Abasindayo beentlekele zemvelo, amaxhoba okusetyenziswa gadalala kunye nokungahoywa, kunye namajoni abaye abona imfazwe embi kakhulu kunye nolwazi lwayo luyazi kakuhle inyaniso. Akukho nqongophala yobomi ebomini. Ingaba kuyimpendulo encinane okanye ingxaki enkulu, sonke sijamelana nobunzima kubomi bethu. Ukwahlukana phakathi kwethu akukho nje ekubuneni okubunzima kuthatha kuthi kodwa kwindlela esabela ngayo xa egosa emnyango wethu.
Ngaba uzifumanisa ubunzima bakho ngobomi bakho obonakala bukhohlakeleyo? Okanye ngaba uyayifumana ngesibindi umzabalazo?
Ukuvuselela kukukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki kunye nokusebenzisa imingeni yokuqinisa amandla nokuchuma . Ukuba nokunyamezela akuthethi ukuba unzima, wenza iimpazamo, okanye ufuna ukucela uncedo. Ngokuchasene noko, abantu abanomdla ngabo baqhubeka bexhamla nangona imeko ibuhlungu okanye ikhupha, abafunda kwiindawo zabo ezibuhlungu kunye neentlungu, kwaye ngubani othembela kwabanye ngokuzithemba nangokuthembela.
Iingxaki zenza uvuke kwindlela kunye necala layo elibi lifanele lingabi phantsi. Kodwa nangona ihlelwe yintlekele, ukukhula kunokwenzeka. Ukukhula kwangemva kokubuhlungu-okuza kwenzeka rhoqo kunye noxinzelelo lwangemva kokukhathazeka-ngumlinganiselo weenguqu ezintle ezibangelwa kwiimeko ezibuhlungu kwaye zingabandakanya ukuxabisa ngokujulileyo ngobomi, ubuchule obunzulu bokubakho, kunye nokuqhagamshelana okunamandla kwabanye.
Ingaba ubunzima obujongene nabo bubunzima okanye iinguqu zemihla ngemihla, izixhobo zokuzinzileyo ziya kukunceda ukuba ulawulwe ngokubanzi endleleni yakho phambili kwaye uhlakulele utshintsho oluhle. Ngexesha elizayo ubunzima bukhukula usuku lwakho kwaye lushiya ukunyathela amanzi, zama ezi zicwangciso ezine kukunceda uqhubeke.
Phinda uhlaziye zakho iinguqulelo
Abantu abanomdla bafumana indlela yokuchazela iimeko zabo ngokukhanya ngakumbi ngelixa besamkela inyaniso. Khawucinge nje ngeendaba ezazisasazwa ngudliwano-ndlebe kumaxhoba entlekele yendalo emva konyaka. Ezinye izihlobo: "Asisoze siphinde siphile ubomi bethu." Abanye bafumana isilivere yokulala: "Le nto yona nto eyona nto eyona nto eyona nto yenzeke kunayo yonke, kodwa yile enye yeyona nto ibhetele. Olu hlaleni luhlanganisene kwaye lubonise amandla alo kwiindlela ezininzi ezingakholelwayo. "(Funda indlela yokufumana ingxaki kwiimvakalelo zakho eziphazamisayo.)
Sinekhono lokugqiba indlela esiya kutshintsha ngayo iintlungu esijamelana nazo. Iingxaki aziyiyo. Kodwa xa sisebenzela ukufumana ukuxabisa oko kuye kwaziswa kunye nokwandiswa kuthi njengoko sinyamezela kwiinkathazo, sihlakulela indlela enombulelo yokuphila. Ubunzima obusongelayo ngokuqhelekileyo bubona bubomi obufanayo obuvelisa ubulumko obunzima. Xa yonke into oyibonayo ingalunganga, yandisa umbono wakho ngokuzibuza, "Ziziphi izinto ezilungileyo eziye zavela ngenxa yale ngxaki?"
Ukuchonga oko unokulawula
Iingcamango ziphakathi kwezona zinto zizinzileyo, kwaye ziphumelela ngenxa yokugxila ingqalelo kwindlela abangenza ngayo iimeko zabo zibe ngcono.
