Abasetyhini abane-ADHD banokufumana uninzi lwezono zamakhaya. Iimpawu ze-ADHD zenza ulawulo lwekhaya lucelomngeni, kodwa abafazi abahlala ne-ADHD benza izinto eziphezulu. Ukuba bayalwela ukudibana nabo, kunokuba ngumthombo wehlazo kunye netyala. Ezi zilindelwe ziyakhutshwa ngexesha leeholide. Ekubeni i-Thanksgiving iyona nto 'enkulu yokupheka ekhaya,' uxinzelelo lokuba luvelele ekhaya luvakalelwa kakhulu.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba utshintshile izilindele? Kuthekani ukuba ubuya kudala i-Thanksgiving ehlonipha umoya weeholide-ukubonga-ngeendlela ezilula kuwe, kwaye akufuneki ukuba wenze izinto ezinzima.
Imibhiyozo yokuBonga yokuBonga iquka ukucwangciswa kokutya, ukuthenga ukutya, ukupheka isidlo esikhulu kunye neendawo ezininzi zokutya, kunye nekhaya elihlambulukileyo elihlotshiswe ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye lihlala lilungelelaniso leendwendwe. Zonke ezi zinto zifuna izakhono zentlangano kunye nokulawula ixesha elingaqhelekanga kubantu abane-ADHD.
Indlela entsha yokucinga ngeeholide
UDkt. Patricia Quinn unikeza iziphakamiso malunga nendlela abafazi abane-ADHD banokubhiyozela ngayo kwaye bavuyiswe yi-Thanksgiving yabo. UDkt. Quinn ungumqambishelana kunye neZiko leMantombazana kunye nabasetyhini abane-ADHD kunye nombhali owaziwayo emhlabeni wonke weencwadi ze-ADHD kuquka 'Ukuqonda abaNtombi abane-ADHD: Indlela abavakalelwa ngayo nokuba Kutheni Benza Oko Benzayo'.
Esikhundleni sokubonelela 'iingcebiso' ukuze uzame kwaye uphumelele kwiNkolelo yokuBonga, uPatricia ubonisa ukuba abafazi bajonge iholide ngendlela entsha ngokupheleleyo. Uchaza ukuba xa abafazi abane-ADHD bezama ukwenza oko kulindeleke ngokwenene, banomuvo wokuba bangalingani nakumntu wonke, kunye nokuzithemba kwabo ukuzithemba ngenxa yoko.
Kunoko, zikhulule kumthwalo wokulindela uluntu kwaye uzibeke uphumelele. Yiba nombulelo osebenza ngamandla akho, izinto eziphambili kunye noko unokukwazi. Yenza ubuchule kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuzonwabisa ubomi xa ugcina izinto zilula.
Ukusebenzisa le ndlela, i-Thanksgiving yakho inokubonakala ihluke kakhulu kwimifanekiso kumaphephancwadi nakwiimidlalo zeTV kwaye oko kulungile! Uya kudala iholide ekhunjulwayo, ezonwabisayo wena kunye nosapho lwakho.
UkuConga
UDkt. Quinn ubonisa ukuba neentlanganiso zeentsapho apho wonke umntu ubandakanyeka kwisicwangciso . Fumana igalelo kumlingane wakho kunye nezingane kwaye unqume njengeqela ukuba uza kubhiyozela iWatchgiving. Thabatha ingqwalasela yomntu wonke kunye nemida yomnye nomnye. Khumbula ukuba ukuphulwa kwemithetho eqhelekileyo akuvunyelwe kuphela kodwa kukhuthazwa!
Sebenzisa ixesha kunye nosapho
Ngundoqo, I-Thanksgiving iphathelele ukudibanisa nosapho lwakho. Ngokwesiko eyenziwe malunga netafile yokutya, kodwa akufanele ukuba! UDkt. Quinn uthe usenokusebenzisa iifama yakho ukuya epulazini ukutyelela ii-turkeys eziphilayo, ukuthabatha i-apple pie, okanye ukuya epikinikini. Uyakwazi ukucamngca zonke iinketho ezahlukeneyo ngexesha lokuhlangana kwentsapho yakho.
Mbulelo yokutya
UDkt. Quinn wasebenzisa ukushicilela iphephancwadi elithi 'I-Addvanced: Umagazini weBasetyhini abane-ADD'. Wachaza umfanekiso wokubonga abawutyhilele kulo magazini. Intsapho yayihleli phantsi igqoke iingubo zabo ezilungileyo kwietafile ezihombisiweyo. Umama wayedla iiparele zakhe. Kwakubonakala ngathi yinto engabonakaliyo uze uqaphele ukuba i-turkey enkulu etafileni yayiselisiwe. Nawuphi na umfazi we-ADHD uya kuziva uvelwano olukhulu kumama esithombeni. Baqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani umsebenzi kunye nosizi lwengqondo oluza kuthatha ukudala loo Mbulelo kunye neentlungu kunye neentloni ayeza kuziva xa eqonda ukuba akakwazanga ukuwukhupha.
UDkt. Quinn uthi akazami ukulungelelanisa umgca ojikelezayo kwindawo engqamene. Ukuba ukupheka akuyiyo amandla akho, ungenzi. Kunoko, phuma waya esidlweni, usebenzise i-potluck, upheke into elula kunokuba u-turkey omkhulu okanye ulungise i-pizza. Kwakunjalo ukondla; akudingeki ukuba wenze i-apula pie kunye neepeyi. Kuhle ukuba uthenge bobabini okanye abanakho.
Ukucoca
Njengombulelo yiholide edlalwa rhoqo ekhaya, umsebenzi wendlu unokuba yinxalenye yamalungiselelo. UDkt. Quinn uthi xa kukho into evakalelwa kakhulu, cela, 'Yintoni enokwenzeka?'. Ukuba ukucoca yonke imigqomo kuninzi kuwe, phelisa umbhoxo! Lo mbono wokukhulula. Ungabambisana kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uhlule imisebenzi ukwenzela ukuba uxanduva lwakho lusebenze ngamandla akho okanye unokuqesha umcebisi.
Ndifuna umnqweno oncomekayo kwaye ukhumbule amazwi okugqibela kaPatricia: "Yiba nesimo sengqondo, zinike imvume yokushiya izinto ezilindelekileyo kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzonwabisa."