Imvakalelo yeprayimari yileyo eyenzeka njengesiphumo esicacileyo sokuhlangabezana nohlobo oluthile lwecue. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu uye wafika emva kwintlanganiso ehleliweyo, unokufumana uxinzelelo okanye ukukhathazeka. Ezi mvakalelo ziza kuthathwa njengengqondo eyimfuneko yokuba imvakalelo yenzeke ngokukhawuleza kokuhlangabezana nesiganeko esithile. Funda kabanzi malunga neemvakalelo eziphambili kunye nolwalamano lwabo kunye neemvakalelo zesibini kunye nale ngxelo.
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Iimvakalelo zaseprayimari "zisebenza ngokukhawuleza." Okokuthi, zenzeka ngokusondeleyo kumcimbi owabakhokelela. Iimvakalelo zaseprayimari zibalulekile kuba zisinika ulwazi malunga neemeko zethu zangoku kwaye zisilungele okanye zishukumise ukuba senze ngendlela ethile.
Abantu abaneengxaki zengcinezelo yokuhamba kwengxaki (post-traumatic disorder disorder) Ukuba unayo i-PTSD, unokuba nolusizi , umsindo , okanye uxhalaba xa ukhunjuzwa ngesiganeko esibuhlungu okanye kwezinye iimeko ezixinzeleleyo. Ezi mpendulo zengqondo zizonke eziphambili.
Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo zenzeka xa zithatha ezinye iimvakalelo. Umzekelo, usenokuzihlazisa ngokuxhalaba okanye ukukhathazeka okanye ukuxhalaba ngenxa yokuba ucaphukile. Olu hlobo lokuphendula ngomsindo lubizwa ngokuba yimvakalelo yesibini .
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Ukuba umntu uyanqumla kwisitratti, mhlawumbi uya kuziva ecatshukile okanye ulaka.
Kule meko, intukuthelo okanye ukucaphukisa isisiseko sokuqala, kuba kwenzeke njengesiphumo esicacileyo somcimbi (ukunqunyulwa kwendlela).
Okanye, ukuba uqala ukukhumbula ukulahlekelwa ngumntu onomkhathalelayo, imvakalelo eyona nto ungayivakalela kukuba. Ngesinye icala, iimvakalelo zincinci.
Imvakalelo yesibini yimivakalelo esiphenduleyo xa sinokuvakalelwa.
Masibuyele kumzekelo womntu ekusikhumbuleni . Uqala ukuziva uvakalelo lomsindo. Nangona kunjalo, masithi uthe wanyuswa ukuba ukholelwa ukuba akufanelekile ukuthukuthela, okanye uloyiko lokuba xa uziva umsindo , uya kulahleka ulawulo kwaye wenze into ephazamisayo . Ukuba ngaba uhlolisisa imvakalelo yakho yokuqala, umsindo, mhlawumbi uziva uhlazo okanye uxhalaba njengemvakalelo yesibini.
Imvakalelo yesiqhelo ayidluli ngokukhawuleza okanye inika ulwazi oluncedo, kodwa bahlala behlala behlala ixesha elide. Kwakhona kunengxaki kuba "bangathatha" kwiimvakalelo eziphambili, ngokuzikhusela ngokufanelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, iimvakalelo zesibini zingakugcina ekufumaneni ulwazi kwiimvakalelo zakho eziphambili kwaye usebenze kuwo ngendlela ephilileyo. Unokucinga ngale ndlela njengendlela yokuzama ukuphepha iimvakalelo zakho .
Indlela yokunciphisa imizwa yakho yesibini
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekunciphiseni iimvakalelo zakho zesekondari kukunyusa ukuqonda kwakho kwimiqondo yonke. Ukuzijonga ngokuzijonga kunokunceda. Kule ndlela yokuzilolonga, uchonga kwaye uvavanye iimpendulo zakho zempembelelo kwiimeko, uzama ukubamba iintlobo zemiva yesibini evela kwizinto eziphambili.
Injongo kukufunda ukunzima iingcamango zakho okanye ukukhumbula iingcinga zakho . Uyaziqhelisela ukungathathi imvakalelo yakho yesibini kwixabiso lomntu okanye njengenyaniso, kodwa nje nje ngeemvakalelo, unokuba nje ngokuba ubenalo ngaphambili kwiimeko ezifanayo, kwaye uba ngumkhuba.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukungena kumkhwa wokuqonda kunye nocelomngeni iimvakalelo zakho zesibini kunokukunceda ukunciphisa iziphumo. Ngaloo ndlela, unako ukuhlala udibanisa neemvakalelo zakho eziphambili ukuze usebenze kuzo ngendlela ephilileyo.