IQumrhu elenza ukuba uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uhloniphekile
Ulwalamano lwonyango luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yoluhlobo olulululwazi-mphakathi , oluye lwashiya umxhasi ukuba azikhuselekileyo kwaye ahlonishwe ukuze unyango luphumelele.
Ingxelo Yenzani Ingxelo Yonyango?
Ulwalamano lwezonyango lubhekisela kwi- empathic (ukunakekela) kunye nokuqonda okwabelwana ngayo ngemibandela phakathi komgqirha kunye nomxhasi. Ithetha indlela yeqela ekulawuleni le micimbi ngokuchasene nendlela yokuchasa.
Ngentsebenziswano emihle yonyango, umxhasi unomuzwa wokuthi "unomqolo" wakhe ngendlela evumela ukuba ahlangabezane neengxaki zobomi. Ngendlela efanayo, umgqirha kwisimo esinobudlelwane obuhle sonyango uyaziva ehlonishwa ngendlela evumela ukuba akhulume ngokucacileyo nangokukhululekile.
Kubaluleka kokuPhumela ingxelo yoPhepha
Injongo yokwakha ulwalamano oluhle kukuphucula amathuba akho kwimiphumo ephumelelayo, kunye nokuphuhlisa ukuzithemba kunye nentlonipho, ukukhuthaza indawo apho wena, umxhasi, uzive ukhuselekile.
Ukuhlakulela ulwalamano oluhle, umphathiswa wakho kufuneka, phakathi kwezinye izinto, abonise uvelwano nokuqonda. Ulwalamano lwezonyango luyinxalenye yekona yezinye iindidi zengqondo, kuquka ne- cognitive-behavioral therapy , eqhelekileyo kunyango lwe-phobia .
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Ukuze uhlakulele ulwalamano lwezonyango, kufuneka uzive uqinisekile ukuba ugqirha wakho ungobuchule ophuhlisa isicwangciso sonyango eklanyelwe ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezithile.
Uyakwazi njani ukuba ugqirha wakho uthabatha ixesha lokucingisisa imeko yakho?
- Kususela kwiseshoni yakho yokuqala, kufuneka ahlole ubunzima bakho okwangoku. Uya kukunceda udale uluhlu lweengxaki kwaye uqale ukubeka phambili kuwe.
- Ngexesha leeseshoni zokuqala ezimbalwa, umgqirha wakho kufuneka akucacise icebo lakhe lonyango kwaye abuze ukuba uyamkeleka yini. Kufuneka aphinde abuyele isicwangciso kwiiseshoni ezizayo kwaye abonisane nawe malunga nokuguqulwa okufunekayo.
- Isicwangciso sakho soonyango kufuneka sibandakanye iinjongo kunye nemilinganiselo, ngoko kulula ukunika ingxelo kunye nokuvavanya inkqubela yakho.
I-Therapist yakho kufuneka ibe yinyaniso
Ukunyaniseka ngenye yezindlela iindlela oogqirha wakho anokuhlakulela ngayo ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nawe. Xa eqinisile, kukuvumela ukuba umbone njengomntu, kungekhona nje ingcali yengqondo yengqondo . Ukuba uyambona njengokwenene, unako ukufumana impendulo ebalulekileyo malunga nenkqubela yakho.
Ezinye zeendlela ezithethwa ngayo ngabagqirha zingabonisa ukuba:
- Ukubonelela ngeengcebiso ezingabonakaliyo, kubandakanyeka kunye ne-eye-shaking in agreement.
- Nika ingxelo ngethuba, kungekhona kwiseseshoni kamva.
- Khuthaza ukuba usebenze kwaye uzive unikwe amandla malunga nesicwangciso sakho sokonyango .
Umphathiswa Wakho Uyakucela Ukuba Uphendule
Nangona ukhona kwiingcebiso zeengcali zakho, uphinde ube ngumthengi. Ukukucela ngempendulo ngenye indlela indlela umphathiswa wakho anokuhlakulela ngayo ulwalamano oluhle kunye nawe kwaye ubonisa ukuba ubona njengomdla osebenzayo kwinkqubo yokuphilisa, ngoko uthembeke. Ukucela umthengi ngempendulo:
- Ubonisa ukuba ugqirha wakho unenkxalabo malunga noko ucingayo kwaye uyayigqala yakho ingeniso.
