Iingcebiso zokujongana Xa umlingani wakho engathembekanga

Uvele uqaphela ukuba iqabane lakho lingathembekanga. Iindaba zokungathembeki kukubethe njengetani lezitena. Umtshato wakho ngoku uphonswe kwiimeko ezinzima ezingayonakalisa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bobabili unako ukukwazi ukusebenza ngawo kwaye uphela ngcono kunanini ngaphambili.

Unokuba nethemba lokuba umtshato wakho unokusinda kwiqabane lakho lokukhohlisa kuwe, kodwa uziva ugule ngaphakathi xa ucinga ngemicimbi.

Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni umlingani wakho ekhohlisa, kodwa akukho mpendulo elula ukuba kutheni umntu engathembekanga. Ingaba ngumqondiso wezinye iingxaki emtshatweni wakho, inokubambisana nento ethile kwixesha elidlulileyo lakho, okanye lingenakuqhathaniswa ngokupheleleyo nawe okanye umtshato wakho. Awunakukwazi ngokwenene ukuba kutheni kwenzeka.

Iingcebiso zokujongana nomlingani ongathembekanga

Kukho izinto ezili-15 ongayenza ukuze ungaphaya kwenzakele, xolela iqabane lakho elingathembekanga, kwaye ulondoloze umtshato wakho.

1. Musa ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu malunga nokuphela komtshato wakho ngoku nje ngokuba lakho iqabane lingathembeki. Eli lixesha lokucinga okuthile emtshatweni wakho ukuba ubone ezinye izinto ngaphandle kokungathembeki kufuneka zibonwe kwaye ziqwalaselwe.
2. Qonda ukuba iimvakalelo azilungile okanye ziphosakeleyo. Yamkela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho, ukungaqiniseki, ukuphazamiseka, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, intlungu, ukuxinezeleka, kunye nokudideka malunga nokuba neqabane elingathembekanga liqhelekile. Uya kuba kwi-roller coaster of emotions kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kwaye mhlawumbi unyuke unyaka okanye ezimbini emva koko.

1. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuzinyamekela. Unokuthi usebenze ngokungathembeki njengentlanzi, isifo sohudo, iingxaki zokulala (ubuncinci okanye ubuninzi), ukuzithiba, ukukhathazeka, nokungafuni ukutya okanye ukutya ngokutya.
2. Ukulingana kuyisisitshixo sokufumana eli liva lokuhlangabezana nokungathembeki. Zibophe ukutya ukutya okunempilo, ukuhlala kwishedyuli, ukulala iiyure eziqhelekileyo, ukufumana umthambo rhoqo ngosuku, ukusela amanzi amaninzi kunye nokuzonwabisa.

1. Kukulungele ukuhleka. Jonga amabhayisikobho amnandi okanye imiboniso yeTV. Zichitha ixesha kunye nabantu abakwenza bamomothekayo. Ubomi buqhubeka nangona ziintlungu kunye namaqabane angathembekiyo.
2. Iinyembezi ziphilile. Ukuba abafikanga ngokwemvelo, gxiba umculo womculo we-blues okanye ubukele i-movie ebuhlungu. Abo bancatshisiweyo banokuziva benqabile, kodwa kubalulekile ukudibanisa nemvakalelo yakho.
3. Qala iphepha. Bhala phantsi iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo malunga nokungathembeki komlingani wakho.
4. Buza yonke imibuzo oyifunayo. Thetha kunye neqabane lakho malunga nokungathembeki. Kufuneka uvume ukuba iqabane lakho lingazi ukuba kutheni ukungathembeki kwenzeke okanye kungenakufuna ukutyhila oku kuwe.
5. Funa ucebisi. Musa ukuzama ukuhlangabezana nokunyaniseka wedwa! Kodwa-ke, ungakhangeli kwintaba ephakamileyo kuye yonke into oyaziyo ukuba iqabane lakho lithembekileyo. Khetha ngokukhethekileyo ngubani oza kubelana ngalo ngcaciso. Ukwazi uhlobo lokungathembeki ngezinye izikhathi kwenza ukuba kuqondwe kulula kwaye ukucebisa kunokunceda ukufumana iimpendulo kwimibandela. Ingaba ubusuku bunye ubusuku okanye umcimbi? Ngaba ifike ngexesha okanye emva kweengxaki zobomi? Ngaba isilonda socansi sinokwenzeka? Ngaba yayisenzo sokuziphindezela? Ingaba ukukhohlisa kwenzeka ekupheleni komtshato? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba, le nto ingaba yithuba elibaluleke kakhulu lokufuna uncedo lwezakhono.

