Kuyingozi
Ukunyanga okungekho nto kusebenza. Kwaye kuthetha. Ukuxhatshazwa kweemvakalelo kunye nezityholo njengendlela yokuphatha ngokungafanelekanga kwaye kuphazamise umtshato wakho. Kanye nokushiya imiba ebalulekileyo emtshatweni wakho ungagqitywanga, ukunyanzeliswa kungenza umlingane wakho abe nomuzwa ongenanto, ongathandekiyo, onobuhlungu, odidekile, okhungathekileyo, onomsindo, ongabalulekanga.
Xa ususa okanye udibanisa kwaye unqabile ukuthetha ngxaki, samkela uxolo, okanye uncede wenze isigqibo, kungekhona kuphela ukuvala umlingane wakho, unenkohlakalo.
Njengoko uthi "andinandaba" okanye "nayiphi na" okanye ukugubungela amehlo okanye ukubetha, usebenzisa ukunyanga okukodwa yipolisi.
Indlela yokuphendula kwiSilent Treatment
- Ukuba iqabane lakho linyanzela ukukunika uxolo ngokuthetha nje ukuba lixesha elipholileyo okanye umnqweno wendawo ethile okanye ixesha elilodwa, phawula ngezwi elihloniphekileyo lelizwi ukuba awuyena umfundi wengqondo kwaye ukuba imfuneko yendawo kufuneka zichazwe phambi kwexesha lokuthula kwaye kufuneka kubekho umda wokufuna ixesha lokupholisa okanye usebenze kunye.
- Ezinye iingcali zincoma ukuba ungaboni ukuthula okanye ukukhupha imimoya kwaye ubonise ukuba ushiye umlingane wakho wedwa.
- Musa ukuphendula ngokusongela.
- Qaphela iqhinga lokungathethi nawe lindlela yokulawula okanye indlela yokuphepha ukuvuma ukuba wenze iphutha. Yeka ukudala iindlela zokufumana iqabane lakho lithethe nawe.
- Hamb 'umshiye. Yenza okuthile okuzonwabisa okanye okuthakazelisayo ofuna ukuyenza. Kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho lithetha nawe, phendula ngezwi elithambileyo.
Oko Abanye Batsho Ngayo Ngetetho Ethulileyo
U-Kipling D. Williams: "Uphando olwenziwa ngaphezu kwama-2,000 aseMerika olwenziwa nguFaulkner et al. (1997) lufumene ukuba i-67% ivumelekile ukuba isebenzise ukunyanzelisa , ngokungekho nto ithetha nomntu ebusweni babo, okanye umthandayo. ephezulu (75%) kulabo babonise ukuba babejolise ekunyanzeleni ngentsapho yothandwa ... Bafumanisa ukuba ukunyanzelisa kwakunokwenzeka ukuba kusetyenziswe ngamadoda njengabesifazana, kwaye isetyenziswe ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuphelisa ukuziphatha komlingane kunokuba ubenze. "
Umthombo: Kipling D. Williams PhD. I-Ostracism: I-Power of Silence. 2002. iphe. 9-10.
UGregory L. Jantz, u-Ann McMurray: "Ukuthula, ukulahleka kobudlelwane bezityholo, kuthetha ukuxhomekeka komntu omnye, ohlala ehamba ngokukhawuleza ukuzama ukubuyisana kunye nomxhaphazi. ngokuchanekileyo yintoni umxhaphazi ofuna ngayo, kunye nendlela yokuvutha komsindo wakhe komnye umntu. Ngokungagqithisi ngomlomo loo ngqumbo, ngokuthi 'ugweme' ukubonisa umsindo, umxhaphazi uvunyelwe ukuba uzive ngathi umntu oyedwa ophosakeleyo ngento ephosakeleyo ebonwa ngumxhaphazi. Ukuba umntu ochaphazelekayo uphendula ngokunyaniseka ngomsindo, umxhaphazi uqinisekiswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. "
Umthombo: uGregory L. Jantz, PhD, uAnn McMurray. Ukuphilisa iisongo zokuxhaphazwa ngokomzwelo. 2009. iphe. 78.
UWalter B. Roberts: "Ukunyangwa okuthe xaxa kusetyenziswa ukulawula imeko ngenxa yokungabi nampendulo." Xa bengenzi nto, abanye kufuneka benze yonke imisebenzi. Bagcina isikhundla sokuphakamisa ngokungabi neyakhe inxalenye yesicwangciso -kuba sibavumela ukuba bahambe nayo ... Iqhinga lihlala lihlala ligcina iSicent Treatments libandakanyeka kwaye mhlawumbi libonelela ngokunyaniseka okuncinci ukuze baphendule , njengendlela yokunyusa inxaxheba. "
Umthombo: UWalter B. Roberts Jr. Ukusebenzisana Nabantwana Bokuxhatshazwa Namaxhoba. 2008. iphe. 75.
USharon Anthony Bower, uGordon H. Bower: "Indlela efanelekileyo yokulwa nokunyaniseka kukuqinisekisa amalungelo akho uze ucele iqabane lokuthetha."
Umthombo: Sharon Anthony Bower, uGordon H. Bower. Ukuqinisekisa Ukuzimela Kwakho: Isikhokelo esiSebenzayo seNguqulelo entle. 1991. iphe. 121.