U-Anon usindise iMitshato eninzi yokuNxila, kodwa ayikho yonke into
Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiintlanganiso ze-Al-Anon Family Family ziye zasindisa imitshato eninzi yotywala . Xa abantu abatshatileyo bejoyina u-Al-Anon kunye nokusebenza kwenkqubo, ngamanye amaxesha bahlakulela izakhono zokuziphatha ezibavumela ukuba "bafumane ukwaneliseka kwaye banonwaba nokuba utywala useyaphuza okanye cha." Kodwa, ayisoloko isebenza ngaloo ndlela, kuba ngamanye amaxesha bayifumana isibindi sokutshintsha.
Ndaqhawula abakwa-deux alcoholics .
Kwada emva kokuba nditshatile kweso sesibini, ndasebenza kwi-Al-Anon kwaye ndafumana inzuzo kwiinkqubo zonyango zentsapho, ngaba ndafunda iimpawu zokusela utywala kwaye ndaqonda ukuba indoda yangaphambili yayiselunxila.
Ngethuba leminyaka yokubandakanyeka kwam ku-Al-Anon , isigidimi endandiva - ngokuchanekileyo okanye ngokungachanekiyo-kwaye into endiyifunayo kwi-ODAT yasekuqaleni (Ngenye imini Ngethuba) yaphakamisa ukuba kwakukho ubungqina obuqinileyo bokutshatyalaliswa komtshato wam kuguqulwa ukuba ndiza kutshintsha.
Ukwenza Ingqiqo Yemiyalezo Engqubuzanayo
Ngokukodwa, iphepha likaDisemba 30 elikhankanywe kwizinto eziphantsi kwe "Divorce" lathi: "Ukuba ndifuna ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu oluchaphazela abanye ubomi ngokunjalo, makhe ndiqale ndiqwalasele isiphumo esinokwenzeka. Iimpazamo? Ngaba kukho indlela yokuba ndiphucule isimo sam sengqondo? Ndiya kuvumela isigqibo esilungileyo kude ndide ndizame! " Oku kulandelwa yile nqaku: "Isisombululo esilumkileyo ngokwenene sinokuziphucula."
Ngenxa yokuba ndade ndamkele isinyathelo sokuqala sika-Al-Anon, "Sasivuma ukuba sasinamandla ngaphezu kotywala - ukuba ubomi bethu bebengenakuxhatshazwa," ndazifumana ndizama ukucinga ngento ebonakala ngathi iyimiyalezo ephikisanayo.
Ukuza ngokuvumelana neNyaniso
Ndisebenze kanzima ekuzihlanguleni kwam ukuba ndibe ngumxhasi-nxu lumene.
Ndagcina umxhasi wam, ndithetha naye phantse imihla ngemihla, kodwa ndatshintshela kwiqela elithile lekhaya. Ukufunda kwam kwenkomfa ye-Al-Anon kuvunyelwe iincwadi kunye namanqaku kunye neencwadi malunga nokusela utywala.
Ekugqibeleni, ndazibandakanya nale nkolelo:
1. Ndandinamandla ngaphezu kotywala.
2. Ndiyekile ukumisa.
3. Ndiyakwazi ukuma ekhanda lam kwaye ndikhafule ama-nickels kwaye ndingaba niphumo kumsebenzi wobunxila.
4. Utywala akazange abonise ukuba unqwenela ukutshintsha.
5. Ubunxila obonakalayo ngumntu ongenako ukunyaniseka, ubuncinci kubo bonke.
6. Ndiyekile ukuziva kwaye ndiziphatha njengokuba ndixhoba.
7. Ndandinamandla okwemvakalelo yokushiya oko kwakuye kwandipha umtshato.
Ndahamba Ngomtshato
Ndabona kwakhona intsingiselo ebalulekileyo kule nkcazo: "Nantoni na endiyenzayo into echanekileyo kum ichaneke ngokuzenzekelayo kwabo bangqongileyo." Le nkolelo iyinkohlakalo ukuba kukho ukuzingca ngokukhawuleza ngaphakathi kwesizathu.
Ndafaka isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato kwaye ndahamba nomntu onxilisayo owazinikela ngokuzithandela. Kwaye ndihamba kude neminyaka yokuxhatshazwa ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo . Ndahamba kwinto eyenokuba yimpumelelo.
Umtshato ngokwawo wawunamandla phezu kotywala; ezininzi izithako ezintle azikwazi ukujamelana nokunyuka kwamaxabiso okutywala.
- Donna
Qaphela : UDonna Thompson ungumvakalisi weMingeni , apho ebhala khona ikholomu ebonakalayo, Fumana i-Life , ishicilelo kubantu abayifumanayo kunye neentsapho zabo.