Xa bejamelene nocelomngeni, iingcamango ezingenangqondo zingabonakali amathuba okuba benze utshintsho olulungileyo. Ngamafutshane, bafumana iinjongo zesisulu.
Abathengi balondoloza umbono ochanekileyo wolawulo abanalo. Cinga izilingo zika-Admiral James Stockdale njengentolongo yemfazwe yaseVietnam. I-Stockdale Paradox, igama eliqulunqwe ngumlobi uJim Collins odibene nodliwano-ndlebe ne-Admiral malunga namava akhe, yindlela yokumamatheka eyamangalisa into eyenzekayo (ekhunjulwa yimfazwe inzima ") ngokuzithemba nangokholo ukuqhuba ithemba ("Oku kuza kuphucula kwaye ndiyakwenza ngcono").
Nangona ekhonjiwe yedwa, uStockdale kunye nabakhonza naye kwezinye iiseli bahlakulela inkqubo yokubambisana. Ukuthembela kwangempela kubonisa amaphulo okulawula kwaye uyayisebenzisa. Ukuhlaziya, ngokucacileyo, kuyisenzo sokuthatha inyathelo phambili nangona kunjalo, kwaye xa sibheka ngokucacileyo into esiyilawulayo, sibeka indlela yethu.
Xa uzibamba uziva unamathele okanye unganwe phantsi kweengxaki, fumana enye into olawulayo kwaye uthathe inyathelo kuyo.
Funa iNkxaso
Kukho imifanekiso emininzi kwenkcubeko yethu yokuzimela, iqhawe elilodwa elinobuchule lenu linika amandla anele okumelana naluphi na umqobo. Le mifanekiso iyiphutha.
Nangona amandla obuqu obubaluleke kakhulu, ekugqibeleni unengqiqo yoluntu kunye nolwalamano lwabanye olwenza ukunyaniseka okwenene. Izifundo zabantwana abajongene nobunzima obunzima bafumanisa ukuba abantwana abanomntu omdala ebomini babo obanikezela ukuzinza nokuxhaswa banokukwazi ukwenza kakuhle kunabantwana abangenayo. Ukukwazi ukuxubusha nokujongana nomzabalazo womntu kumxholo wobudlelwane obukhuselekileyo kunye neentlobo ezimbi ezinokubangela ukukhathazeka kwabantwana.
Kwaye ubudlelwane obuhle buya kubantu abadala. Cinga ngoStockdale kunye nabakhonza naye abaye badala inkqubo yoqhagamshelwano ekugqibeleni baxhasa "silapha kule ndawo". Ukwazi ukuba kukho umntu olapho okhathalelayo uyabaluleka xa sisehla kubalo. Ukulwela ulwalamano lwakho olubalulekileyo xa amaxesha alungileyo akha ukwithemba kunye nolwalamano oluya kunceda olo dlelwane luhlale lusomelele xa ulwahlulo lubetha.
Bamkele umngeni kunye nokungaphumeleli
Ukungaphumeleli kunzima kwabaninzi kuthi ukuthatha. Sifanele sibuyele kwinto ethile kwaye sisule izandla zethu zicoceke kunobungozi ukwenza isilumko sethu. Kodwa xa sibheka umbono onomngeni onokuthi ungasomeleza njengabantu kunye nokuba sinokuyifunda kwiimpumelelo kunye nokusilela, sisebenzisa imisipha yethu yokuqina.
Oku akuthethi ukuba sifanele sibheke ubunzima, ingakumbi ubunzima obubuhlungu obubangela iziphumo. Kodwa ukufumana iindlela ezincinane zokulawula umngeni wakho rhoqo kuya kwakha ukuzithemba nokuziphatha kwakho. Thatha iklasi okade unomdla kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo. Yenza loo fowuni umnxeba ubalekele kodwa uyazi ukuba kufuneka wenze. Gxotha imida yakho encinci kwaye ufumane umbono wokuhlola nokufuna ukwazi ukuba izinto zakho zifuna ukuphuma okanye ukutshisa. Yazi ukuba nayiphi na indlela, uzuza ulwazi nolwazi. Xa sifunda ukufumanisa inkqubo yokuzama kunokuba iziphumo esizenzayo, sisebenzisa indlela yokomeleza ebomini.