- Unika isikhala sokukhupha nantoni na ekukukhathazayo malunga nonyango kunye neeseshoni ngabanye. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umgqirha wakho uyinyaniso, uya kuqonda ukuba oogqirha babantu kwaye abafezekanga. Hlalani nikhumbule ukuba wonke umntu uhlukile, kwaye oko kusebenza kwiplani yonyango yomntu oyedwa akunakukusebenzela. Enye yezindlela apho umgqirha wakho angazibona ukuba uyingqayizivele ngokubonelela ngengxelo malunga nantoni na engabonakali ikusebenzela wena njengomntu.
- Ikhuthaza umsebenzi weqela phakathi kwabo bobabini.
- Ivumela umgqirha wakho ukulungisa nayiphi na umonakalo kulwalamano lwakho lokwelapha, nokuba luyinyani okanye luyabonakala.
Ingxelo Yonyango kunye nabazali
Xa umntwana wakho enonyango, umphathiswa wakhe kufuneka ahlakulele ulwalamano oluhle kunye nabazali okanye umgcini.
Iziphazamiso zokukhathazeka, ezifana ne-phobia social, i-agoraphobia, kunye ne-phobia ekhethekileyo, iyakhathazeka kakhulu kunye neyona nkalo ibonelele kakhulu kwimpilo yengqondo kwiintsholongwane kunye nabantwana. I-Phobia ixhaphake ngokuqhelekileyo ngeendlela zokuziphatha zonyango, ezigxininisa ukungenisa ubuhlobo bonyango obuphilileyo kwimiphumo ephumelelayo.
Ingxelo Yonyango kwi-Internet kunye neTelehealth Therapy
Ngokufika kwe-intanethi kunye nenketho yefowuni kwonyango, ukubaluleka kokuxilongwa kwezilwanyana kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa kunzima ukuphuhlisa nokuvavanya. Siyazi ukusuka kwimbali, ukuba imilayezo ebhaliweyo (cinga ukungaqondi kakuhle kwe-Facebook) kunye nokunxibelelana kwifowuni kunzima ukutolika kuba akukho mthengi okanye umgqirha angabonwa ngolu hlobo lwezinto zolwimi ezibalulekileyo. Gcina oku engqondweni xa ucinga ngonyango lwamayeza kwaye ubuze umgqirha onokuthi usebenza njani nale ngxaki.
Xa Ungekho Rapport Yonyango Ngomdlavuza Wakho
Kanye nje ngokuba kukho abadwebi ababenomdwebo ongcono wokupenda indlu yakho, kukho abaphandi ababenomsebenzi ongcono wokumisela ulwalamano. Sekunjalo, ngokusekelwe kwenkcazo yobudlelwane, lo mzamo unamacandelo amabini, kwaye kufuna imzame kwinxalenye yophiba kunye nomthengi.
Oko kwathiwa, ubuntu bunokudlala indima enkulu ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane kunye nomgqirha wakho. Nangona ogqirha unempembelelo kwaye umxhasi unenjongo kakhulu yokujongana nempilo yakhe yengqondo, kukho amaxesha apho ubuncwane abuxubekanga. Ukuba uzifumana kuloluhlu, ungakhathazeki. Akuthethi ukuba ukhethe umgqirha obi okanye ukuba uyiphumelele kwizame zokufumana uncedo. Kukho ininzi iiphilisi ezilungileyo ngaphandle apho, kwaye njengokuba unokuba udinga ukunxibelelana nabavakalisi abancinci bekhaya ukuba ubone ukuba ubani ulingana nobuntu bakho, ungadinga ukuthetha nomgqirha omnye ngaphambi kokuba ufumane umntu onokukunceda kakhulu ukusebenza kunye nokuhlangabezana nayo nayiphi na imiba yempilo yengqondo.
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