Lawula iimpawu zakho kwaye uphile ubomi bakho obuhle
Abasetyhini abaninzi banokuziva bakhululekile xa befumanisa ukuba bane-ADHD. Bonwabile kukuba "nje" i-ADHD kuba ngaphambi kokufunyaniswa ukuba babezigxeka ngenxa yeengxaki zabo. Abaninzi abafazi abane-ADHD abangaboniyo baziva bengenelisekile kwaye banobuwula.
Ukuba i-ADHD ayiyiyo inkcazo yobulumko bakho. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abantu abane-ADHD baqaqambile kakhulu kwaye banakho ngaphezu kwengqiqo.
Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abasetyhini bacinga ukuba isizathu sokuba bangabonakali ukuba baqonde imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla abanye abantu abonakala bengenakuyenza nantoni kukuba abayilwazi.
U no kwenzeka:
- Ukukhathazeka kwengqondo
- Ndiziva ndixakekile kwaye ndiphelile
- Ingqiqo yokungafaneleki
- Ukuzijongela phantsi
- Ukuxinzezeleka kwengxaki
- Ukuva kulawulo
Nangona kunjalo, xa uqaphela ukuba unayo i-ADHD, iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki zingapheli, ezikubeka kwindawo engcono yokuphatha nokulawula iimpawu zakho ze-ADHD.
Kutheni Ndingazange Ndiyazi Ukuba Ndine-ADHD esikolweni?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana anama-ADHD aphantsi kancinci kwaye awanamdla, yinto yesizathu sokuba kutheni bafumaneke ngaphantsi kweemakhwenkwe. Kulula kakhulu ukuba utitshala aqaphele inkwenkwe engenakhathazeka kunokuba intombazana ehamba phambili.
Kukho ezinye izizathu, nazo. Intombazana ehlakaniphile ene-ADHD ikwazi ukufihla ngempumelelo i-ADHD yakhe xa isesikolweni. Isikolo sinikeza isakhiwo kunye nexesha elidlulileyo, zombini ezo zinceda kakhulu xa unayo i-ADHD.
Iiklasi zincinci ngokwaneleyo ukuba zihlakulele ubudlelwane kunye nootitshala bakhe, ezinika iinjongo ezongezelelweyo zokufunda nokunikela kwizabelo ngexesha.
Amantombazana akhathazeke ngakumbi kunamakhwenkwe ngezinto abantu abacinga ngazo. Baya kwenza konke abakwaziyo ukulingana nokulindelwa kootitshala kunye nabafundi abahamba nabo.
Oku kunokukhokelela ekupheleleni nasekukhathaleleni; Nangona kunjalo, ukuba amabakala alungileyo, ngoko ke akukho ziflegi ezibomvu eziphakanyisiweyo.
Emva kokugqiba isikolo esiphakamileyo, iingxaki ziqala ukubonakala. Xa isakhiwo sesikolo asikho ndawo kwaye imilinganiselo yezemfundo iphezulu, iimpawu ze-ADHD zingaqala ukubangela iingxaki zifana nendawo kwindawo yokusebenzela, apho kufuneka ulawulwe ixesha lakho kwaye ungabi nokuphendula kwangaphandle.
Abasetyhini kunye noXhaphalo
Ewe, abafazi banokufumanisa ukuba banesifo sokunyanzeliswa-impembelelo ye-ADHD, nangona kuncinci kunabesifazane abangenalo i-ADHD engayithobeliyo. Ukuba neempembelelo kubangela iingxaki. Ngokomzekelo, kunzima ukuba isetyhini esichengile ukuba ihambelane noko kuvunyelwene ngokuqhelekileyo ukuziphatha ngendlela evumelekileyo yamantombazana nabasetyhini.
Ukuba une-ADHD okanye udidi oludibeneyo onokucinga ngalo njengeTomboy ngenxa yokuba ukuziphatha kwakho kubonakala kuhluke kwiimimiselo zentlalo zintombazana. Unokufumana ukuba unamandla angaphezu kwamanye oontanga kwaye usityholwa ngokuthetha rhoqo. Ngenxa yokuba ubonakala uhlukile unokuba neemvakalelo zentliziyo ezingenayo, zigwetywe kwaye zingabandakanyiwa ngabaontanga bakho. Oku kunqatshiswa kunokuqhubeka nokuba ngumdala.
Abafazi kunye neKhaya
Abasetyhini abane-ADHD banomthombo owongezelelweyo wehlazo kunye netyala lokuba amadoda anengxaki ye-ADHD ayisoloko ejongene nayo kwaye elawula ikhaya.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi babephethe umsebenzi wekhaya, bewunakekele umsebenzi wendlu, ukuhlamba impahla, ukuthenga ukutya, ukucwangcisa ukutya , ukupheka, ukunakekelwa kwabantwana, kwaye rhoqo uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali kunye nokuhlawula imali , kwakhona.
Ngelishwa kubantu abano-ADHD, ezo zinto zinzima kakhulu. Ziyimisebenzi engapheliyo ngaphandle kwexesha elingapheliyo.
Akunandaba nokuba umlingani wakho uxhasa, ukuba siphila kwikhulu lama-21 okanye ukuba unomsebenzi ngaphandle kwendlu, abaninzi abafazi banomuvo wokuba bafanele ukuba zizinto ezi zinto. Ingaba ngummandla wokulwa nomzabalazo kwaye ungathatha umlinganiselo wokuzithemba .
Iingcebiso zokuPhila
- Qaphela : Ukuba ucinga ukuba unayo i-ADHD kodwa awufumananga ngokusemthethweni, yenza oku kuqala! Ukufumana uvavanyo lunemiphumo emihle kwindlela ozivakalelwa ngayo. Olunye uphando lwafumanisa ukuba abafazi babekwazi ukuxolela iimpazamo kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye babeziva bekhululekile ekulawuleni ubomi babo ngoku xa befumene i-ADHD. Ukwazi ukuba babengenangqondo kwaye kwakukho igama lokuba bahamba njani banikezela ingqiqo enkulu.
- Iimeko Ezihlalayo : I-ADHD ayifuni ukuhamba yedwa, oko kuthetha ukuba unokufumana enye imeko okanye ezinye iimeko nakwi-ADHD yakho. Zama ukungaxhalabisi. Ukwazi ukuba yiziphi iimeko ovumela ukuba uphathwe ngqo ngokuthe ngqo, oko kukuthetha ukuba unokuba ngumntu ophilileyo. Inkqubo ekhoyo ngokuqhelekileyo ekhoyo ukuba abafazi abanamava e-ADHD banokudandatheka, ukuxhalabisa, ukusela utywala, ukuphazamiseka kokutya , kunye nokugula okungapheliyo kokulala. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi imeko kuba ngenxa yokuba bayakwazi ukugubungela, ngoko sebenze ngokusondeleyo kunye nogqirha wakho ukuchonga ukuba unobani.
- Hamba Ukholo Lwekhaya : Ungazive unetyala okanye uhlazo lokuba indlu yakho ayilungekile njengabamelwane bakho. Kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini ukukhathazeka malunga. Funda iindlela ze-ADHD ezinobungane zokuhlela kunye nokuhlambulula indlu yakho, kodwa ungayivumeli ukuba ingabikho nto. Ngaphezu koko, kulungile ukuqesha umcoca okanye uvumele iqabane lakho lenze izinto ongekho kakuhle, ngeli gama ugxila into elula ukuba ukwenze.
- Ukuqhuba : Abafazi abane-ADHD abangenakunyameko basengozini enkulu yengozi xa beqhuba ngenxa yokungayithobeli. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuphepha zokuphepha. Cinga ukushayela imoto ngebhokisi yebhokisi yebhokisi kunokuba ulandelelanise ngoba kukunyanzela ukuba usebenze ngokuthe xaxa kwaye unganamathuba okukhupha. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuqhuba, tshintsha ifowuni yakho ukuze ungaphazanyiswa ngamakholi angenayo okanye itekisi. Musa ukuthetha kwifowuni-nokuba ne-headset. Ungalokothi uphuze kwaye uqhube okanye uthathe izidakamizwa zokuzonwabisa njengoko ezinokunciphisa ingqalelo yakho.
- Ukufezekisa : Makuyeke imfuneko yokuba uphumelele. Ukuzama ukufezekisa kunokukunceda uzive ulawulwa, kodwa unokufumana uchitha ixesha elininzi kwizinto ezincinci ezingenazo mpe mbelelo ebomini bakho kwingozi yemisebenzi ebalulekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, unokuchitha iiyure ukufumana ifonti ephezulu epheleleyo yomsebenzi, ngelixa ungahoywa ukuqala umboniso ozayo ngomso. Ekubeni unemilinganiselo ephakamileyo, uxinzelelo lwangaphakathi ukuba luphelele lunokukunqanda ukuba uqale umsebenzi kuba luziva lukhulu.
- Ukukhawuleza : Abaninzi abasetyhini bathi kuthatha ixesha elide ukwenza izinto abanye abantu. Umzekelo, imisebenzi rhoqo emsebenzini, mhlawumbi impendulo kwi-imeyile, ukufakela ifom okanye amaxesha okanye umsebenzi wendlu. Ukuba oku kuyinyani kuwe, ngoko into ongayiqondiyo kukuba kukho ezinye izinto onokuzenza ngokukhawuleza kwezaziso. Kungenzeka kube nesisombululo-ingxaki okanye ukudala isicwangciso sokuthengisa. Ukuqala namhlanje, qala ukuqaphela oko ubonakala ngathi unokukwazi ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kunabanye abantu. Akusikhuphiswano, kodwa kuya kunceda uqaphele ukuba ngelixa ezinye izinto zithatha ixesha elide, unezinye iitalente ukuba ungekho umkhwa wokuqaphela. Xa unokubheka ngokucwangcisekileyo amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, kuya kunceda ukuzithemba kwakho nokuzithemba.
- Ukungahambi kakuhle : Ukuba unobungozi, fumana umsebenzi okanye umdlalo kwaye uthathe ixesha ngalunye imihla, ekuseni xa kunokwenzeka. Kuya kunceda uzive ugxile kwaye uzinzile. Unokufumanisa ukuba unabangane abangamadoda kunabesifazana abahlobo, kwaye kulungile! Ngelixa abanye abahlobo besenokuthi uwagqoba ngamandla akho, kukukunceda ukhangele kwaye uzive ubuncinci iminyaka engama-15. Ungayisebenzisa kwakhona kwiindlela ezininzi ezintle. Ndiyazi umfazi othe ngqo ohlala phantse kuyo yonke ikomiti yokunceda kuluntu lwayo. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuba abandakanyeke ngenxa yamandla akhe angenamandla.
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