Abanye Abanenkxalabo Yezenhlalakahle Baxhomekeke kwiNxibelelwano enobudlova ukuZityhila
Unxibelelwano olubuhlungu lunendlela yokubonakalisa iimfuno kunye neminqweno engenayo ukuphendula i-intlalo yabanye. Isalathisi esinxibelelwano esinobungozi, unxibelelwano olunobundlobongela lunokubangela ukonakalisa ukhathazeka kweentlalo ngokwenza abanye bakubone ngenyameko. Ngaloo ndlela, oku kunokunciphisa ukuzithemba kwakho njengoko ukhathazeke ukuba ugwetywa kakubi ngabo bajikelezayo.
Ukuba unenkxalabo yentlalo , usenokuba uzixinzelele iimfuno zakho ixesha elide uze ugqibe ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza. Ukufunda indlela yokubambisana kuya kukunceda ukuphatha kakuhle iimvakalelo zakho ukuze bangafikeli kwindawo yokubilisa.
Uluphi uNxibelelwano oluxhasayo?
Ngethuba loqhagamshelwano olugwenxa, uyazimela ngendlela engafanelekanga kwaye ingaphula amalungelo abanye. Unokufumanisa ukuba abantu babonakala bephelile, bexakekile okanye banxinxisiwe emva kokuthetha nawe xa usesikweni. Abanye abantu baqinisekisa ukuphakama kwabo ngobudlelwane obushushu ngokubeka abanye phantsi.
Iimpawu zomlomo zoqhagamshelwano olunoburhamente zibandakanya ukukhawuleza, ilizwi elibi kunye nokunciphisa iingxelo ezinje
- "Unokucinga njani ukuba loo nto yayiyinto efanelekileyo?" okanye
- "Ungabi sisisiphukuphuku."
Iintetho ezingabonakaliyo zonxibelelwano ezinobundlobongela ziquka
- ukungena kwisithuba somntu
- imitshato enobudlova efana nokukhomba okanye ukuxhoma
- ukunyelisa nokubetha
Nangona uxhulumaniso oluxhasayo lunenjongo yokudibanisa iimfuno okanye abanye kunye nawe ngokwakho, inxibelelwano enobudlova ayinalo injongo ngaphandle kokuvusa uxinzelelo kunye nokulimaza abanye. Xa uthetha ngale ndlela, awufumani isisombululo-kunoko uvumela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibe ngcono kuwe.
Kutheni kuNxibelelwano oluThusayo?
Ngomzuzu, unxibelelwano olushushu lunokuziva lunelisekile kakhulu, ngakumbi xa unenkxalabo yentlalo kwaye usetyenziselwa ukungathethi. Unokufumana indlela yakho ngokuxhaphaza abanye kwaye inokunika amandla okulawula kunye nokulawula. Ukuba unaloo mpendulo ebomini bakho, unokuba ngumlutha kuyo ngokuthetha ngokukhawuleza.
Nangona kunjalo, unxibelelwano olunobundlobongela lunokubangela ukuphuhliswa kweentshaba kunye nolwalamano oluhle kunye nabathandekayo. Emva kokulimaza umntu okhathalelayo, unokuziva uhlazo okanye unetyala. Oku kunokukunqanda izakhono zentlalo kunye nokwenza iimeko zentlalo kwixesha elizayo kunzima kakhulu kuwe. Ngale ndlela, ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kuba ngumjikelo onobuqhetseba ongeke ubaleke kuwo.
Iyiphi indlela engcono yokuthetha?
Kunokuba baxhomekeke kwingqumbo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwengxolo, abantu abaninzi abanenkxalabo yentlalo banokufumana inzuzo yokufunda izakhono zokunxibelelana .
Ngoxinano oluxhasayo, udlulisela iimfuno zakho ngokusobala nangokunyanisekileyo, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa iimfuno zabanye. Esikhundleni sethoni ekhuni kunye nemisindo enobudlova, iimpawu zomlomo zoqhagamshelwano oluxhasayo ziquka
- itekisi eqinile kodwa ekhululekile
- ukusetyenziswa kweengxelo ze "I" ezifana nokuthi, "Ndabuhlungu xa ungandigcinanga."
Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo luyahlonela indawo kunye kwaye alubandakanyi ukugcoba okanye ukwesatshiswa. Ufuna ukuba abanye baqonde iimfuno zakho ukuze bakwazi ukudibana, kunye nokufunda iimfuno zabanye, ukuze uncede kwakhona.
Ngexesha loxinano oluxhasayo, uphulaphula ngentlonelo ukuva omnye umntu. Xa uzinzela ngokwakho ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye kwinkqubo, ngakumbi ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kukhula. Ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwintlalo, kuyavakala ukuba uvumele umsindo. Kodwa ngokuthetha ngokubambisana, ulungisa izinto ngokuzolileyo ngethuba ukuze intukuthelo ingahlali.
ILizwi
Ukufunda ukuqhubela phambili kumnxibelelwano onobudlova ukuya kunxibelelwano oluxhasayo kunokuba yinkqubo enzima. Abaninzi abanenkxalabo yentlalo bafumanisa ukuba unogqirha onobuchule onamava ekukhathazeka ngokuxhalabisa unokuba luncedo olukhulu.
Umboneleli wakho wezempilo unokukunceda uqonde imeko apho uthembela khona ekutshutsheni kwaye kuya kukunceda uhlakulele izicwangciso zokulwa nomnqweno wokuphendula ngobundlobongela. Ngokubambisana, uya kusebenza ekuphuhliseni izakhono zokunxibelelana ezixhasayo kwaye uya kuqhuba iimeko ezahlukeneyo ngoko ulungele ukuphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kuba nokuziqinisekisa ngokuthe tye kodwa ngokufanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye ngokunyanzela okanye ukwesatshiswa. Le nto ingaba yinyathelo eliphambili kwicebo lakho loxinzelelo loluntu.
Imithombo:
I-Paterson, R. T Incwadi yokuSebenza yokuQinisekisa: Indlela yokubonakalisa iingcamango zakho kwaye uzimelele emsebenzini kunye nobudlelwane, ngo- 2000.
> Yunivesithi yaseKentucky. Iindlela ezine eziSiseko zoNxibelelwano .
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