1. Thatha ngelinye ilanga ngexesha. Wena kunye neqabane lakho kufuneka nivavanywe nge-AIDS / HIV kunye ne-STD ngaphambi kokuba niphinde nisondele ubuhlobo besondo ngaphandle kokukhuselwa. Cinga imida oyifunayo kumtshato wakho ukuze uhlale emtshatweni. Unokuba unqwenela ukuqhagamshelana nommeli kwaye ufumane ezi zibhalwe kwisivumelwano esilandelayo.
2. Abantwana bakho kufuneka bazi ukuba uya kulungile. Awukwazi ukufihla into yokuba uxinzeleleke okanye uxinzeleleke. Ukunyaniseka kunye nabantwana bakho kusenokuba yindlela efanelekileyo ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabo, kodwa musa ukuvavanya ngeenkcukacha. Kwakhona, musa ukwenza izithembiso ongeke uzigcine.

1. Zama ukungena kumdlalo wokugxeka ngenxa yani okanye yintoni eyenza ukungathembeki. Kuphelelwe ngamandla. Oku kuquka ukugxeka umntu wesithathu. Ayinakuguqula nantoni na. Kwakhona, cinga kabili ngaphambi kokuba uxelele intsapho yakho okanye intsapho yakho yetsapho malunga nokungathembeki. Amalungu entsapho anokuhlala ephethe amagqabi ixesha elide.
2. Unokuba noxinzelelo olusemva kokukhathazeka. Ukuba uthe wenyuka, jongela ngezenzo ezinqabileyo, uzive ngathi uhamba kwii-eggshells, kwaye uqhubeke unempendulo xa ukhunjulwa ukungathembeki, jonga ugqirha ngokukhawuleza. Amachiza, nangona okwethutyana, inokuba yinto efanelekileyo.
3. Kuthatha ixesha ukugqitha intlungu yokuba neqabane elingathembekanga. Ungalindelanga umxube weemvakalelo, umva wokudideka kunye ne-limbo, nokungathembeki ukuba uhambe ngenxa yokuba uzame ukuxolela umlingane wakho kwaye uzibophezele ukugcina umtshato wakho. Amanqanaba okufa nokufa (ukuphika, umsindo, ukuxoxisana, ukuxinezeleka, nokwamkelwa) yinxalenye yenkqubo yokulila. Akuthethi ukuba umtshato wakho awukwazi ukuhlaziywa nokuqiniswa, kuba unako. Kodwa, kuya kuhluka. Khumbula ukuba umtshato wakho ushintshile. Uya kufuna ukulilazela ukuba ilahleko.
4. Fumana okusebenzayo. Jonga iimali zakho, imeko yezindlu, ukuthutha, njl. Ukuba ukhetha ukuphelisa umtshato wakho, qiniseka ukuba uye wacinga ukuba uya kuhlala phi, ukuba unayo imali eyaneleyo yokuhlawula izinto ezibalulekileyo, njl. Ukuba awuqinisekanga oku sisigqibo esifanelekileyo, khangela ukucebisa kunye nokukukhokela.

Ukungathembeki ngenye yeengxaki ezinzima kakhulu umtshato onokujamelana nazo. Akusoloko kuthetha ukuba kuphelile. Kubaluleke kakhulu wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nicinge ngenyameko yintoni na utshintsho enizimisele ukuyenza ukuze niyidlule.