Ukuzikhupha kubandakanya ukubandakanya ukuziphatha okuchitha amathuba akho okuphumelela. Kutheni abantu benokuyenza izinto ezinokubenza bahluleke? Sonke sifuna ukuziva kakuhle ngathi, kodwa abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha siya kuhlawulela amathuba ethu okuphumelela ukwenzela ukuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva lokusilela kwethu.
Xa ubhekane novavanyo olubalulekileyo, umzekelo, abafundi bangahlala ubusuku bonke ukuphepha ukufunda.
Emva koko xa besenza kakubi, banokugxeka amanqaku abo abahluphekileyo kubahlobo babo ngokuzigcina bephuzile kunokuba bafumane ukungabikho kwengqondo.
Ukubeka nje, ukuzikhubaza kukuvumela abantu ukuba bafumane umthombo ongaphandle wokusola ukungaphumeleli. Nangona le nto ingaba isicwangciso esilungileyo sokukhusela ukuzithemba, sinokuqonda ukuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu kwimpumelelo.
Masiqwalasele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni ukuzilimaza kwenzeke kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho zale ndlela.
Kutheni Abantu Abantu Abanokukhubazeka?
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafumanisa ukuba sonke sinesidingo esinamandla sokugxeka ukungaphumeleli kwimiba engaphandle xa sithatha iitaliti zethu kwiimpumelelo zethu. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ikhusela ukuzithemba kwethu, kodwa ingasenza senze izinto ezenza senzeke kangako ukuba siphumelele.
Olu tyekelo luyaziwa ngokuba yi-self-handicaping, oluchazwe njengesenzo sokuziphendulela okanye ukukhetha okuthintela abantu ukuba bathathe uxanduva lwabo kwiziphumo.
Okubalulekileyo, abantu bayakha izithintelo ukwenzela ukuba nayiphi na ihlulo ezingenako ukutshatyalaliswa kwezi zinto. Ukungaphumeleli kunokukhokelela ekubeni abantu bayaqonda ukuba ukungazinzi kwabo okanye ukulungiswa kwabangelwa kwisiphumo. Ngokuzibandakanya kwizenzo ezonakalisa impumelelo engenzeka, abantu bayakuphepha ukujamelana nenyaniso baze bamkele ukungaphumeleli kwabo.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzikhubaza. Ngamanye amaxesha lo mkhuba ungabulungile, kodwa kwezinye iimeko, kunokuba lukhulu kakhulu. Kwezinye iimeko, kunokushukumisa abantu ukuba bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi.
Ngokomzekelo, abafundi banokuziqhelanisa emsebenzini wabo wesikolo okanye bayeke ukufundisisa kude kube ngumzuzu wokugqibela. Abadlali bebhola bangaqhekeza ukwenza okanye bahlale emva kobusuku ngaphambi komdlalo omkhulu. Kwezinye iimeko, abantu banokubandakanyeka kwiindlela ezinobungozi zokuzilimaza ezifana nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye notywala.
Abaphandi bacebise ukuba ukuzikhusela kunokuxhunywa kwinto eyaziwa ngokuba yi- self-servicing , apho abantu babanga i-credit card yabo kwimpumelelo kodwa bawagxeka imikhosi yangaphandle ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwabo.
Khawucinge, umzekelo, ukuba ulungele ukukhuphisana kwi-marathon yakho yokuqala. Ulandele iishedyuli yoqeqesho kwaye udla ukutya okunempilo, kodwa njengoko umhla wokuzabalalisa usondela, ufumana ukungaqiniseki ukuba unako ukufikelela ngempumelelo kumgca wokugqibela.
Kwiiveki kunye neentsuku ezikhokelela ekuqhumeni olukhulu, ufumanisa ukuba usuqa iseshoni zakho zoqeqesho kwaye utywala ukutya ukutya okungenamsoco. Xa umhla ekugqibeleni ufika ukhuphiswano kwi-marathon, uziva uziva ucebile kwaye ungaphandle kobunzima.
Njengomphumo walezi ziphathamandla zokuzikhubaza, unako ukubeka uxanduva lwakho lokugqiba ukuphumeza umncintiswano ngenxa yokuba ungabonakali okanye uzikhubekile kunokuba ungakwazi ukukwazi.
Uphando nge-Self-Handicapping
Olu qalisa luchazwe ngabaphandi uStephen Berglas noEdward Jones kwisifundo se-1978 esabandakanyeka ngokukhawuleza abafundi ukuba bazalise ii-anagrams, ezinye zazo ezazisungulwa kwaye ezinye zazo zazingekho.
Emva koko, bonke abafundi babetshelwe ukuba benze kakuhle. Le ngxelo yayicacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye idideka kubabathathi-nxaxheba abaye banikwe ii-anagrams ezingenakulinganiswa.
Baxelelwa ukuba benza kakuhle, kodwa babengazi ukuba njani okanye kutheni banako.
UDkt. Berglas wachaza i-New York Times ngo-2009 wathi: "Aba bantu baxelelwa ukuba banobuqilima, bengayazi ukuba loo nto ingenayo."
