiimpembelelo zomlingane wakho. Unokuba yinxalenye yesisombululo okanye usebenze utshintshe ubudlelwane kodwa awuyiyo imbangela yokungcatsha." UDkt. Terri Orbuch, Ngaba iCheat Find a Chance Chance? kwiFoxNews.com
"Xa kuvela ekunikeni umoni olahlekileyo (okanye wesithathu okanye wesine) ukuxolelwa, umntu ubeka ngaphi umgca? Ingxaki enkulu ekukhohliseni kwiqabane okanye enye into ebaluleke kakhulu akunjalo ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngokwawo, kodwa kunoko ukungcatsha ukuthembela kubangele. Ukuhlukana okubuhlungu kwiimeko ezininzi kubonisa kakhulu ukuba kudlule ...
Ngesinye isikhathi unokuqwalaselwa njengesigxina. Ukuhlaselwa. Ubini okanye ngaphezulu ngumzekelo. Kutheni kufuneke ukuba umxokelelwane we-serial axolelwe okanye anikezwe ithuba lesithathu, lesine okanye lesihlanu? "UDkt. Stephen Diamond, Xa Abaxhamli beNtsebenziswano: Ubani Abafanelekile Okwesibini? I-PsychologyToday.com (2010).
"Ukuba iqabane lakho liwela 'lungaziveli', uthabatha umyeni wakhe engalawulekanga. Umcuphi kufuneka abone iphoso lakhe okanye lo mntu akaze akwazi ukunxibelelana nawe emoyeni nangokunyanisekileyo. umtshato, "ukuphendula kwakho kusekho kumlingani wakho ukuxazulula ingxaki ngokufanelekileyo (khangela unyango, uthetha kubafundisi)." UMarni Feuerman, Imibuzo Yokuzibuza Ngaphambi Kokubamba Umculi kwi-YourTango.com
Akukho mntu unokukuxelela ukuba wenzeni kule meko. Akulula ukuhamba okanye ukuhlula intsapho. Unokwakha kabusha umtshato wakho kunye nezixhobo ezifanelekileyo. Isikhokelo sobugcisa kunye neencwadi ezihloniphekileyo okanye izixhobo ezisemgangathweni kunokukunceda uqhubele phambili naluphi na ulwalathiso olwenzayo.
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