Omdala umqhubi we-Bachelorette uJamie Blyth uthetha malunga nokukhathazeka
UJamie Blyth owaziwa kakhulu ngokubonakala njengomncintiswano kwixesha lokuqala lokuqala lwe-ABC yemiboniso yeTV . UJamie wakwenza ngemikhosi emininzi ephumayo kodwa ekugqibeleni wathunyelwa ekhaya nguTrista Rehn, owathi wagqiba ukhetho kwaye emva koko watshata, uRyan Sutter.
Abazange bazi ukuba nabadlali beCapehelorette ngelo xesha, uJamie wayejongene nezinto ezingaphezu kwezinto eziqhelekileyo ngokubhekisele kwiTV.
UJamie waxhatshazwa okokuqala ngo-1994. Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-19 ukuya kwe-24 wayetyhwatyha ukukhathazeka kwentlalo eyamshiya ukwesaba ukuya kwiikholeji zeekholeji waza wabona abahlobo.
Nangona wazama ngokufutshane amachiza kunye nonyango , uJamie waqukumbela kwixesha elithile elibandakanyekayo ekusebenzeni oko wayekholelwa ukuba yimbangela yokuxhalabisa kwakhe: ukuzithoba.
"IsiCwangciso saKhe soPhulo" sasiquka ukuzimela ngokuzimela. Wazikhukhula ngeengcaphuno ezilungileyo . Wafunda ama-biographies abantu abaphumelelayo kuzo zonke izinto ezifana noGeorge Washington, uLance Armstrong kunye noHelen Keller. Emazwi kaJamie, "wayefuna ukufundisisa okuchaseneyo nokukhathazeka aze athathe isimo sengqondo esenza i-polar ibe yinto edala ukukhathazeka."
Wangena kumsebenzi wokuthengisa iteknoloji enobukhulu kunye nocelomngeni. "Ukuba uphoswe iinyanga zakho ezimbini ulandelelwe ... 99% yabantu abazange benze iinyanga ezi-6." UJamie waqhubeka edlala ibhola lebhoksi yaseYurophu.
Ebonakalayo kwi -Bachelorette yindlela enye yokuzivavanya yona kwaye ibone oko angayisingatha.
Udliwano-ndlebe lokuqala loluntu apho uJamie athetha khona ngengxaki yakhe yokuxhalaba wayenoDiane Sawyer. Kamva wahamba ebonakala kwi-Oprah Winfrey nakwezinye iintetho zesizwe.
Ekubeni ukuvela kwi-Bachelorette Jamie kuye kwaba yintatheli, imodeli, umqeqeshi we-baseball-inner-city, isithethi sikarhulumente kunye nomlobi.
Incwadi yakhe ethi "Uyiko aluyikho ixesha elide eliyinyaniso" yinkcazo yendlela awayeyisa ngayo ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki yokukhathazeka kwentlalo.
Xa ethetha noJamie, wagxininisa ukuba umququzeleli wakhe oyintloko usiza abanye ukuba bakhe ukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Iseluleko sakhe sokwakha ukuzithemba kukubeka iinjongo zexesha elifutshane kwaye uphakamise ibha emva kokuncinci.
Umbuzo: Ungayichaza njani ubomi emva kokuhlasela kwakho kokuqala?
A: Ubomi bam buguqulwe ngonaphakade emva kokuhlasela kwam kuqala koyika. Kwakusoloko kukhwela, elindele ukubetha kwakhona. Ndahlala ndiloyiko kwaye ndiloyiko oluqhubekayo lokuhlaselwa kwexhala, okwenzeka kuphela kubantu. Ndahlala kwinqanaba lokuphazamiseka kwamanzi ngamaxesha onke.
Ndaziphepha abantu ngeendleko zonke, ezenza ukuba lube noluluntu olukhulu kwaye lwenze imeko ibe yimbi. Andizange ndifune uncedo njengoko ndandisoyika ukubona umntu endaziyo kwaye ndihlaselwa yintlanzi phambi kwabo.
Kwakubuhlungu kwaye iimeko zam zanda. Ngokukhawuleza, ihlabathi eliphela kuphela endazi ukuba liyixhala, intlungu, ukuxinezeleka, kunye nesizungu.
Umbuzo: Kwakunjani ukukholeji kunye nokujongana neengxaki zokuxhalabisa?
A: Ndiyifakile kwikholeji ngokugqibelela umgaqo wokuhlala kwindawo yam yokuthuthuzela. Ndanduluka kwiindawo ezininzi zoluntu kunye neeklasi eziye zathetha iintetho.
Ndandiziva ndikhululekile ekupheleni kwekholeji kodwa ndandingahlali ubomi.