Amavolontiya abuzwa ukuba ngaba bafuna ukuthatha isistim sokuphucula ukusebenza okanye ukukhubaza ukusebenza ngaphambi kokuba bathathe olunye uvavanyo. Kwabathathi-nxaxheba, i-70% yee-anagrams ezingenakulinganiswa zikhethile ukuthatha isistim sokuvimbela ukusebenza, xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ezingama-13 kuphela zalabo banikwe i-anagrams enokuthambisa.
Kutheni abanye bekhetha idiza eyenzelwe ukuphazamisa ukusebenza kwabo kuvavanyo? Ezi ziphumo zibonisa ukuba xa abantu beqinisekile ukukwazi ukwenza umsebenzi, banokukhetha ukunika into eya kubanceda ukuba benze ngcono. Kodwa abo abangaqiniseki ngamakhono abo, banokuthi bafune isixhobo esiza kubangalisa ukusebenza kwabo, ngaloo ndlela banikeze umthombo wangaphandle wokubeka ityala lokungaphumeleli kwabo.
I ziphumo
Injongo yalo lonke i-self-sabotage kukukhusela i- ego kunye nokuzithemba, kwaye iingcali zifumene ukuba ziyasebenza. Abantu abaneentlonelo eziphakamileyo baye baboniswa ukuba bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni kwabakhubazekile. Kubantu abaninzi, ezi ziphatha zenzeke ngokuzenzekelayo . Siza nezizathu zokungaphumeleli ngaphambi kokuba sizame, kodwa sisoloko senza njalo.
Nangona ukuzinyameka kunokuhamba ixesha elide ekukhuseleni ukuzithemba kwethu, kunokukwazi nokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu. Ukuba ubeka imingcipheko kwimpumelelo kwindlela yakho, akukho ndlela uzinikela ngayo wonke amathuba okumele ufezekise iinjongo zakho. Akunjalo kuphela, ngokuphazamisa amathuba akho, ngokunciphisa ukukulindela kwakho ngoku kunye nakwixesha elizayo.
Umphandi uSean McCrea uye wafumanisa ukuba ukuzikhusela kungakhokelela ekukhuthazeni okuncinci kunye nokunciphisa ngaphantsi ukuzama ukuphumelela kwikamva. Kwisiqendu sezilingo, wenza iinqanaba zabafundi kwiimvavanyo ze- IQ . Abanye abathathi-nxaxheba banikwe ukhetho lokulungiselela ukufumana uvavanyo okanye ukujoyina "akukho qhinga" iqela. Abo bafumana amanqaku amaninzi bekunokuthi bangaligxina ukungabikho kokusebenza kwabo, kodwa uMcCrae wafumanisa kwakhona kwiimvavanyo zokuba abo babenesizathu sokufumana amanqaku abo aphantsi (oko kukuthi, iziphazamiso, ukungabikho kokulungiselela, njl. ukuvavanya kwexesha elizayo kunabo abangenayo imvelaphi yangaphandle yokugxeka.
"Ukukhubazeka kwabakho ukuba bathi, 'Zonke izinto ziqwalaselwe, ndenza kahle,'" uMcCrea watshela uBenedict Carey ukubhala kwiNew York Times. "Akunakho idrayivu yokuphucula."
Imiphumo emibi kakhulu yokuzikhubaza:
- Abafundi ababandakanyeka kwi-self-handicap report bachitha ixesha elingaphantsi kweveki befunda.
- Abazibonelela ngokuzenzekelayo nabo banamabanga amanqanaba aphantsi.
- Kwakhona banokuthi basebenzise utshwala ngaphambi kokuba benze umsebenzi.
- Kubuhlungu ubuhlobo boluntu. Abazisebenzisi bezixhobo bazibonakalisa benesizathu sokubamba, ngenxa yoko bavame ukubhekwa njenge "whiners." Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba abazisebenzisayo bazilinganiswa ngakumbi ngabaontanga babo.
Ukuzikhusela kunokukhusela i-ego, kodwa kuza neendleko ezibalulekileyo. Ukubeka izithintelo kwimpumelelo kunokubonelela ngezizathu zokungaphumeleli, kodwa kusenza sikwazi ukuhluleka. Ngaba uziva ulungile ngoku okanye ngaba unika konke okusemandleni akho kunye nokuphelelwa komngcipheko? Uphando lubonisa ukuba nangona ukuzithemba kwakho kungathatha ukutshatyalaliswa kwesikhashana, ukuyeka ukuziphatha okukhubazayo kungcono ukuba uphumelele kwixesha elizayo.
> Imithombo:
> Baumeister, RF, & Bushman, BJ (2008). I-Psychology & Social Nature. EUnited States: Thomson Wadsworth.
> McCrea, SM (2008). Ukuzikhubaza, ukuzithethelela, kunye nokucinga okuphikisanayo: Iziphumo zokuzithemba kunye nexesha elizayo. Umbhalo woBuntu kunye neNzululwazi yeNtlalo, 95 (2), 274-292.
> Tice, DM, & Baumeister, RF (2006). Ukuzithemba, ukuzimela, kunye nokuzimela: Isicwangciso sokulungiselela ngokwaneleyo. Umbhalo woBuntu, 58 (2), 443-464.