Ukuzithemba kukujonga indlela ozijonga ngayo. Ukuvavanya kwakho kobuchule bakho kunye nobuthathaka. Abantu abanokuzihlonela ngokufanelekileyo bayakwazi ukuqonda amandla abo kwaye babe novelwano kubo naziphi na iimingcele. Ziyazixabisa kwaye zilindele abanye ukuba baphathe ngokuhlonipha.
Kutheni abantu abane-ADHD banesidima sokuzithoba?
Iimpawu ze-ADHD ezifana nokuxinwa okuphantsi, ukulibala, kunye nesidingo sokwanelisa ngokukhawuleza kubangele abantu abane-ADHD abanamava amaninzi amaninzi kunye neziganeko zobomi.
Ngokomzekelo, banokufumana phantsi kwezemfundo, iingxaki kwindawo yokusebenzela okanye iingxaki zentlalo ezifana nokwenza kunye nokugcina abahlobo kunye nolwalamano lomtshato. Ezi zihlandlo ezididayo kunye nokungaphumeleli zichaphazela ukuzithemba kwabo.
Unokwenza amaqashiso ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho, kwaye kukulungele konke, konke kukuphantsi kolawulo lwakho. Awudingi ukuthembela kwabanye abantu.
1. Kholelwa kuwe
Ukuphindaphinda amava kunye nokusilela kukuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwakho. Oku kukhokelela ekubeni ungathembeki kwaye ungathandabuzeki ubuchule bakho kunye neetalente. Ukuphula umjikelezo kwaye uqale ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, kubalulekile ukuqala ukukholelwa kuwe. Ukukholelwa kuwe kungacacile, kodwa ukuba unokuqala ukuthembela amandla kunye neetalente, kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho. Uphando lufumene abantu abane-ADHD banokuzinza kunye nokukwazi ukulungelelanisa rhoqo kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imbali yakho, utshintsho lunokwenzeka.
2. Gxininisa ngamandla akho
Sonke sizalwe ngeetalente ezikhethekileyo kunye namandla. Ziziphi zakho? Ukuba awuqinisekanga, ngeveki elandelayo qaphela ukuba yimiphi imisebenzi nemisebenzi elula kuwe. Yiyiphi enokuyithanda ukuyenza, kwaye yiyiphi na into oyifumanayo? Zizo zonke iinkcukacha! Ukuchitha ixesha ukuphawula ezi zinto kukukhawuleza ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwakho.
Kunokuba uzame ukwenza okuhle kwimisebenzi enzima kuwe ,chitha ixesha elininzi lokwenza izinto ozilungeleyo. Faka isicelo kulo mgaqo kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi bakho-umsebenzi, ikhaya, izinto ezithandwayo, njl.
3. Ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakho
Ukongeza kokugxininisa ngamandla akho, kukho ezinye izakhono ezisisiseko ozimele uphumelele ebomini kwaye uzive ulungile malunga nawe. Ezi zakhono zingenakuzimela ngokwemvelo ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho ye-ADHD isebenza njani. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba bafumane kakuhle ngexesha.
Funda ukuba luhle kakhulu ...
- Umphathi wexesha: ukufika ngexesha kukukwenza uzive unokwethenjelwa;
- Imenenja yemali : ukugqithisa okanye ukulibala ukuhlawula imali yakho yokubambisa imali ngokuzithemba kwakho;
- Isilungiselelo sokutya: kunzima ukuziva ulungile xa ulambile okanye udla ukutya okungenamsoco;
- Umgcini wezindlu: indlu engcolileyo egcwele i-clutter kunye ne-smoky smells ilahlekisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Le mi sebenzi inzima kuwe ngenxa yokuba ifuna izakhono ezenza umngeni kwi-ADHD. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungile kubo bonke.
4. Zinikezele ngeempendulo
Indlela oye wadunyiswa ngayo kwaye uqeqesho xa umntwana echaphazela indlela ozibona ngayo ngoko kwaye uzijonga njani namhlanje. Abantwana abane-ADHD banokugxekwa ngakumbi kunokudumisa. Njengoko ukhulile, unokugxila kuzo zonke izinto ozenzayo 'ezingalunganga' okanye ungenzi kakuhle ngenxa yokuba sele yindlela yakho engagqibekanga.
Ukususela ngoku ngoku, ngenxa yokugxeka uzinikela, qaphela izinto ezimbini ezihamba kakuhle. Oku kuya kukunceda izinto eziza kukunceda ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho.
5. Ungazifanisi nabanye
Njengomntwana, usenokuba ngumkhuba wokuzifanisa nabanye. Abantakwabo, abahlobo, kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo mhlawumbi banokwenza izinto ozifumene kanzima, njengokuthobela ingqalelo kwiklasi okanye uhlale. Xa uzilinganisela ngokungafanelekanga kwabanye, iyanciphisa ukuzithemba kwakho, njengoko singasifani ngokuthelekiswayo apho sikhetele khona. Phuma kumkhwa wokuzifanisa namhlanje!
Imithombo:
Harpin V, et al. Iziphumo zexesha elide ze-ADHD: Ukuphononongwa ngokuHloniphekileyo kokuSebenza kunye nokuSebenzelana kweNtlalo. Umbhalo weengxaki zokukhathazeka. 2016; 20: 295-305.
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