Ukuzithemba yixesha elibhekisela kwindlela esicinga ngayo ngathi. Ukuba unengxaki yomntu ongenamkhawulo (BPD), unokuba nolwaphulo lokuzithemba okungekho nto enokuchaphazela ubomi bakho.
Ukuzithemba okunamandla kukunceda uhlale unethemba, uqinile kwaye uqhagamshelane nabanye abantu. Kodwa ukuba unayo i-BPD, ukuziva unamandla kwaye ukhonza kungenqabile. Kunoko, unokuba uzive ungenakukwazi okanye ungenanto.
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Ukuzithemba okungekho nto kungabangela inkoliso yabaninzi, kungekhona nje abo baneBPD. Ukuba umntu akanakuziva ngaye, akakwazi ukuthemba okanye ukuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zakhe okanye amava. Oku kuya kumbala bonke ubudlelwane bakhe kunye nokusebenzisana nabanye, kunye nokuchaphazela kakubi impilo yakhe yengqondo kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Kwabo abane-BPD, oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuzithemba kunokuchaphazela kakhulu imiba ngomsindo , iinjongo zobuqu kunye nobudlelwane .
Xa ulwa ne-BPD, ukuzithemba okungafanelekanga kunokunyusa ingqumbo onokuyenza. Imiba eyahlukeneyo ingagcinwa kwaye ihlale ingaphendululwa, ihlala ikhutshwe. Ukuzithemba okungekho nto kunokubangela ukuba ungazivumeli okanye ungaphumeleli kwiimvakalelo zakho. Ukusebenzisana nabanye kudinga amandla okuthemba ithemba lakho ngabanye kunye neemeko.
Ngenxa yokuzithoba, unganakho ukufaka iingcamango zakho okanye iimvakalelo ngaphandle komsindo.
Ukuzithemba okungekho nto kungenza kube nzima ukuphumeza iinjongo zobuqu. Ukuba umntu engacingi ukuba ufanele ukufumana okanye ukufezekisa into ethile, unokuyenza njani ngempumelelo?
Ngokomzekelo, unokuba nobunzima ekwenzeni nasekumiseni ubuhlobo ngenxa yokuba uluvo oluphantsi lwakho lukunciphisa.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokunokukwenza uxolise kwabanye. Unokucinga ukuba umhlobo ufuna okuthile kuwe okanye akayi kukuthanda ukuba ngaba bayazi wena. Ukuzigcina ebomini bakho, unokuphepha ukuthetha ngemicimbi uze ikhule ibe ngumsindo, ibangele ukuba utyhoxe abathandekayo bakho.
Into enye ukuzithemba kukukwenza ukuba ubeke iinjongo kwaye usebenzele ukufikelela kuzo. Ungeke uzive ufanelekile izinto ezifana nobudlelwane, injabulo kunye nempumelelo. Ukuzithemba yinto ekunika uvakalelo.
Indlela yokusingatha ukuzithoba okuphantsi
Ukuba ukuzithoba kweyona nto ulwa nayo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba awodwa. Lo ngumcimbi oqhelekileyo abantu abaninzi, kuquka abo bangenayo i-BPD, amava.
Ukuba awukho, qela ugqirha oza kugxininisa kwi-disorder personality personality. Abagqirha abanemvelaphi kwi- BPD baqhelana nemiba eqhelekileyo enokujamelana nayo, njengento yokuzithoba okanye ukwesaba ukulahlelwa.
Umboneleli wakho wezempilo unokuncoma unyango lweendlela zokuziphatha okanye ulwaphulo lokuziphatha oluxilisayo ukuze uncede ukulawula iimpawu zakho. Ukugxila ngokukhawuleza kuya kubakho ekujonganeni nokuzithemba kwakho.
Ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezithile, uya kusebenzisana ukuze uqaphele amandla akho kunye nezinto ezifezekileyo ukuze uqonde ukufaneleka kwakho kunye nexabiso. Ngokudibanisa unyango kunye nosenokuba ngamachiza, unokuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uphile ubomi obucebileyo.
Umthombo:
UHedrick, A., eBerlin, H. "Ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kuMntu oPhezulu lweMida kunye neengxaki zokuLawula abantu". Umda weeNzululwazi , 2012.