Unxibelelwano olukhulu lukhokelela kwisondo esikhulu!
Nangona ezininzi iingcali zikholelwa ukuba ininzi yemitshato namhlanje ixinzelelekile ngenxa yezizathu zezimali, iingxaki zesini kunye nobulili ziphezulu kakhulu. Enyanisweni, isihloko sokwabelana ngesondo yinkalo enye exoxwa ngayo kwii-forum zoluntu. Kubonakala kulula ukuthetha nomntu ongaqhelekanga kwi-intanethi kunokuba wakho umlingane! Ezi ngxoxo zingavelisa umxholo wokuxhalabisa kuwe kwaye zenze ukuba ugweme ukuba nazo zonke.
Yazi ukuba kukho ezinye izicwangciso zokwenza ezi ntetho zilula kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana umvuzo.
Ixesha Elifanelekileyo Lokuthetha Ngeengxaki Zesondo?
- Musa ukuthetha ngeengxaki zezesondo kwigumbi lakho lokulala okanye ngexesha lokulala. Khetha enye indawo "engathathi hlangothi". Qiniseka ukuba abantwana abangekho kwiindlebe!
- Musa ukuthetha ngesondo emva kokulala ngesondo. Kwakhona, khetha ixesha "elingathathi hlangothi" ngakumbi.
- Ungaziboni umlingane wakho. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngeengxaki zezesondo, vumela iqabane lakho liyazi (ngaphandle kokubeka ityala) ocinga ukuba bobabili kufuneka ube nencoko malunga nolwabelana ngesondo. Yenza ixesha lokuthetha.
Indlela Yokuthetha Ngeengxaki Zesondo
- Yiba "isiqalo esihle" kwingxoxo. Qalisa ngenjongo yakho ukuziva ufuphi kwaye udibene nomlingane wakho. Gwema ukugxeka.
- Ukuba awufuni ukudala iingxaki ezininzi ebomini bakho bobulili, ungathengi naziphi na iincwadi zeengcebiso zesini okanye izinto zokudlala ngesondo ngaphandle kokuxoxa ngolu qabane kunye neqabane lakho kuqala.
- Thetha omnye nomnye malunga nokulindela, ukwesaba, iminqweno yakho, ukukhathazeka kwakho kunye nokunyaniseka! Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ezingaphakathi.
- Ungesabi ukuthetha ngento othanda ngayo ngokwesondo kunye noko ungakuthandiyo. Inqanaba lakho lokuthuthuzela libaluleke kakhulu kubomi bentlalo eyanelisayo.
- Qaphela ukuba kunokufuneka ube neengxoxo ezimbalwa kwaye kungekhona nje ingxoxo enye nje.
- Hlola ngeenkcukacha zakho "iindlela zesondo." Zonke izibini zitshatileyo zinaloo mizobo okanye iimvakalelo ngexesha elithile ngexesha lokutshata kwabo ubomi:
- Ngokomoya: Lo ngumanyano wengqondo, umzimba kunye nomphefumlo obonisa ukuxabisa kwakho ngokubanzi. Ingadalwa ngokukwazisa ixesha elincinane ebomini bakho.
- Ehlekisayo: Le ndlela yilapho uhleka kwaye uhlekisana ngomnye. Kuthe ngokuzonwabisa kunye. Kukho ilula ngaphantsi kwebala.
- Intukuthelo: Oku kwenza uthando nangona usususwe. Le ndlela ingaphilisa. Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba iingxaki zakho ekugqibeleni zikhulunywe ngayo kwaye zichongiwe.
- Ukukhanukela: Eli hlobo lendlela engendawo kunye nobudlelwane. Unokuba unika omnye umboniso okhangela okanye wenza "i-quickie." Oku kukwavuyo ngokulala ngesondo kuphela ngenxa yesondo.
- Ithenda: Le ndlela yothando, isithandana, isondo sokuphilisa okubandakanya ukusilalisa, ukuchukumisa ukukhanya kunye nokukhonza omnye nomnye. Nina bobabini banesifiso sokulala ngesini kwaye nijolise ekunikeleni ukuzonwabisa.
- Ubungqangi: Isitayela sefantasy yintsebenziswano phakathi kobabini kuwe ukuba ube neqhinga kwaye uzame. Qaphela ukuba wabelane ngeengcamango zakho zesini kunye nomnye. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho kunye nomlingane wakho, bobabini kufuneka ubeke izikhokelo kunye nembeko yomnye nomnye.
Kuye kwathiwa "Abathandi abathandekayo benzayo, abazalwanga." Ukuba ngokwenene ufuna ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwezesondo lube lukho konke, kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokuthetha omnye nomnye. Unxibelelwano luyintloko yokwenza ubulili obukhulu. Le ncoko iyimfuneko kuzo zonke izibini-nokuba ngaba usanda kutshata okanye udala, izibini ezitshatileyo. Ubomi bobulili obuphilileyo buyisipho esikhulu nesipho esifanele sithandwe kwaye sikhuliswe. Yiloo nto eyenza umtshato okhethekileyo-ngaphezu kohlobo lwe-platonic.
I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman.