Thatha isikhashana uze ucinge ngomntu onoyolo owaziyo. Uyifumene engqondweni yakhe? Ngoku cinga ngendlela oya kuchaza ngayo ubuntu bomntu.
Ngaba izichasti ezinjengezinto eziphumayo, ezinamandla, okanye ezikhukhulayo ziza engqondweni? Kungenzeka ukuba enye yezimpawu zobuntu ozichazayo ihlobene nokuxubusha, okanye ukuthambekela kokufumana amandla ekusebenzeni kwihlabathi nakwiimeko zentlalo.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba i-extroduced among us iyakwazi ukuvuya ngakumbi. Ngoko ke yintoni na thina bachonga njengezethulo zokwenza oku?
Okokuqala, sifanele sicaciswe malunga nokuba yiyiphi intsingiselo . Nangona izazinzulu azivumelani ngokugcwele ngentsingiselo yokudityaniswa kwezinto, ngokuqhelekileyo zidibaniswa neziganeko ezinjengeyokufuna ukuvuya, ukulingana, inzondelelo, ukubusa kunye nokuthanda. I-Introversion ukuthambekela kokugxilwa kwangaphakathi kunye nokungathinteli ekusebenzisaneni kwentlalo. Ama-introverts athambekele ekubeni nobudlelwane obuncinane kwaye achithe ixesha elincinci lokuzibandakanya kunezo zinto. Kuyi nyaniso ukuba ubudlelwane obunempilo nolunentsingiselo bubambe indima ebalulekileyo kwinxoliseko yethu, kwaye loo nto ingabonakalisa ixesha elingakumbi ukuxhamla nabanye okanye iyakonwabela ixesha elininzi.
Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba ulwahlulo olukhoyo phakathi kwezingqungquthela kunye nokuxhamla luxhomekeke kwinkqubo ye-dopamine engqondweni, eyenza imivuzo enokuzonwabisa (kubandakanya ukusebenzisana nentlalontle).
Oku kuphakamisa ukuba i-extroverts ingaba nakho ukufumana iimvakalelo ezintle. Nangona ukutshatyalaliswa kwangoko kutshatyalaliswa kokungeniswa kwezibhengezo ngababhali abanjengoSusan Cain, umbhali wenkcubeko yethu idla ngokudumisa i-excrovert kwaye abaninzi bethu banxulumana "nokuphuma" kunye "nokuphila."
Nangona i-introverts ngokuqhelekileyo ingabonakalisa amanqanaba amancinci enonwabo kunokuba i-extroverts, oku akuthethi ukuba ama-introverts ayonwabanga. Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele inzuzo yolonwabo yendlela yokuziphatha engenayo kunye nokuxhamla, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulala ngaphi. Enye into ehambelanayo yophando lononophelo kukuba ukukhetha kwakho kunye nokuziphatha (okusemandleni akho kunye nokuguqulwa) kunemiphumo ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho, nokuba ukuthambekela kwakho kwendalo kukutsalathisa indlela eyahlukileyo.
Nazi izicwangciso ezimbalwa kubantu bethu ngokuthambekela kwangethuba lokunyusa ulonwabo.
Bona Ubomi Bakho Bonke
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba isilinganisi esilungelelaniswayo kunye nokukhushulwa okulinganiselwe kukuba: isixa. Sonke siwela kwindawo ethile kwi-bell-curve phakathi kwezi zimbini. Oko kuthetha ukuba abantu abaneziqalo eziqinileyo okanye eziqinileyo ezinqabileyo aziqabile. Inxalenye enkulu yabemi ihamba ngokusondeleyo phakathi, oku kuthetha ukuba kukho amaxesha apho bakhetha ukuhlalisana kunye namandla amandla esihlwele, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthula kunye nokuzimela kukufanelekile. Aba bantu bachaneka ngokuchanekileyo njengama-ambiverts.
Ngamnye wethu ulala nomoya wokutyalela iibhetri zethu ngokusebenzisana nentlalo kunye nokubambisana nabanye kunye nomnye ukutyekela.
