Unokufumana njani ugqirha ofanelekileyo wengxaki yomntu ongenamida
Ukuba ujamelana nokugula kwengqondo njengengxaki yomda we-borderline (BPD), ukufumana umphathiswa ofanelekileyo kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho nentlalo. Akuyiyo yonke i-psychologist inokukwazi ukunyanga i-BPD kwaye unganakucoca kunye nomboneleli wokuqala wezempilo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqhubeke ukhangela umntu ofanelekileyo olwabelana ngeenjongo zakho zonyango, njengoko uza kuchitha ixesha elininzi naloo mntu.
Iimpawu zokuBheka kwi-Therapist
Xa ufuna i-rightrapist, ezi ziimpawu ezimbalwa ukugcina engqondweni:
- Ukumiselwa
Ukuba wenza uphando lwe-intanethi ngokukhawuleza kubagqirha, kukho izigidi zeziphumo. Abanye balabo bantu ngabaqeqeshi bokuphila okanye abacebisi beengcali kodwa abanalo imfundo yezokwelapha okanye izatifikethi zobungcali ukuba baphathe iziphazamiso ezifana nomngcipheko wobuntu. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe ugqirha onikwe ilayisenisi ukuzimela ngokuzimela, ngoko khangela izihloko emva kwegama lomntu njengeLCPC, LPCC, LSCW, LISW, PhD okanye MD. Iingcali eziphathekayo zeengqondo kunye nabagula ngengqondo zichazela iziqinisekiso zabo ngaphambili. Khangela ugqirha oqeqeshwe kwi-"- thrapial-treatment " enolwazi oluthile lwamachiza. Nangona kuphela i-MD enelayisenisi inokunikezela ngamachiza, ikliniki eqinisekisiweyo inokwazi ukuchonga imfuno yokwenza unyango kwaye unokukuthumela ugqirha ofanelekileyo ukuba kuyimfuneko.
- Ukuqinisekisa
Ngelixa usenokuba nexhala lokutyelela kwakho kokuqala okanye ezimbini, ugqirha wakho akufanele ukwenze uve ukoyika okanye usongele. Kunoko, kufuneka banikeze ngendawo ekhuthazayo, ekukhuliseni apho unako ukuphumla. Iingcali akufanele zibe negunya okanye zihlazise, kodwa zibandakanye kwaye zikhuthaze. Ngelixa usenokuthetha ngezifundo ezingakhawulezileyo ngeeseshoni ezithile, kufuneka uhlale uvakalelwa kwaye wamukelwa kunokuba uzihlazise okanye ugwetywa.
- Zi lungiswe
Nangona ezininzi zeengqondo zineendlela ezizithandayo zonyango, abaphilileyo bezempilo bayazi ukuba bonke abaxhasi baneemfuno ezahlukileyo.Ugqirha akafanele azame ukulungelelanisa umxhasi kumgca wakhe wokufunda. Umcebisi omhle usebenza ukufumanisa oko kusebenza kumntu ngamnye kunye nabaxhasi beeseshoni kuloo mntu.
- Ocebileyo
Ukuba uqala nje ukululekwa, unokhathazeka ngokusebenza kwilliniki yakho ngaphandle kweeseshoni zakho. Ngexa kwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke, ogqirha olungileyo uya kuqonda ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba uya ku-Starbucks. Kufuneka agcine imfihlo yakho kunye nobumfihlo njengento ebalulekileyo kwaye anike ulwazi oluthe ngqo malunga noko ungalindela kwezi meko. Kubalulekile ukuba ungapheli ukuziva ungonwabi ngenxa yentlanganiso ehambelanayo.
- Ingqondo evulekile
Abanye abaphengululi baya kuba yimpangoon-hole wena kunye neziphatho zakho ngokuxilongwa kwakho , kunokukujonga ukuba ungubani umntu oyingqayizivele. Nangona xa ujongene nomngcipheko wobuntu, ufuna ukuba ugqirha ukuvumela ukuba ube ngabanye kwaye ungacingi ukuba bayazi yonke into ngawe.
- Ezifanelekileyo
Nangona uphando kufuneka luguquke kwaye lufikeleleke, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale egcina imida efanelekileyo kuyo yonke iklayenti. Akufanele kubekho imibhozo yesini okanye i-innuendos, akukho zinikwe zoshishino kwaye akukho tshintelo olwenza ukuba uzive ungakhululekile.
- Ukuthobela
Ingcali yakho kufuneka ivulekele ingxelo yakho malunga neyeza kunye nendlela oqonda ngayo inkqubela phambili oyenzile. Ulwaphulo lunokuba lunzima ngamaxesha kwaye unokukhungathekiswa yinkqubo yonke. Ngokuthetha ngale miba kunye nomcebisi wakho, unokufumana ingcamango engcono yendlela oyenzayo kunye nawaphi amanqanaba alandelayo aya kuba.
Ngaphantsi
Ngokukhangela umgqirha ngeempawu, unokuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bokunyanga obunemveliso obuza kukunika uncedo, unonophelo kunye nenkqubela oyifunayo. Ngokuthembela kunye nencoko evulekile, unokwenza inkqubela ephambili kunyango lwakho.