Ngexesha lokugqiba, ndikhumbula wonke umntu wayebukeka enwabile kwaye enwabileyo ukuphuma ehlabathini lenene aze athathe ubomi. Ndaziva ndichasene. Ndazi ukuba ndiza kubonakala. Ngaba ndingena njani kwihlabathi lenene ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuthetha nabantu? Ndazifihla kakuhle imeko yam, kodwa ixesha lam livukile.
Umbuzo: Wawunqoba njani uloyiko lwenkxwaleko kunye nentlalo?
A: Xa ndandineminyaka engama-22 ubudala, kwakubonakala ngathi ingenakulinganiswa, ndikhe ndakhetha ... ukulwa okanye ukuyeka. Kwaye xa ndithi, shiya, ndifuna ukuzibulala. Yileyo ndlela ndiphantsi ngayo. Ndikhethe ukulwa.
Ndaqaphela ukuba iimpawu zam umzimba zibangelwa kukutya. Ngokomzekelo, xa ndiphantse ukunika intetho kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba ukwesaba kwisisu sam nobuso bam bubomvu kwaye umoya wam unzima kwaye intliziyo yam yaxhamla ... Ndayazi ukuba ndiza kuhlaselwa ngentswelo.
Kwafuneka ndizenzele ukuba ndibe noloyiko kude kube yilapho iimpawu zomzimba zilahlekile kwaye ingqondo yam ayizange idibanise intliziyo yokugijima kunye nokuhlaselwa kwesoyiki. Ndenza oko ngokuzibhaptiza rhoqo kwinto endiyikisayo ... abantu.
Ndabona ukuba ndidale ukuxhalabisa iingcamango zam, izenzo kunye nokukhetha. Ukuba ndiyidalile kwaye ndiyifunde, kutheni ndingenakuyifumana kwaye ndiyihlahlele kwakhona? Yayiyidlala endiyithathileyo kwaye yahlawula. Amandla am amakhulu ngoku aphakathi kwabantu. Ubuhlungu ngumfundisi omkhulu ngamanye amaxesha.
Umbuzo: Kutheni ukhethe ukulwa nale ngxaki?
A: Andizange ndiye kunyango kakhulu kuba bekuya kuba nzima ukuthetha ngonyango xa ndanditshitshisa kakhulu abantu.
Umbuzo: Yintoni eyayikufundisa ngale ndlela? Ngaba kukho naziphi izinto ezinokubangela ukuxhalabisa?
A: Ukukhathazeka kwakuyona nto ibona yenzeke kum. Yonke impumelelo yam iyiphumo elixhamlayo lokuxhalaba kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba ndibonelelekile.
Ukuxhalabisa kwakuyi-propeller yam, utitshala wam, kunye nomgqugquzeli wam. Inyanzelekile ukuba ndijongane nemiba yam yokuzithemba . Unyanzelekile ukuba ndibe nzima kakhulu, ukuba ndiphule kwindawo yam yokuthuthuzela kwaye ndikhule ngokwam ngaphupha kwamaphupha am.
Ukuba ndandithatha amachiza, ndibe ndilungile, kodwa andingayi kuba ngumthengisi ophezulu kwiminyaka emine okanye ube ngumphathiswa we-TV kunye nomninimzi. Andiyi kubhala incwadi kwaye ndibe sisithethi sikarhulumente okanye ndihleli esihlalweni esingaphandle kwe-Oprah phambi kwabantu abayizigidi ezingama-20.
Umbuzo: Abanye abantu banokudideka malunga nendlela umntu owayefundela ngayo iklasi kunye nabaninzi abaninzi abahlobo abakhulayo abanokuxhatshazwa ngabantu. Ngaba abantu owakhulayo benokumangalisa ukuxilongwa kwakho?
A: Abantu abakhulile kunye nam bekothuka. Abantu abanenkxalabo yentlalo, ukuphazamiseka kwesifo, kunye nokuxinezeleka kubeka imida emihle. Ndandithandwa kakhulu kwaye njengoko uthe ndandingumfundi wokufunda.
Ndazifihla kubahlobo bam ngexesha lokubandezeleka kwaye ewe bayothuka. Baye bancedisa ekuncedeni ngayo ... ngakumbi uJoe Cheff, uBrian Loftus, uBob Guiney, uBrian Musso kunye nomama.
Umbuzo: Yiyiphi ingcebiso onayo kubantu abanenkxalabo?
A: Qaphela ukuba inyaniso yakho yangoku ayiyikuyalela ikusasa lakho. Izinto ziyakushintsha ngokukhawuleza ukuba zibe ngcono.
