Ukunciphisa iipatheni zokucinga ezimbi
Abantu abanesifo sokuphazamiseka badla ngoxinzelelo. 'Ukuhlawula okulungileyo' luhlobo oluthile lwenkqubo yokucinga engalunganga edla ngokuchaphazela abo abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa . Funda phambili ukuze ufunde indlela yokuyithintela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuqhelekileyo kwintlungu yesifo sengxaki.
Uluhlu Luni?
Ukuhlawula okulungileyo kukubonisa indlela engafanelekanga yokubangela ukungabikho komntu. Eyaziwayo njengeziphazamiso ezicatshulwayo, iipatheni zokucinga ezinjengalezi zinokubangela ukuba uxinzelelo kunye neemeko ezinxulumene noxinzelelo , ezifana nokukhathazeka kweentlalo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki .
Xa umntu ewela ukuphazamiseka kwengcamango yokunciphisa i-positive, bayayigxila kwimpumelelo yabo kwaye bayayihoxisa iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo. Bangayiphika impumelelo yabo, bekholelwa ukuba kwakuyilungu okanye ithuba. Abantu abaphungula iimeko ezinqabileyo abavakalelwa kukuba banesimo esinempilo sokuzikhukhumeza okanye ukwaneliseka.
Uluhlu olungezantsi yimibandela embalwa yokuphuhlisa ezilungileyo kunye nezindlela zokunqoba ukucinga okubi.
Umzekelo
U-Reggie usandul 'uqashelwa emsebenzini kumnikelo wakhe kwenkampani. Wanikezelwa isitifiketi sesipho kunye ne-plaque encinane njengendlela yokubulela kunye nokwazisa kwabasebenza naye. UReggie wazizwa engonwabi ngalo mbhaso waza wenqaba ukubhiyozela kunye nabasebenza naye emva komsebenzi. Waqhekeza ukuqatshelwa, echaza ukuba akazange abe nomuzwa wokuthi wenza into ekhethekileyo ukuba ayifanele. URiggie wafihla iplati yakhe kwidrodi kwaye akazange akhulume ngayo kwintsapho yakhe kunye nabahlobo bakhe.
UKate uye wafumanisa ukuba unesifo esixhalabileyo , imeko ebonakalisa ukuvakalelwa nokukhathazeka rhoqo. Ukususela ekubeni u- Prozac ochazwe ngumgqirha weentsapho zakhe kunye nokuziqhelanisa ngokwakhe, uKate uye waphawula ukuhla kweempawu zakhe eziphazamisayo. Kulo tyelelo lwakhe logqirha ozayo, uKate utshela udokotela wakhe ukuba uye wafumana uxhalabhiso olusenyongweni kwaye uye wakwazi ukuphumla ebusuku. Ugqirha wakhe uyamncoma ukuba athathe amachiza akhe rhoqo kwaye asebenzise iindlela zakhe zokujamelana. UCate akavumelani noko ugqirha wakhe wathetha kwaye uyazisola ngokubhekiselele ekuphuculeni kwakhe. Uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ukuba ngenxa yonyango kwaye uyayigxeka isikhuthazo sakhe.
Rethink it
Ukuzithoba kwakhe kukaReggie kuye kwamgcina ekunandipha ibhaso lakhe. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukukhanyela ukuhlonishwa kwakhe, uReggie wayenokubonisa ukubonga ngayo. Wayenokucinga ngendlela endiyithande ngayo ngabalingani bakhe ukuba bamfumene i-plaque kwaye bababonge ngokuthobeka. U-Reggie unokufuna ukuzama ukucinga kwakhona ngesimo sakhe kwaye uqaphele ukuba wenza umsebenzi ogqityiweyo ogqityiweyo.
UKate akazange akwazi ukuqonda indlela umsebenzi wakhe onzima owenzele ngayo ukuphucula kwakhe. Wayekhubaza iimpawu zakhe ezilungileyo kunye nempumelelo yakhe, njengendlela aphumeze ngayo ngokuphumelelayo iindlela zakhe zokujamelana . UKate wayenokwamkela ukuqhubela phambili okwenzileyo ekubuyiseni kwakhe kwaye wambulela ugqirha ngokumncoma ukuqhubela phambili kwiinjongo zakhe zonyango.
Ukuziva ukuziqhenya ngokufezekisa kwethu akufani nokuzikhukhumeza. Sonke sinetalente ezikhethekileyo kwaye sifanele sijongwe kwimpumelelo yethu. Ngexesha elizayo xa umntu eyancoma ngezinto zakho okanye iimpumelelo, vumela ukuba uzive unombulelo kwaye umbulele umntu ngokuqaphela kwakhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kuqala ukuba nombono olinganiselayo, ukuqonda ukuba unempawu ezininzi ezintle.
Imithombo:
Ukushisa, iDD " Ukuva Okulungileyo: Ulwaphulo olutsha lweMode ," iAvon Books: eNew York, ngo-2008.
Ukushisa, iDD " Xa i-Panic ihlasela: I-New-Free-Free Free-Concerned Therapy Okusenokutshintsha Ubomi Bakho" I- Broadway Books: New York, 2006.