Ingaba kukho ukungathembeki, ubuxoki okanye izithembiso eziphukileyo, ezi ziingxaki ezinkulu ezihlasela umtshato wakho. Ukuthembela phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kuwonakaliswe kakhulu kukungcatshiswa okunzulu. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba umtshato awunakulinganiswa. Ukuvuselela ukuthembela kumtshato wakho kunokuba ngumngeni xa iqabane lakho lenze into ebalulekileyo ekuphulaphuleni ukuthembela kwakho.
Ukuthembela kulwalamano olusondeleyo malunga nomntu okhuselekileyo nomnye umntu. Xa kwenzeka into ethile, okanye zombini, ukuba uzive ungakhuselekanga omnye nomnye ngenxa yesiganeko sithuba esisodwa okanye iqela leemeko, i-trust is erased. Kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomgudu wokubuyisela kwakhona umgangatho wokhuseleko oyifunayo ukuze umtshato uphumelele.
Nazi iziphakamiso ezimbalwa kunye noncedo lokuvuselela ukuthembela emtshatweni wakho:
- Yenza isigqibo sokuthanda ngokuzama ukuyeka ukuhamba kwidlulileyo. Yeka ukukhathazeka malunga neemeko ezaphulaphula ithemba phakathi kwakho nomlingane wakho.
- Nquma ukuxolela okanye ukuxolelwa.
- Ukuba ungowomtshato wakho oqamba amanga, uxoke, njl. Bonisa ukuba ukuziphatha okuphosakeleyo kuphelile ngokutshintsha iziphatho zakho. Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho mfihlelo, ubuxoki, ukungathembeki, njl. Kumele ube ngokucacileyo, evulekileyo kwaye ezayo.
- Ngokubambisana, misela iinjongo ezithile zokufumana umtshato wakho kumzila. Thetha ngokucacileyo malunga nale njongo uze ukhangele rhoqo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uhamba endleleni.
- Ukwakha kabusha ukuthembela kumtshato wakho, bobabili kufuneka nivuselele ukuzinikela kwenu emtshatweni wenu kunye nomnye.
- Iqabane elimele lijongane nentlungu. Elinye iqabane kufuneka livume ukulimala okubangelwa liva eliphazamisayo lokuxoxwa okanye ukukhohliswa. Elinye iqabane kufuneka live intlungu yomlingane wayo kwaye ibonise ukuba ibalulekile. Olu velwano luya kuphulukisa.
- Mamela ngokupheleleyo kunye kunye nentliziyo yakho, kungekhona nje intloko yakho.
- Nyaniseka. Kumele ukwazi ukuqonda nokuchaza ukuba kutheni ukuziphatha kakubi kwenzeka. Awukwazi nje ukuthi "andiyazi." Kumele usebenze nzima ukwazi isizathu sokuba kwenzeke kwaye kutheni kungeke kwenzeke kwakhona.
- Gwema ukusebenzisa amagama angabangela ingxabano. Sebenzisa izitatimende ezingenagxeki 'I' kwaye ungatsho rhoqo, kufuneka, kungekho, okanye kufuneka.
- Thatha uxanduva kwizenzo zakho kunye nezigqibo. Ukukhuseleka kuya kuqhubela phambili ukuxabana okanye ingxaki.
- Vula ukufuna ukululekwa ukuba ube nokuqonda okungcono oko kwabangela ukuba i-trust ithe yaphulwa. Kwakhona kuvuleleke ekukhuleni nasekuphuculeni. Funda iincwadi zokuncedisa wena kunye kunye nendlela yokuvuselela ukuthembela nokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho.
- Khumbulani ukuba ngamnye uyayifumana iimpendulo ezivulekileyo nezinyanisekileyo kwimibandela yakho malunga nomcimbi okanye ukungcatsha.
Iingcebiso eziqhelekileyo:
- Qaphela ukuba ukwakha ityala kuthatha ixesha. Ngeke kwenzeke ngobusuku. Akukho xesha elifanelekileyo okanye elingalunganga xesha, kodwa uya kukwazi xa ufika khona.
- Kulungile ukukhumbula nokuxoxa ngeziganeko kunye nokungcatsha. Awunakulibala into eyenzekayo, kodwa intlungu ehlanganisiweyo iya kugqitywa xa usebenza ngokusebenza kuyo.
- Qaphela imiva yakho yangaphakathi kwaye wabelane ngemvakalelo yakho. Unokuthuthuzana kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani na umxhoba okanye umenzi wobubi.
- Izinto ezincinci zibaluleke kakhulu njengezinto ezinkulu.
Ingaba ufuna ntoni:
- Ixesha
- Umonde
- Ukunyaniseka
- Ukuzinikela
- Uthando
- Xolelo
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba kuseko kunzima ukuvuselela ukuthembela okwephukile, umgqirha unokukunceda ukuba uqhube oko kwenzekayo, kutheni, nendlela yokuqhubela phambili. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango kwiibhangqa eziye zenzelwe ukuseka kwakhona ukuthembeka, ukunxibelelana kunye noxhumano olunokuba luncedo ngakumbi. Usenokugqiba umtshato oqinileyo emva kokuba ungene kuloo ngxaki.
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