Jonga ukuzithetha kwakho. Musa ukuzibetha ngenxa yeziphene. Khetha ukhetho nangona ubomi buphosa is sandwich sh * t kuwe kwaye uzive ukhululekile.
Yidla ukutya okulungileyo, kwaye ugweme i-caffeine kunye notywala.
Zithuthuzela ekubeni ungeyedwa. Kukho izigidi zabantu abavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo. Yakha iqela lokuxhasa. Yiya kwi-intanethi uze udibanise nabantu abahluphekayo.
Ukujongana nentlungu kunokufihla nokuphepha. Akukho philisi yemilingo ... kuthatha ixesha, umsebenzi onzima, ukunyamezela, nokuzimisela.
Umbuzo: Ukuba unokuxelela umntu oneminyaka engama-19 ubudala-nantoni na, ingaba yintoni na?
A: Ndiyazi ukuba uloyiko. Ndiyazi ukuba uyayesaba kwaye awukwazi ukubona ngaphaya kwalolu buhlungu kwaye awukwazi ukucinga ukuba uthetha nentombazana ungavumeli u-Oprah ungaphambi kwezigidi.
Ixesha elidlulileyo alilingani nekamva lakho. I-Panic ne-social phobia ingaba yizona zinto zihle kakhulu ezenzeke kuwe. Iminyaka emihlanu ukususela ngoku kuya kubakho kwizinto ezingaphaya kwamaphupha akho amakhulu kwaye uthetha nabantu baya kuba namandla akho.
Ndiya kuthi ... unokwenza! Ulwa! Unesibindi ongaziqondi ukuba unayo. Ndiyazi intlungu okhoyo ngoku, kodwa ndiyanitshela, akufanele ukuba njalo ngonaphakade. Sebenzisa intlungu yakho ukuphakamisa wena nabanye.
Umbuzo: Yintoni eyenza ukuba wenze isigqibo sokuxelela ihlabathi malunga nento oye uhamba nayo?
A: Ndiyazi ngokwenu ukuba ubomi obusongelayo bunjani kunye neentlalo zentlalo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwesifo. Ndenenhlanhla ukuyenza kwaye ndivakalelwa ukuzinikela kunye novelwano kubantu abajongene nayo.
Ukuxhalabisa kunokubetha nabani na kunini na. Ekubeni lo mboniso, abaninzi abantu abaphumelele kakhulu abajongene nokukhathazeka ngokukhawuleza kunye nokwesaba baye beza kum mpendulo okanye bathi ndabancedile ibali lam.
Ndifuna ukuxelela ukuba umntwana weziko eliphakamileyo, umntu osomashishini okanye umama ojongene nomntwana wakhe ohluphekileyo ukuba abawodwa. Kukho izigidi zabantu abavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo; Intlungu idibanisa kwaye ingaba yinto enhle.
Umbuzo: Yintoni oyithandayo?
A: "Ukuba akukho mzabalazo, akukho nkqubela." ... Frederick Douglas. Okanye "Ukuba ucinga ukuba unako okanye awukwazi, ulungile" ... Ndiyakholwa uHenry Ford uthe loo nto.
Umbuzo: Ngaba usoloko uhlaselwa ngumsindo?
A: Ndisenemihla yam ebumnyameni kwaye ihlala ihlala. Andizange ndihlaselwe ngokukrakra kwiminyaka emithandathu, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ndiza kuba neyodwa okanye ezininzi kulo mbandela.
Ndiyazi nokuba unokukunqoba ukuba ndikhetha ukulungiselela nokulwa. Ukunqoba kungenokuba yilizwi elifanelekileyo ... elilawulwayo. Ukuba ndiphinde ndibe nexhala, oko akuthethi ukuba ubomi bam buphelile okanye buphela ngokupheleleyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndinenkalipho yokubuyela kwindandatho.
Umbuzo: Yintoni oyenzayo ukususela kwi-Bachelorette kwaye ubhala incwadi yakho?
A: Kususela kwimiboniso, ndihlala ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Ndidlala itoni yegalufa. Ndiye ndaqeqesha abagijimi kwaye ndiyi-VP yokuthengisa kwenkampani e Chicago. Ndenze ingxelo yeTV ye-NBC kwaye ndabathengula abadumileyo njengoLebron James, uJohn Cusack, uKim Kardashian, uHugh Laurie, uMncedisi we-Chelsea kunye nezinye ezininzi.
Ukuhlaziywa (Oktobha 24, 2015): UJamie uye waqhubeka nomsebenzi wakhe njengomntu owamkela udumo ngokusingatha ngempumelelo uxanduva lwakhe lwentlalo. Uphefumlelwe ngokwenene!