Abanye abantu abaneengxaki zentlalo (SAD) banengcamango: "Ndiyathanda ukuba ndibe ngabonwa."
Ngaba uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela? Uninzi lwabantu abane-SAD bazama ukuzibonakalisa bengabonakali. Abathethi ngoko ke abayi kubeka ingqalelo kubo. Bajonga phantsi ukwenzela ukuba bangaboni. Baye baphephe iimeko ukuze bangabi nazo abantu.
Nangona umnqweno wokuba ungabonakali mhlawumbi uyomelele, ngaba loo nto ingayisombulula yonke into?
Yintoni oya kulahlekelwa kukuba ungabonakali?
- Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba ulapho.
- Ngeke ube nethuba lokwenza ubuhlobo kunye nobudlelwano.
- Zonke iimfuno zakho, iimfuno kunye neminqweno iya kuhoywa.
- Iimbono zakho azize zive.
- Abantu babeza kulahleka ekukuzini.
Ukuba u-SAD, mhlawumbi sele ungabonakali, kwaye ezi zinto sele zinyani.
Yintoni eyahlukileyo yokuba ingabonakali? Kubonwa? Ndiva? Ngaba unokusingatha loo nto?
Mhlawumbi kungekudala, ukuba ungabonakali ixesha elide. Kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ngokukhawuleza, unako ukuyeka ukungabonakali kunye nobuso bakho.
Ingaba ucinga ntoni? Ngaba uya kuhlala ungabonakali okanye ufuna enye?
Uphando malunga nokungabonakali
Olunye uphando oluthambileyo, abaphandi basebenzisa inyaniso yokwenene ukuvavanya umphumo wokubona umzimba wakho ungabonakali. Oko bakufumeneyo kwakunomdla-iimpendulo ezixhalabileyo ekuhlaleni phambi kwabaphulaphuli zancitshiswa xa lowo uthatha inxaxheba ebona ukuba umzimba wabo awubonakali.
Ababhali bolu cwaningo bacebisa ukuba ukuqalisa ukunyanga kwenene ngonyango kunye nomzimba ongabonakali kunokuvumela abo abanenkinga yokuxhalaba kwintlalo ukuba banqobe ngokukhawuleza ukwesaba kwabo.
Ngaphandle kwalolu hlelo lokusebenza kunyango, le nto isifundo esinokusixelela? Khawucinge ngomzuzwana ukuba wawumi phambi kwabaphulaphuli kodwa ubungabonakali.
Ingaba intliziyo yakho yayiya kubaleka? Ngaba unokuziva utyhafile kwaye utyhafile? Ingaba uloyiko lwakho luxhomekeke kubaphulaphuli abakubonayo, okanye ngaba kukho nje ngenxa yokubona abaphulaphuli?
Ngokusekelwe kwiziphumo ezivela kulolu cwaningo, sinokugqiba ukuba akukhona nje ukuvela kwabaphulaphuli, kodwa ingcinga yokuba bajonge kuwe ebangela uxinzelelo. Enyanisweni, siyazi ukuba abo abane-SAD bavame ukufumana " impembelelo yembonakalo ," apho ucinga ukuba onke amehlo aphezu kwakho, nangona xa engekho.
Okungabonakaliyo Kunokuba Ucinga
Nangona ungeke ukwazi ukuthobela imeko yangempela ebomini bakho ukuba usebenzise ukungabonakali, unokwenza ukuba uzame ukuzama ukuvavanya ngokucacileyo ukuba abanye abantu bayayiqaphela ntoni okwenzayo. Ngamanye amagama, yenza izinto ezingenangqondo ngenjongo yokubona indlela oyifumene ngayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukufumanisa ngakumbi, unyango lwe-exposure luyindlela esetyenziswa ngabagqirha njengenxalenye yecrnitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). Ngokucacileyo, kuqulethe nje-ukujongene nokwesaba kwakho ngokuthe ngcembe nokufunda ukuba unakho kwiimeko ezikukhathazayo. Ekugqibeleni, uxhalaba lwakho luya kuphazamiseka xa uhlala ixesha elide.
Nangona unyango lwezonyango luvame ukuqhutyelwa ngululwazi , luyakwenziwa ngokwakho njengento yokuzinceda.
Ngezantsi uzakufumana iindidi ze "ndlela-to" zokukhokela malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa unyango olusondeleyo.
Umthombo:
Guterstam A, Abdulkarim Z, Ehrsson HH. Ubunini obungabonakaliyo bomzimba ongabonakali kunciphisa iimpendulo ezizimeleyo zokuzixhalabisa. Iingxelo zeScientific 2015; 5: 9831.