Ukunyanzelisa uqeqesho lwasemakhaya kukhuthaza umfazi-kwaye uyanconywa kwaye uxhaswa ezinye iicawa. Kucatshulwa ukuba ukunika amadoda olu hlobo lolawulo kumtshato kunokukhokelela ekutshatyalaliseni komtshato kwaye kunokutshabalalisa ukuzithemba komntu otyunjwe. Nanku ukukhangela ukuba ngaba umkhwa wokukhawuleza uxhatshazo lwasekhaya kwaye uwenza ubundlobongela, nokuba ingaba isekelwe kwisibhalo okanye ishukumisekayo ngesondo.
Ululeko Lwamakhaya?
Uqeqesho lwasekhaya luyindlela yokuphila yomtshato ethobekileyo ekhuthaza amadoda ukuba athabathe abafazi bawo iimpazamo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi. Abo baxhasa indlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha ekhaya ba kholelwa ukuba:
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya luvela eBhayibhileni.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya alukho iBDSM.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya aluyonto.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yomtshato.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya lunikeza ukulungiswa ngokomzimba nomntu onomdla ngokwenene.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya lulawula igunya.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya luyahlwaywa ngokufanelekileyo.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya lufuna ukuba kukho imvume epheleleyo evela kumabini omabini.
Uphando malunga noqeqesho lwasekhaya luye lwabonisa ukuba:
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya lusekelwe ekuchazeni kakuhle iBhayibhile.
- Inene i-BDSM.
- Uqeqesho lwasekhaya luyintando yesondo.
- Ukulungiswa ngokwenyama akusiyo ukunikela ubomi kubudlelwane.
- Ukubetha umfazi njengendlela yokulungiswa okanye isohlwayo kuyinkqubo yokulawula kwaye inokuxhaphaza.
- Umtshato ubiza isibini ukuba sithandane, kungekhona ukutshatyalaliswa kwesinye iqabane kumnye okubandakanya ukujeziswa.
Ngaba Umyalelo Wasekhaya Usekelwe KwiZibhalo?
Nangona abakhuseli boqeqesho lwasekhaya bakholelwa ukuba ubomi beDD busekelwe kwiindinyana zeBhayibhile, ezinye iinkokeli zonqulo zamaKristu azivumelani. Abo baqhuba ukuqeqeshwa ekhaya bahlala bethetha iitekisi ezibhaliweyo ezifuna ukuba umfazi azithobe kumyeni wakhe, kodwa baninzi abalandela umtshato wokuthobela ngaphandle kokubetha okanye ukubetha abafazi babo.
INgqungquthela yaseAlantic Baptist Churches ithi "UkuHlanganiswa kwiNdlu":
"Ubunzima ngombono wendabuko wobununu kukuba uye wasebenzisa kakubi ukugcina abantu besetyhini baxhomekeke kwaye kwezinye iimeko baxhomekeke ekuxhatshazweni ngokomzimba kunye / okanye kwimizimba yabasetyhini phakathi kobudlelwane obubini. ejoliswe kulwalamano oluthile. "
UMfundisi Al Blonigen, uMfundisi we-metro-Detroit Retrouvaille, uthe:
"Andikholelwa ukuba kukho indoda enye ephelele kangangokuthi uya kulungele ukusebenzisa lo hlobo lombuso." Ngaphandle koko, akukho ndawo kwiZibhalo uYesu awasebenzisa ngayo intlungu yomzimba kunoma ubani. "
Kwaye i-TheMarriageBed.com ibhala "kwiMiyalo yasekhaya ejongene neLizwi likaThixo":
"Andikwazi ukufumana inkcazo kwisibhalo apho uThixo athetha khona, okanye avumela, amadoda ukuba aqeqeshe abafazi bawo (ngokungathandekiyo, kuba engabonakali ukuba wayekhohlile ukuxelela abazali ukuba baqeqeshe abantwana babo.) Andifumananga niselo kuKristu ngokwenyama ukuyala abafundi bakhe okanye abalandeli (uKristu / ibandla kunye nomyeni / umfazi). "
Kutheni Abafazi Bavumelana Neengqeqesho Zasekhaya?
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba abafazi bafuna okanye bavumelana noqeqesho lwasekhaya ngenxa yecala ngenxa yokuziphatha ngokwesondo esedlulileyo, okanye ngenxa yokuba bakholelwa ukuba uThixo uthathwa njengolu nxaxheba efanelekileyo yendoda.
Mhlawumbi la mabhinqa anemifanekiso embi, kodwa abanye abafazi bafumana ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo.
TheMarriageBed.com ithi:
"Aba besetyhini 'baya kuphunga' ngenxa yokuba baziva ukuba isenzo sifanelekileyo isijeziso abaya kuyenza sokwenza oko kubonakala ngathi ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ukulahlekelwa amalungelo okuqhuba iintsuku ezimbalwa, kuphelisa ukungahambi kakuhle. Ufuna, ngokukhawuleza ukuba unokujamelana nesijeziso-andiyikuboni njengokuba iBhayibhile. I-DD inokubukeka ilungileyo kumfazi ofuna ukukhululeka ekubeni enze izigqibo okanye ukuthatha uxanduva ebomini. iwela kumyeni kunye nomfazi uphantsi komntwana. Ukuba akahambisani nembopheleleko yakhe, ufumana utywala kunye nokuphela kwayo. Akukho nzame okanye iinjongo zokukhula zibe ngumfazi okhulileyo kaThixo. "
Inkxalabo yobundlobongela basekhaya ngaphakathi kweNkcazo yasekhaya yaseKhaya
Ngokwe-National Coalition Against Violence Domestic, omnye kwabafazi abathathu base-US uye waba lixhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya kubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Abantu abangaba-20 beliphi na isini baxhatshazwa yiqabane ngalinye ngomzuzu. Ukuba unomtshato wokuqeqeshwa ekhaya kwaye awukhathazi ngolu hlobo, nceda ufune ukululekwa ukuze wenze isisombululo esinolwazi, oluqinileyo malunga nolwalamano lwakho.