Ukunyaniseka ngokwakho malunga nento oyifunayo ngexesha elithile kwaye uvumele imvume yokuba nayo. Xa ubiza umngani ukuba uxhomeke uziva echanekileyo, yenza usuku lwesidlo. Yaye xa uthanda ukuguqula incwadi enhle, yiya kuyo. Ukuqonda indlela ukuthambekela kwakho ukufikelela okanye ukuhoxisa ngayo into ebalulekileyo yokulawula impilo yakho .
Yamukela i-Introvert Strengths yakho
Ukuziphatha kwe-Introverted kunomgca ongaphantsi. Ama-introverts athambekele ekubeni engxaki yokujongana neengxaki, ukwenza ngcono imfundo, abonise umgaqo oqinileyo wokuziphatha kwabo, kwaye abanamathuba okuthatha izingozi ezingabangela ukuba bangalimazi.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ama-introverts anokufumana ezi ntlawulo ngenxa yokuba nemeko engaphezulu kwegreyiti kwi-cortex yabo ye-prefrontal, indawo engaphambi kwengqondo elawula ukucinga okulukhuni kunye nokungabonakaliyo, ummiselo womzwelo kunye nokwenza izigqibo.
Kwaye kwimiba emininzi yezobugcisa kunye nezobukholo kwi-Aristotle eya eBuddha, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nokucinga ngentsingiselo nenjongo yobomi bethu kuyimfuneko. Funda ukufumana iimpawu zakho ezizodwa zezaziso kunye nefuthe kwisilonwabo abakuzisayo, ingaba uzifundise into entsha, uhlolisise ubunjani kwi-solo trek, okanye uhlakulele uhlangothi lwakho lokudala.
Yenza iCandelo
Kwiingcaphephe apho i-introverts zafundiswa ukuba zenze izinto ezinjengeqela labantu, zagqitywa zivakalelwa emoyeni olungakumbi kunokuba izethulo zisebenza ngokuqhelekileyo (eqinisweni, zivakalisa ukuvakalelwa kwazo eziphezulu kunabantu abaqhelekileyo , nabo bavakalisa ukuba bazive benene ngexesha. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba u-introverts ovuyayo ngokuqhelekileyo uziphatha ngendlela efana neyokoqobo.
Ngokukodwa xa usuqala ukuhlalisana, sebenzisa inxalenye yecala. Oku akuthethi ukuba yiyo. Yenza nje okunye okwenene . Yiba yi-introvertvert exvert. Ukubambisa eso sizwe esisisityebi esisemgangathweni kwaye usulele engxoxweni eyongezelelweyo, yabelana ngombono wakho, uqhekeke ihlaya, uze uthathe indawo yonke into ngexesha elilodwa. Yaye ukuba ungeyonto ininzi, khuthaza ukuba uxhumane nabanye ngeendlela ezikusebenzele kakuhle. Joyina iqela ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwinto osuyithandayo ngaphambili, njengengoma yebhulabhu, eklasini yencwadi, okanye kwiklasi yokufaneleka. Nangona ukuqala kwezi zigqibo kunokuvakalelwa njengomzamo ongezelelweyo, umvuzo kufuneka ubonakale. Xa uqaphela ukuba wenza izinto ezingakumbi ngendlela evakalelwa kakuhle, gcina.
Nangona untloni kunye nokungeniswa kwangoku kungqinelana kuphela, ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwentlalo kukukhathaza, ukunyaniseka kwakho kukube kukuthintela. Isibalulekileyo apha sizithemba. Yakha ukuzibhokoxa (okanye ubungqina ukuba unokuphumelela kumsebenzi) ngokuthatha ingozi encinci yentlalo kuqala. Finyelela kumhlobo ongazixhumekanga kungekudala. Biza kunokuba ubhale. Jongana nomthengisi. Yaye uqaphele impumelelo yakho, nangona baziva bengenangxaki. Uya kwakha ukuzithemba kwakho njengoko uzibona uhlala unentlalontle, kwaye ukuba yiyona nto ingcono kakhulu kuwe iya kuba lula.